Lame Excuses
By EmmyLu18
@EmmyLu18 (102)
United States
July 3, 2012 6:58pm CST
We've all heard of the lame "it's not you, it's me" when breaking up, and while that is true sometimes, nobody wants to hear it. I feel like my last boyfriend gave me one of those lame excuses when he broke up with me.
My ex is 16 and I'm 18. Put aside the age difference, and we were, well...perfect? I didn't see anything going wrong or downhill, except maybe his mother. She's very attached to her 4 boys and I was dating her next to youngest. When my mother and I had them both over for dinner, he was very quiet. Not that he was much of a talker to begin with, but with his mother around he hardly said "boo". I have the very distinct feeling that she had him tied by the neck with her apron strings, and wasn't going to let go for anything. She dissed every ex girlfriend of his discussed that night, and upon further inquiries with our mutual friends, I found that his mother had caused a couple of his break ups.
So excuse me for being sensitive, but I don't like being told "I'm not ready for a girlfriend"...really? You're just now figuring this out after having how many? No. I think it's pretty clear who's not ready for a girlfriend: mama. But I know I'm never gonna get that straight answer I want, so I let it go.
Have you ever gotten one of these lame excuses? How'd you react to it?
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@jobfindonline (1744)
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4 Jul 12
I think it's common that people are using lame excuses. One reason I could see is they don't want to hurt you so bad. But still it aches no matter how many lame excuses we get from someone we really love.
Maybe you were both too young for the relationship and his mother only gave an advice then he followed it. Maybe it would be right if from the start you both seek the advice of your parents. Since things are different now, all you can do is to understand the matter and next time take more time to know a person if he is mature enough to handle a relationship.
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@EmmyLu18 (102)
• United States
4 Jul 12
I did seek advice from my mom. This was the first time I'd ever let her into a relationship I was having, and she LIKED him...but I guess his mom didn't like me.
And I know the excuses are supposed to make me feel better, but what I'd really like is the honest to goodness truth. Without it I just wonder all the things I could hae done, and wish I knew what they were.
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@sparky3dfan (599)
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4 Jul 12
Well I've never dated a mommy or daddys girl so I can't comment from that standpoint. As for excuses in general no not really to be honest. The majority if not all of my past relationships ended quite 'peacefully' shall we say. Usually a mutual decision also.
As for you, I wouldn't be sensitive in this case. If a guy / boy can't stop being his mommas pet by 16 when he should be craving a girls attention, then its not you. Let him have his momma plenty of other fish in the sea :)
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@kenshin2143 (1880)
• Philippines
4 Jul 12
You mentioned about having or hearing lame excuses when a particular couple breaks up. This is just our defense mechanisms in order to avoid blames. These excuses are preferred by many in order to hide their true intentions or feelings. However, before judging a particular person, we should try to weight the pros and cons before acting in order to really understand the circumstances a person is in to.
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