Friendship and dating
By riempie9
@riempie9 (1021)
South Africa
July 2, 2012 8:03am CST
On a first date when you have just met and are testing each other out over drinks or coffee or dinner, who should pick up the bill? Do you pay for yourself or do you wait for the guy to pick up the tab? As well, if you want to have dinner and drinks which is more expensive would you expect the guy to pay for yours? You might not even like each other. Is it fair for the guy just to be expected to pay? What would you do?
5 responses
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
2 Jul 12
In my opinion, the girl should offer, but the guy should pay... anyway, I always carry around enough money for paying a cup of tea or a coke. And I would never drink a more expensive drink on a first date, I don't want him to think I'm material... I like cheaper drinks, too.
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@llooll519 (108)
• Portugal
2 Jul 12
In my opinion, men should always pay the bill, even if it's the first date or not... I think its about respect and being a gentlemen. Even if you don't like her or don't know if it'll work between her, you must pay the bill.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
I think, since it is modern times these days.. the person should pay for his or her bill.. or if a guy pays, it might make the girl like him, since it seems gentleman-like. 
it depends on the situation really..
it depends on the situation really..
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
Most of my dates with my husband he is the one paying the bill and he never allowed me to pay. When we get into a relationship most of the time we share on our bill since both of us was still studying during that time and both working. My husbad and I loves to go to different restaurant expensive or cheap but we both make sure to have extra money so that we can able to pay for what we eat and sharing is a part of a good relationship. For is not only the man who is always paying the bill, i think women need to give her share too since nowadays its really hard to earn money.
@steelers12 (153)
• United States
2 Jul 12
Yes a guy should pay for the meal on the first date. There are a few exemptions to this rule.
If the woman plans the date then she should pay for her share, yes the man should offer to pay it but the woman should in this instance.
The ideals of a guy paying has slipped in recent years but should become a more realized goal of men. As a man myself it is easy to say that men should pay but there are some women out there whom also want their independence and insist they do not need a man to pay there way.
I do feel it is a personal preference and should be taken as such.
