it's hard to forgive if you can't forget

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I have this very close friend of mine who shared to me her childhood experience that she cant forget. she said when she was 6 years old something happened to her. she got raped and she never told anyone about it because she got scared that she will get scolded and also she did'nt know that what happen to her was bad.and as she get older she realized what happen to her is a crime.. but until now she did'nt told this to anyone except to me. she carries the burden of pain until now. she cant forgive that man for doing this to her. she tries to forgive that man but every time she remember it (like a Back flash) she cant help it but hate that man. she's trying to forget those thing for 15 years of her life to have a normal life but in a flash she remember it again and it makes her paranoid and disgusted of her self..she want to get revenge, she want to destroy the life of that man including the children of that man. i dont know what to say to her i just listen to her and tell her that "be strong and dont do anything stupid that will put yourself in trouble". i cant say "forgive that man and youll be free from your troubles" cause i know that its really hard to forgive if you don't forget. to her it's a worst nightmare that keeps on repeating.