Should I keep contact with a guy who ever made my heart fall in love ?
@kimtienthao2809 (47)
Thailand
July 5, 2012 4:26am CST
Yesterday, accidental, I saw the guy who I like before, and we have a short conversation...He asked me my cell phone number and asked me about a day to meet together, but now,I had new boyfriend and unlucky , yesterday I went out with my bf , so..I dont know how to do now , please give me a advice, should I call that guy ?I just want to talk with him somethings because I lost contact with him in a long time !
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
5 Jul 12
I think you just need to think of one thing:
How would you feel if you knew that your boyfriend was talking to the girl that made his heart fall in love a couple of years ago?
If you think that is okay with you, then perhaps you should just talk to the guy. However, if there's a sudden rush of jealousy, then perhaps you shouldn't.
I know how you feel, I am a hopeless romantic too and I used to think of how things were great with the first guy who made my heart feel warm inside. However, now that I'm with someone else who's equally (or more) great, I don't need to go back to those people who didn't stay with me.
We must learn to just look back but not re-live the feelings we have before because now you have someone you could hurt because of your 'longing' for this other person (or to re-live the past).
Let go of it, and learn to be content of what you have.
They are part of our lives but they are in the past. It's okay if we bump into them, but thinking about re-kindling the 'friendship' is dangerous. Everything starts with 'friendship'. What will you do when you boyfriend asks you what you were doing? Worst, what if your boyfriend would by chance see you with this guy?
Don't live a life with drama. It isn't worth it.
Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@kimtienthao2809 (47)
• Thailand
5 Jul 12
Dear Laydee !
Thank you for a great advice from you ! I think I had a answer when I read your responeded, I know..the feeling is past, it is over ..and I had a good bf now, I dont want to make my bf hurt ..so I will just keep in touch with that guy like a good friend !
Thank you !
@jizfir (93)
•
5 Jul 12
hello there!
There's nothing wrong if you talk to that guy since you have no contact or news about him for a long time. And it is just simply catching up with him. But what you need to be sure of is your feelings for him. Since you have a new boyfriend, you have to clear things out in order to avoid problems with your present relationship.
@kimtienthao2809 (47)
• Thailand
5 Jul 12
Dear jizfir !
Thanks for responded to me , I know what will I do now :-), I had his cellphone number and someone I will go out to drink coffee with him , and this relationship will a good friend..no love in this .
:-)