To all the boyfriends, girlfriends, husband and wives

Hello, TheSupersonic :) ... I will say, that looking at another is in and of itself innocent, as we are all attracted to beauty and oddieies of our species. However, there would be a problem if you found yourself jealous if she did the same thing. If you found yourself swimming in jealousy when she looks at a hamdsome man, then you have to rethink and perhaps train yourself not to glance. In other words, 'what is good for the goose is good for the gander' type of thinking. If, it does not bother you if she observes another man, then it is fine, in my opinion. I just had a talk with a friend whose boyfriend was using looking at other women as a way of hurting her, by mentioning that they were better looking than she. You have to remember, that if you tell a woman she is beautiful, she will have a hard time believing it, but if you tell her she is ugly, there is a good chance she will believe it. Myself, I am over such trivialities, but that is because I am more mature. When I was younger, I dated a man who constantly told me how much more beautiful other women were than I. He treated me almost as a monkey on his leash. So, you see, there are so many aspects to this. I personally am straight but look at beautiful women all the time, as they are a thing of beauty to behold. So, if my soul mate did not look to hurt me, but look just as I do, to observe a beautiful woman, then I would not feel so bad about it. You also have to remember, that the reason your girlfriend MAY feel bad, is that we are ladies, and we know what snakes ladies are. Some women are snakes, and just like to cause trouble. She might be afraid that one of them might try to 'steal' you away from her. Therefore, it is your duty to make sure she is made to feel loved, a queen above all else. do a search for a poem by Pablo Neruda, Called Queen, and you will see what I mean.

For me I allowed my husband to look to other beautiful girls because he just looking and he does not do anything that he made me angry. He also makes me feel beautiful and important everyday so I just let him look around. I think yur girlfriend also needs to understand that you have eyes and lots of beautiful people around us who we cant stop ourself from looking them.

Looking at attractive people is normal. Flirting with them, not so good. Anything farther than that is wrong and will cause problems in the relationship. Make sure you establish self-control and gratitude for the one you're with. The grass may seem greener on the other side --- it's not.