Is it wrong to take a friend to a date?
By niairen01
@niairen01 (1018)
Philippines
July 1, 2012 11:33pm CST
Have you ever been invited to a date by your friend. Let's just say he/she is one of your best bud for like 4 years. How would you react? Will your relationship as friends change?
I've seen different situations though, like one of my friend went through something like this and somehow, she doesn't want to date her friend since she doesn't have feelings for him and doesn't want to change what they have as friends. Other situation i've seen is that another friend of mine is totally fine with it and doesn't mind.
As for my personal experience, it's also okay for me but I automatically say what i feel about the guy so I wouldn't hurt him or lead him on. how about you?
10 responses
@0o0nel0o0 (4)
•
2 Jul 12
For me it's okay to have a date with a friend as long as you know your limitations. You shouldn't go beyond that. You're relationship as friends would change if you don't feel anything for each other. Just friends. No more. No less. :)
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
That's true. But its hard to think of him or her as friend if he or she has feeling for you. Because each time your together you are happy that you are at the company of your friend while your friend is getting more and more in love with you. lols.
@litlsisof4 (11)
• United States
2 Jul 12
Completely depends on the people involved. If this is just going out as friends that should be clear up front. If either is hoping it will turn into a romantic relationship and the other does not see the person in that way then perhaps not the best idea. But sometimes things change.
I have a couple of friends that were very close. They did every thing together. I always told them that they should just start dating already and have it done with. They both always said "No, that they were just friends". These two ended up married and have been for 10 years now.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
6 Jul 12
It's kind cute when it turns out like that. Who would know right? I always admire those people. Friends at first then married in the end. Kinda like they would never be bored with each other since they actually started out as friends.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
hi,
for me,i think it is not wrong to take a friend to a date,because we can call that a friend date only,unless if both of you will give any malicious on that,and aside from that it is also good to have that date because you can have such time for bonding to build more friendship to each other.such a sweet friendship.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
hi niaren,
There is nothing wrong dating a friend if the other party wants to take it to the next level and the feelings are mutual that will be fine.
But if not still at least you tried and there is no harm in trying as long as you knows your limitations.
happy mylotting
@gottasayit74 (99)
• Canada
5 Jul 12
I think it is just fine to go out on a date with a close friend. You have been building your relationship for so many years, you already know a lot about one another and are already one step closer. Sometimes, the best relationships come from being friends first. At the same time, it does not mean that your friend wants to be serious, they may just want to do something different. I think it is completely innocent and does not need any worry.
@yuekim123 (161)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
It's not wrong to take a friend to a date especially when it is a friendly date. Otherwise, it's not okay for me to have a date with a friend especially when he likes you but you feel otherwise. Just saying :)
@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
Just remember this girl that there are two types of friend in this world.A friend you
call because you know him/her since childhood,in short a true best friend.There is a friend you call yet it is due to the benefits you can offer that he/she calls you a friend.If this friend you call is a girl like you,then grab the opportunity so that your friendship would be more solid in her invitation to have a date with you,mind you this is a big opportunity she could offer you a good break to success in your friendship.If this is a guy,and you have a hidden feeling towards him,then grab the opportunity to meet him,who knows he just start courting you this time,but do not overdo it because he might make this a bad opportunity to advance against you.Enjoy your date girl.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
It's just a friendly so I don't see anything wrong.
But if it is about old flame, ex boyfriend/girlfriend and you are in a new relationship, then that sounds complicated unless you will ask permission from your present relationship.
But since you wrote here it's just a friend...then what's wrong?
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
Dating does not mean you need to have feeling right away. That's the reason you are dating to know each other more. So you don't need to expect that you going to have feeling to that person right away right? Beside how will you know that you have feeling for that person in just a date?
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
2 Jul 12
Changing from a friendship to a love is good sometime i think.we all start from friendship and then with the time, we may fall in love each other. However, with guys who are in my friendship for long time,longer than 2 years...for sure they are my friends forever because i won't have no love feeling with them...