To the ladies, will you ask for help if....

Hi guys, oh, just to add, our neighbor has offered to help us (me and my mom) as we have a lot of groceries too one time and we gladly accepted the help, though we did not expect him to help us but since we know him and knows he is offering a help, we took no offense. =) Sometimes it is all part of being able to interact. The thing is, if there is a stranger to offer us to carry the bags while it is being unloaded from the taxi and the man was from the street, well i would think twice and decline as i meant to disrespect to the person but you would - think what could this man's intentions be? Say i do not think i am the only one here, especially in public when one offers you help, most likely we would decline thinking they could be running away with the things they offered to carry for us! haha ;)

If it was something like groceries where I had a lot of them, then I definitely would not be insulted if someone offered help, especially if it was a hot day and I had perishable items. I think (as you stated above) that it depends upon the situation. I can also understand that it is difficult to know when to offer help and when not to, especially since you can be thought to be rude or insensitive in either instance. Personally, I try to treat people equally, so I do whatever I feel is appropriate in that particular instance regardless of gender, and I try to accept help in the same way. I also think that the way a person offers factors into it, though. If the person seems like they sincerely want to help, then I would not be offended and would actually appreciate the offer, even if it was not needed. When the offer is given in a manner where it is clear they think that as a woman I am incapable of doing it myself, then that is when I take offense, especially if they are clearly not any stronger (and perhaps not nearly as strong) as I am.

hi purple, i understand your sentiment about when or when not to offer help. sometimes i am faced with this decision myself when in public especially at work. I know that i might offend someone if i offer help over something or they might actually not see my intentions as to why i am doing so. :D I guess it just depends on us as to estimate whether or not to offer our help. Cheers to you and bigfoot!

Well, yes it is always really very convenient shopping with someone especially if you know you are to be with a lot of items. it is always great to have someone help you out. =)

So, only buy heavy items when there is someone with us Carrying half dozen of oranges and apples and pears respectively is a heavy burden to me as well. We usually would buy such fruits in the 1st and 15th of Chinese Lunar Calender for worshiping, therefore I don't purchase fruits if I'm alone

Hi dominique, good day to you! :D thanks for your response to the discussion. I believe there are a lot of things we ought to be able to see when one offers help to us. Im glad the person was sincere in his offer of help to you. For me i would take a help when needed, but i would never demand it.