How long would you make up from a misunderstanding??

Hi, to you, too. Misunderstanding can happen anywhere and if one is too ego to accept the explanation, it won't be easy to make up. To me, if I have the chance to clear the air, I will do it immediately, but of course, sometimes, you can't do it right away when emotions take control. A few years back at my previous workplace, my best friend and I were accused of being the back stabbers of a colleague where in truth there was a misunderstanding between a few of us in the office. I could say we were close friends at that time, but after the incident we only talked about work. When most of us moved on to other working places, we hadn't get the chance to clear things out. After 5 years, we were working at the same place again. We were talking like old friends and we never discussed about the misunderstanding, but only the good memories we shared at the old workplace. We've been working for about 2 years before she got another offer and during that time there's not even once we have an arguement. I think as time goes by, both of us have learned to be more careful in our words and actions. I didn't hold back any hard feelings and I guess she has also accepted that what happened in the past was just a misunderstanding.

After a misunderstanding I usually give some time for me and the other person involve to calm down, but if I can I prefer to make up as soon as possible. Atleast before we go to bed in the same day.

I don't like misunderstanding to go on, but when you try to clear up things some people just think you are arguing. It seems you can't please everyone.

I think arguments are really common and it takes a lot of humility to accept ones fault and understand the other. There have been few occasions where colleagues fight or have arguments over something, usually it's a rarity since we're all 'busy', however, there really are times when superiority and seniority of age would be the reason why think he/she's better than the other - these types of fights or arguments I always steer clear of. But there was one situation where there were really bumping of heads and it was stressful that time when they were not yet at peace. All you could hear are gossip from the first person then another gossip from the second. I do admire though that nobody in the office was taking sides for we all knew both had mistakes of their own. Though it has been long now since that argument, they haven't been seeing eye-to-eye till now. But due to the fact that they need not meet up for the job gives them both an excuse not to be in the same place at the same time. Though it's better nowadays because they're just civil - but the bond of friendship was never restored. I guess there are times when our pride take the most of us and we end up burning bridges, is it something that we can do something about? Perhaps! But I always learned my lesson never to meddle with other people's business and as long as there's no cat fight happening in the office, their civility with each other is music to my ears. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

Hi MyLotters. Like the same i too had a problem. Then the problem was solved with the help of one of my friend. In my opinion when a misunderstanding raises they should speak between each other and solve the problem. Or else the problem will be solved forever. Does anyone have different views apart from my comments???

It depends on what conflict I am dealing with, and it depends if the conflict starts with my mistake or a misunderstanding with others. Usually, such misunderstanding takes time to compromise to a good resolution with other people, but as what they say, time heals.

I have this rule that if I knew for myself that I did not do anything wrong and you hurt me, I would no longer associate to that person again. I have this experience where one of my colleagues questioned my beliefs. And actually, it is not only a mere questioning but a sarcasm. I got really offended and told him exactly how I feel about it. I was just sitting there and eating when all of a sudden he throw that question at me and I do not think that is fair because from what I understand, he is trying to tell everyone who are present in there that I am just after the money. In short, I got really mad and he stopped. But after a while, two of my colleagues wanted to take part in the scene and started putting more woods on the fire. I was too disappointed that time because one of them, I consider as my friend. It does not take me an hour before I asked for forgiveness to that guy because I really think that I have hurt him for answering back. But to my friend who took the other side instead of being just in the middle, I never talked to her again. I have no regrets because I really do not think I would need a friend like her. But after months of being like that, she started making moves to be closer to me again. We talk to each other now but I really do not involve myself that much. I know her already.

if it's in my hands to make peace, I will do it without hesitation. Once misunderstandings get longer, the more repairs we need to do to bring back our relationship. What your colleagues did was right. Why wait if we can do it earlier? But of course it's a case to case basis and it depends on the problems. Personally, I don't want to prolong any misunderstandings.

Hi Jonna- I don't mind clearing out disputes in a decent manner unless they have not gone beyond repairing. You see being a marketing professional I try my best to see to it that every problem has a fair solution. Smaller things may become worse if not sorted out at the beginning and that is possible if both persons at a loggerhead are reasonable and think about the organization, they work for. Cheers.-suny.

hi smurfysmurf! i hate being on the outs with my friends or family and especially mr. psychoartist and the princess...so i would try to make up as soon as possible and if i saw that the person needed time to cool down i would give them time, but i would try to apologize or make things up with people i care about...on the other hand, if it is a person i do not care about, like , consider evil, idiotic, or horrid, i would not care at all and would just move on...