Single mothers how do you cope?
@StrawberryShortcake1 (103)
Canada
July 1, 2012 10:39am CST
I am a single mother of 2. My son is 2 years old and my daughter is 8 weeks old. I look and feel like death. I haven't had more then 3 hours of straight sleep since my daughter came home from the hospital. My 2 year old son is a huge andful... You cannot turn your back for more then 2 minutes, or who knows what will be broken next. I also just found out my daughter has colic. The never ending crying is making me cry. If only I could find time for a shower, or even time to make something half decent to eat. So I would like to know how do single mothers cope and manage to stay alive?
3 responses
@BabyCheetah (1911)
• Australia
2 Jul 12
My mother was a single parent too but we had my grandmother and aunts once in a while for a bit of help. I've just read your parents are not well enough to be looking after them which is a shame :(
With the colic I had that too when I was little, mum said she propped a pillow behind me so I could sit upright and fall asleep. Whenever she put me to lie down I would cry so if you try that you might get some sleep yourself.
Do you have any other family close by tht could baby sit for a bit? :(
@StrawberryShortcake1 (103)
• Canada
2 Jul 12
I wish I had close family near by! That would be a blessing lol... Well im going to try to prop her up on the pillow like you said. I would do all most anything for a night of sleep...
@BabyCheetah (1911)
• Australia
2 Jul 12
Well yeah give it a go now and see if it works. If you put her in her crib. I'd say to be safe put pillows on both sides of it too in case she decides to roll. When I had it I was so young and mum put me in my bassinet so no risk of me rolling :)
@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
8 Jul 12
i can understand your situation, i myself is a single mother. i know how hard it is to take care and look after kids. i have one daughter, i took care of her since she was 2 months old until now she's turning 4..all by myself..everyday, it can be pretty hard when you don't all alone without any help..with one kid,,what more with 2 kids. sometimes when i go downtown i must take her with me when no one will look after her..and it's really hard..i carry grocery bags plus carry her..and some other things..you can just imagine..sometimes she will have tantrums..at home, i cannot do other things right away because i must look after her first...sometimes i lost patience but i think i just have to be positive and stay strong for her..i do the things of a mother, father, and two nannies..all by myself and i am thankful i am able to keep everything organized..it is hard but for me i just have to stay strong for the sake of the kid.
@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
8 Jul 12
it's hard to get a nanny these days and my parents can't help also because they are busy with their own life and self..same thing with my sisters..my mother don't want to help because she said she's done with this kind of thing..she was a housewife and took care of us 5 kids..so now, she just want to enjoy life..so i have to do it on my own..they do help a bit..but there is a time limit..because they have to go somewhere and do other things too..
@surveychick4 (380)
• United States
1 Jul 12
My son is almost 18. I wish I lived by you so I could help you, lol. It was a very hard road, and I could just imagine having 2. We love our children, but we should not have to do it by ourselves. My family was selfish and never helped. I would never do that to my child.
@StrawberryShortcake1 (103)
• Canada
1 Jul 12
I feel like hiring a midnight shift nanny. If only I could afford it, lol. My parents would love to help, but with all their health problems it is not possible. When my children grow up and have kids, if they do... I will be there to help with my arms wide open. I would do anything for my children.
