Adoption is Bad???

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This year in my high school there were a good 8 or more girl's expecting, and not one of them even glanced at adoption. You look around and it seems like the option is fading further and further back in people's minds and is even seen NEGATIVELY by a lot of people. Whenever I brought up adoption to one of these girls they immediately looked horrified and said they couldn't stand the thought of "giving up" their baby. WHOA now. I can understand wanting this baby for yourself but if you aren't what's best for that baby, you're not "giving him/her up", you're giving him/her a chance! A lot of these teenage girls, their boyfriends either aren't involved, or soon will be overwhelmed and want out. You'll have to give up your childhood and those crazy years you wanted to spend at the beginning of your independence. You'll have to grow up a LOT quicker than you might want to or be ready to. And let's not forget that that baby isn't going to be a baby forever and thinking 10 years down the road, will you still think your decision is the right one? Let's also not forget the fact that open adoption is becoming more popular because it's been found to be better for both mother AND child, so this concept of "giving up" your child is pretty false. There are many ways to stay in that child's life and the best part is, since you are the biological parent, it is YOUR choice. YOU choose where your child is put, YOU figure out with the adoptive parents if they are a right fit with what you want to do, and YOU can back out whenever and if ever you want. No "termination of parental rights" needs to be signed till YOU are ready. I'm not saying no one should keep their babies, because everyone is free to decide what they want to do and I'm not going to judge them for it but I do not like the negative wrap adoption seems to be getting. Gotta wonder the sort of negative comments young girls who DO decide to adopt are getting from their peers and possibly other people around them. Have you noticed this negative view? How do you feel about adoption and why do you feel that way?