Do you think that people never change?
By besweet
@besweet (9859)
Ireland
July 4, 2012 7:49am CST
There is an expression saying that a person's character always stay the same. I used to disagree with that expression, because I though that if someone really wants to change and improve some parts of the characted it can be done. It needs a lot of personal effort but it can be achieved!
Lately, I reached the conclusion that people don't want to change. It's hard to accept the parts of the character that might need improvement and most of the times we ignore them, saying that "This is who I am". I agree that we should be ourselves but I think that we should recognise the small things that we can improve every day and become better persons!
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11 responses
@suni51 (3429)
• India
6 Jul 12
I think that is not right 'cause I have seen people changing from good to bad and bad to good. There is every chance that it take a lot of time to change the image but the character can change within a very short time provided the one did that with an intention, whatever way.
@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
7 Jul 12
Changing from good to bad is easier because the wrong choices are the easy ones to take. Changing towards the best is hard and needs time but it's possible!
I think that there are some changing moments in people's lives where we are called to make a decision that's going to define many things about ourselves. I still think that deep changes take time and effort and they can only happen if we want them to happen!
@neerruu (134)
• India
6 Jul 12
i do agree with you that if we want to change it's not that much difficult. i have brought an improvement in myself.you know i had this very bad habit of making fun of people i used to do it a lot with my friends or brothers and sisters.my friends started to make fun of me whenever we hangout together and i felt bad sometimes .from that i realized that it's not a good thing to make fun of people. i always try to control myself but still sometimes that beast comes out and hunts again :p
cheers and thank you,
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@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
6 Jul 12
I have an expression that I try to follow every day in my life. Don't do to others what you wouln't want people to do to you. It sounds simple but it's really difficult to do it! And every time I see my friends do something inappropriate, I ask them if they would like someone else to do that to them, and they think about it twice. Thanks for your comment!
@payout (3794)
• United States
4 Jul 12
There is always room to grow especially when it comes to thought process. Our mind is the hardest thing to change in a person. I can change my appearance tomorrow I can get the Nice eyes I always wanted with contacts. Get the nice hair color I always wanted with Hair Dye.
I think Change in a Person is Possible, Change in your exterior is easy interior is much harder.
In the Bible it says RENEW YOUR MIND. Change your thoughts change your words. That is the true power of change in any Person.
To me Change is Possible but, all depends how much the person really wants it. :)
@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
6 Jul 12
I like the expression that you shared, renew your mind. If you think about it for a second, it can be the source of any inside change in a person. People must think about their actions, their thinking and their achievements and see how they have progresses and become better. If I do this and I realise that my progress wasn't togards the best or I was at the same point where I started, then I need to renew my mind and start again! Great expression, I will remember it :)
@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
6 Jul 12
Travelling, reading, getting to know new people, they all help us to become open minded and accept that we can be better! I like myself as well, but at the end of the day I want to have gained something. I want to have added a little bit to my inner self in order to eventually find peace and achieve things for myself!
@taura2p (349)
• Romania
4 Jul 12
I totally agree with you. I think that people can change, through education and interactions with other people, but they don't want to. It is just more comfortable to stay as you are, to be as you are, and in the end people do accept you, with your good and bad things. I, for instance, always try to be better, I like to feel that I evolve, and that I can become a better person.
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@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
4 Jul 12
Hi friend, i agree with you, people have the ability to change themselves and nothing is apart from change. Everything in this world is changing based on the situation and the trend. There is nothing wrong in changing our selves based on the situation and trend and almost all the people changing themselves for their needs and necessities
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@Lauraleigh99 (4718)
• United States
4 Jul 12
I think people can change also but those around them will always have a hard time trusting them if they have said previously I am going to change and haven't. They really need to prove themselves and gain the trust of others and not listen to people when they say people can't change. But you are correct many people DON'T want to change!
@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
4 Jul 12
You've made a very good point. It deosn't matter only if a person has changed, but the environment counts as well. I can't blame the people that aren't convinced easily because second chances should be earned, but I believe in giving second chances if I really think that someone has made serious efforts.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
4 Jul 12
i have always believed that people will always have the chance to change. I mean the only constant thing in life is change it goes to any thing or to anyone of youask me. Onlythose wo refuse to change will never change and itis a personal choice.
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@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
4 Jul 12
Changes are inevitable but we should do them towards the best. Recognising our mistakes is the first and most important step, and I think that denial is also based on the fear that we will find the things that we don't like very much.
Everyone makes mistakes and it is natural to have some moments in our lives that have pushed us to redefine ourselves.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
6 Jul 12
Personally i think that one can change their character maybe a little bit more.For once i thought that this won't happen.But one of my friends and we didn't get in touch for a long time,and many people say they didn't know what had happened to her,maybe she gone through many and maybe she didn't changed,the thing is we are not don't understand why she is now doing the things we can't accept.This maybe the fate and good luck.
@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
4 Jul 12
All of us has our ability to change our character wether it is for the better or for worse, it only depends on what we choose. We can always think of any ways on how to change, and I believe everybody can do it if we are really determined to make changes.
@anachroniSaM (191)
• Philippines
4 Jul 12
For me, it would still depend on your own perspectives and insights about life. We have our different situations in our lives. People may or may not change, depending on how they would want to lead their lives. We tend to remain the same, yet we could also change a bit due to the experiences we face in our day-to-day activities. No matter what happens, if we decide to make a change among ourselves, I think it will be better if we do it for the betterment of our own, and for others as well. When we decide to make some alterations, it will affect others in such a way that they will also benefit from it as much as possible.
