A man who breaks up thru text..

First of all find out the reason why he has taken such a rude decision. Talk him gently and try to find out which made him to take such a one. May be he finds the relation as a fancy one. If he is a true lover then why can’t he tell this face to face.

If they have been together for 5 years, I'm sure your friend can look for him where he lives and ask for explanation. Who knows what the situation might be and all those questions will be answered. Does she already know his family? I mean, breaking up thru text does sound unfair to your friend for that kind of relationship. Maybe there's more to it. I can say that this man was never really serious about their relationship if he has the heart to hurt your friend that way. If you see him in the street, just ask him straight in the face what actually happened. Observed his behavior. He might have his own personal issues, but if he looks happy, well, that already explains what kind of man he is.

I would say he is a coward. I think he opted the easy way out and for whatever reason that was, that's just wrong. Breaking up is never easy and I don't think he made it easier for the girl that way. He should have at least considered the girl's feelings about this. I mean, for 5 years, the girl at least deserves an explanation and more importantly, respect and what he did, breaking up through a text message is just disrespectful. If this guy was able to do this to a girl in a 5 year relationship, then I say your friend is better off without him in her life. There might be another side to this story but I still believe that is no way to break up. Now, if I happen to know this guy and meet him on the street I would probably tell him everything I have just stated here. I would definitely convince him to do the right thing. Make him see his error.

One of my ex-boyfriends broke up with me in a text message. When I received the message I tried to call him, but he didn't answer the phone. I thought that he handled the situation in a very immature way. I understand that he didn't arrange a face-to-face meeting because we didn't live in the same part of the country, but he could at least have called me and talked to me on the phone. I think that he chose a text message, because it was much easier than talking to me, but I still think it is wrong. Like your friend's relationship it was a serious relationship and we were about to move in together. I understand that your friends feelings. They had been together for 5 years and were talking about marriage, and I think that he should have talked to her in person and explained his decision instead of taking the easy way out. I don't know what I would say if I met him in the street, I would probably be tempted to say something sarcastic, but I would try to control myself and talk to him in a constructive way.

It takes courage to tell the girl in the face that you no longer have feelings for her. I guess that guy is only one of many who would rather disappear without a trace than confront the girl and see the hurt in her eyes. getting dumped always hurts whether you say it in the face or through text. This also happened to some of my colleagues who've been in a relationship for more than a decade and just broke up when the were already having plans of getting married. I guess the guy got cold feet and realized that he's not ready to tie himself yet.

Well, i've been through such experience and let me tell you, its not no fun. In fact, it makes me really angry. If the guys could just be man enough to break up through real life, i may not even be mad at him. I think the guy here mention her is and utter jerk. Yes, it may be scary to break up with someone, but my mother always told me when I was young : face your fear to overcome them ( even though she actually mean kill the cockroach because i fear cockroach, but i think it still applies hahaha.) If i see this kind of men in the street, i would ignore them, no point wasting my saliva and energy.

i think this man is coward and is a bit scared of confrontation. i think your friend would most likely try to confront him with this and that is the reason why he refuses to see her in person. at least no matter how many txt messages she sends him he can just ignore them. tell your friend to get hold of herself and do not give this man the benefit of her time anymore. if he is this coward, she is better off without him anyway.

I think he is not man enough if this is what he do. On the other hand, give him the benefit of the doubt since you don't hear his side yet. There's a reason behind anything and if he have a very valid reason to break up then he should talk to your friend personally. It is very ungentleman to break up via text.

I dont know but its just my guess, I think the guy has a deeper reason why he did because just like you said with all and everything plan for their relationship then in just 1 text everything is all gone. Then something may trigger him to send that text message that even your friend wont tell you.

These type of men are cowards...to share my experience, my ex husband broke up with me through facsimile message. Those days there were no digital phones yet, my cellular phone was the one with antenna and tied up with the telecoms company; internet was not there as well, so, he used the fax machine to break up with me as he was overseas that time. We were not in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, we were legally married.

He's a coward to do it face to face is all. Well atleast that's my opinion. I had a similar experience once (but with a woman doing the dumping via text). In the end it didn't bother me much I simply think of it this way "I'm glad im away from the immaturity now". As for if I'd do anything to him in the 'street'. Can't say I would. Typically men (or women) who are like that aren't worth the hassle of any potential trouble later on. Goodluck to your friend though

Well, if your friend and her boyfriend were planning to get married, then there is no reason he should break with her and that too without an explanation. Did your friend call him and asked him for an explanation? If not, then she should call him. It might be that he played a prank with your friend. And if he was serious about the breakup then your friend should also move on in life. That boy is not worth crying for.

Wow, that was so annoying! A boyfriend of 5 years and would break up with a girl through text! Maybe he didn't have enough courage to say it in face to face but still that is not a valid reason. Your friend deserves a serious talk and for knowing the reasons behind it. If I would see him on the street, I will encourage him to talk personally to his girlfriend. I'm not a fighter so I would just encourage him to do the right thing I don't want to make the problem worst.

if ill see him, ill beat him! joke. Its not a good idea, I maybe sued due to this. But frankly, i Love too do it but i wont. probably I'll talk to him and ask him to explain to your friend why he ended it that easily and what's the reason. That's what I'd do.

I agree with you. This man is a coward since he dares not to explain the reason to break up with his girl friend. I look down upon on him. It is the worst way to break up through a SMS. Especially they have relationship for five years and this is not a short time. He owes her a reason. I still wonder whether this is a mistake. Is it possible that his mobile phone was taken by another admirer? I think your friend should ask him what's wrong in person. I love China

To be honest I would want to walk right by him and say nothing at all. I know this could very well never happen. I might just hit him in the mouth and watch him bleed out of it and then walk away.

Sorry to hear about your friend, i know its so hurt for her to end up just like that. The guy is stupid, come on just break up through text, gosh, silly, he should have meet your friend personally and explain here why he decided to break up their relationship. Then 5 years is so long and just like that. Well, hope your friend will get over soon.....

Hi friend, sad to hear about this, why her bf don't give any proper reason for this break up? he don't have the ability to face her directly, so only he left her using the text message. Suggest your friend to forget about him and concentrate in her job

hi, I think he is a coward, how can he brake up with her with sms...??? I quess he didn't love her, but why they have spoken about wedding...If I see him I will passed.

There must be a reason why the guy broke up with her through text. Other than the reason being that he is a jerk. But if they were already talking about getting married and such, then there must be a reason behind it. She should talk with her fiance and make sure this is what he really wants. That way they will also get closure to make sure things are clear. You have to make your friend understand that if the guy doesn't want to continue carrying on a relationship with her, then she will have to make sure she gets the actual reason. Sometimes guys just make something up if they really want to break up with the girl. But as much as possible she should clear the air with whatever reasons he has for leaving her.