students who are scared to ask for help

I'm always concerned about my son who is very quiet. All of his teachers always say that he does not have any problems in class. But I'm concerned that he would be overlooked since teachers would pay more attention to those students who are more vocal.

The problem with these types of sites is the fact that you cannot really hear what the other person has to say. I mean, you read through their posts, but you never know their 'tone' when saying those words. Perhaps the person was in a bad disposition that day and 'felt' like you were accusing or something along that line. I too have come across these sorts of things, miscommunication is frequent in these types of sites and we can't help but be furious or frustrated at someone's assumption of us. I think it was not good for the person to accuse you, neither was it accurate - unless he was assuming you were attacking him or something. Anyhow, I guess it's best if sometimes we just let it go, however, if the person still sticks to the issue and accuses you, I would probably take out my claws too! hehehehe.. Good thing that you have controlled yourself but perhaps you would have allowed or make the person explain what 'crab mentality' was for him/her and how did the conversation go like that. Perhaps he/she is one of those people who just go shouting something that they don't really know anything about. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

I was always one of the people who didn't want to ask for help, and this meant that I struggled through primary school and got lots of things wrong that I would have been able to sort out if I'd just asked for the help in the first place. I think that one of the main things that I was worrying about was the fact that I was nervous about being laughed at by the other children, because I was never one of the most popular children in the school and this just meant that I was having to make up for it in other areas. Raising my hand and saying that I didn't understand something would have made people think I was stupid, and this was something that I just didn't want to happen at all.

Yeah, i am one of those kids.. it's not that i am scared, maybe i am, but i am just not used to it. I do ask help from my friends, but sometimes i am shy too. Even i am annoyed at myself.

I think scared is a good word, especially in the middle grades. Students are so worried about what their peers think that they do not want to raise their hand and ask a question, especially one that they may think their friends will find stupid or portray them as stupid. I would love to have help in the classroom on a daily basis, but the reality is schools cannot afford to pay for the extra staff, and most parents cannot devote a whole day a week to be in and helping, because there are other kids in the family, or both parents have to work to keep a roof over their head and food on the table.

I think that it all depends on the confort level of the student with the teacher. If you make them enough comfortable and interested in your subject then they will ask their doubt without hesitation. It is easy to find out the student who is not getting your point and teacher should also keep the eye on students if they are getting the things or not.

First of all I want to welcome you here in Mylot, kelzbelz. I hope you are finding your visit here enjoyable and if you need any help, please don't hesitate to ask around. Now, with regards to your discussion, I believe that this is a common case in many schools. Students are either shy or scared to ask for help or additional lecture for them because of many reasons and this is actually not a good way of learning. I believe that if there are any unclear subjects on the matter, it should be clarified by the teacher and for the teacher to know about that the students having this problem should address this concern immediately.

Hi,in 2010, i had a part-time job as a college English teacher. But my students were not good at this subject,therefore, they lacked interest in it. However, i usually walked around the class while teaching and try the best to call most of them answer a question, no matter he was a "good" or "bad" student. Although i only taught them for a semeter, they said they loved my class the best. Because they felt they were respected and got the attention. The reason i told my story is want to say teacher really plays an important role in a student's life, in both academic and personal aspects. If we have met this kind of student in a class,teachers should pay more attention. And the family should also communicate with the teachers. Anyhow, there is no bad students, just an unqualitified teacher who fails to teach them in correct way.

It's not what you called "scared" but rather "shy". In fact, before I'm one of those students who are shy to ask question since there are times that my question might be wrong.

Yes,I always had the same view about this.But i am afraid,there aren't too many helpers around, at least in my class.Nobody has time for helping others,especially,if you are 'professional course' student,there will be not much help,offered to you.People view,..even their classmates as potential competitors.I think this mentality should change.

I agree with the other comment, it isn't really scared but shy. Myself being really shy in person I would say it happens because you are worried what the teacher or other students will think about you. You are concerned with "fitting in" that you judge yourself before others even actually judge you.