Why Don't Men Wear Engagement Ring?
By niairen01
@niairen01 (1018)
Philippines
June 30, 2012 6:13pm CST
I was wondering why only women can get to wear engagement ring? Being engage to someone is a bond for both right? Was it just tradition or there is some more explanation behind it?
All I know is that men gives an engagement ring to a girl whom he choose to be his wife, and as a symbol of acceptance the girl should wear the ring. Although not all follow this tradition, practically speaking not all can buy expensive diamond ring and some actually think that it is not that important at all as long as they are madly in love.
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12 responses
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
1 Jul 12
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Engagement_ring
The above article on Wikipedia may be of interest to you. It certainly was to me; a real eye-opener!
In my case I'm from the British Isles and I have my wedding band on my left hand but my engagement ring has to go on my right as it's too big to go with the wedding ring. If you look at the newly-married (well, only a year or so) Duchess of Cambridge she has Princess Diana's engagement ring on her wedding finger. I don't know why that is. Perhaps she prefers the bling..I know I would lol.
My husband has a wedding ring on but I do know of guys (my Dad included) who just don't like jewellery and have no wedding ring on at all.
In my case I'm from the British Isles and I have my wedding band on my left hand but my engagement ring has to go on my right as it's too big to go with the wedding ring. If you look at the newly-married (well, only a year or so) Duchess of Cambridge she has Princess Diana's engagement ring on her wedding finger. I don't know why that is. Perhaps she prefers the bling..I know I would lol.
My husband has a wedding ring on but I do know of guys (my Dad included) who just don't like jewellery and have no wedding ring on at all.1 person likes this
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
1 Jul 12
My husband doesn't wear our wedding ring on his hands. He wear it as a pendant with his necklace. this is only due to allergy on his hands. I guess it all depends on each person. thanks for the responds and the link! it's really helpful! ^__^
@esparagoza (25)
• Philippines
1 Jul 12
Well, I don't know if you would believe me. There's are some men that only find excuses not to wear a engagement ring just because I am allergic to this and to that. For me as a graduating womanizer their style is too old, Men like that just find a way to make themselves to be attracted with another girls. Especially when a guy is in his Middle ages. Well i don't say all but for me. That's the way I feel and I think.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
HI Esparagoza,
Yup, I've known men who are like that. Always play safe and always want to look available especially if there are girls around them. Luckily, my husband isn't like that he honestly have allergy and I'm the sole witness to that. Took us a week to cure the itchiness on his hands that time. LOL! ^__^
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
1 Jul 12
I don't know, I already saw some cases that they both wear an engagement ring, but I guess this depends of the tradition or the culture that they have been raised. But, most of the cases that I know, it's only the girl that wear an engagement ring, I think it's because engagement things it's lot more important for a woman than for a men.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
Really? Hmmm, I haven't bump on that yet. I wonder what culture is that? having both men and women to wear an engagement ring.
Yes, I agree with you. It's more like a big deal to women than to men. Personally speaking, it's okay for me whether or not a guy would propose with an engagement ring. As long as I know that the man I love is now ready to take me as his wife. But the thought of him kneeling down with a ring and ask for my hand... is totally romantic!!! therefore it is a plus!
A plus but to really that important. ^____^
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
Sorry... typo error.
*A plus but NOT really that important. ^____^
@xtinelee (3371)
• Singapore
1 Jul 12
I thought it is because males are the ones who buy the engagement ring for the female, but they only wear the wedding ring. Besides, when you are engaged, it's just done verbally, but you are not married in the eyes of the law. I think it's a freedom of choice whether the female wants to wear the engagement ring or not, and not a must.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
Yes, and it would actually be funny if a guy would buy himself and engagement ring too! it sure doesn't make any sense at all.
Your point do make sense, engagement is a vow between two lovers... that they are bound verbally, practically married but not in the eyes of the law. I like that! ^__^
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
1 Jul 12
Me and my wife never had an engagement ring before we got married, we have a wedding ring that just lies in the cabinet and neither of us wear it cause it's just a requirement to get married and neither do both of us have pretentions as to our status or what people getting married should have
, we are both practical people, we do not believe in symbolisms and things like that but we had been married for a very long time ( more than 15 years), people can have all the crap, diamond ring and all that stuff. expensive things but sorry that is all BS to us, we believe the real gauge is how you raise a good family and how you would be able to stay together despite all the trials that go your way
, we are both practical people, we do not believe in symbolisms and things like that but we had been married for a very long time ( more than 15 years), people can have all the crap, diamond ring and all that stuff. expensive things but sorry that is all BS to us, we believe the real gauge is how you raise a good family and how you would be able to stay together despite all the trials that go your way @niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
Yes, I understand your sentiments. ^__^ I also agree that sometimes buying those expensive engagement ring seems really worthless when it's only for show. the main reason is actually forgotten.
Practically speaking, if a couple (especially the guy) can't afford to buy an engagement ring, I think it's okay. no biggie. I agree with you about how you both love each other, and how ready are you both for raise a family and how long are you both going to stay together.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
2 Jul 12
Most my married male friends don't wear their Engagement Ring, they said that they don't like to wear a ring on hand....when wear a ring on a hand, they feel it is very uncomfortable. I could understand it because sometime i don't like to wear any ring on my hand also...Don't wear a ring, it doesn't mean they hide their marriage.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
4 Dec 12
I agree this could be the reason many feel uncomfortable .so they may take it off ,not that they want to hide marriage.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
1 Jul 12
It's tradition normally a long time ago a women wouldn't wear a ring to show she was engaged it was just the ring after they got married and originally a wedding ring was a string tied to a man to keep her from running away over time it turned to a tradition like wearing a white dress on your wedding day and some other things.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
Yes, I think there's no need for that before, since long ago, neighbors are too close to each other and they basically knew each other since birth! , so I guess when an engagement is announced everybody would know.
, so I guess when an engagement is announced everybody would know.@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
2 Jul 12
No really today women wear rings on any finger it doesn't mean they are engaged but it normal means yes they are taken and going to be getting married in the future to someone. It's also the same finger for a promise ring.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
1 Jul 12
I also wonder why and thanks to the other mylotter who posted a link.
It's really nice to know new information and this is why mylot really rocks...
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
4 Dec 12
Here both husband and wife wear the engagement ring. Not only women and I love this symbol or proof of engagement.
@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
2 Jul 12
maybe it depends on the culture where you come from. I never wanted a diamond ring as an engagement ring and we chose to buy our wedding bands and use them as engagement rings too. worn on the left hand.
Here we are married now for 7 years and out of practical reasons we chose to wear the wedding bands on the left as well. The only difference is, now the spouses name and date of marriage are engraved inside the rings.
First I thought people might ask as we wear the wedding bands on the left instead of on the right but surprisingly no one asked us why so far.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
1 Jul 12
Hello friend..
I like that system.But here the rings are not weard only by the bride but also by the groom too.That is a good way of showing their love each other.Thanks
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
4 Dec 12
I too don't understand this point. Although here men wear ring at the time of marriage but they take it off after that, but women still keep it. But now days are really changing and most of them are only wearing during marriage time and taking it off afterwards may be they feel uncomfortable .This could be the reason.
@juhrina029 (158)
• Philippines
1 Jul 12
I think they don't like to wear engagement ring since they want that people around them would still think that they're single and currently available. That's what I think men always wanted. It was just my opinion and no personal thing involved
