I feel sorry for the children...
@angel_of_charm (4134)
Philippines
July 5, 2012 11:13pm CST
They are my boyfriend's children.He has 3 kids 4,1 and a 2 months old baby girl and their situation right now is something that bother's us a lot me and my boyfriend.His ex live in partner is going crazy and what she's doing with the kids can be very traumatic to them.
She found out about me and now she's like usng the kids to get my boyfriend's attention.They already had an understanding in our local city government about how the should deal with the children's needs.They both agreed upon it but ever since she found out about she started acting crazy and confront my boyfriend infront of his house shouting and scandalous.To my understanding she was jealous about and now she keeps on going back and fort with the 2 months old baby even on a rainy evening. She will go to his house give the baby to him without the baby's clothes and say she's giving the custody to my bf and each time that he accepts his baby girl with full responsibility she will suddenly change her mind and will get the baby again when bf is not around..I dont know what was she thinking but what i only know is she's not being reasonable..the children's needs is never neglected! I feel sorry for the kids because they might grow up feeling they are unwanted because one day their with their father the next day she'll get them back and then give it away again to their father.
I dont know what kind of mentality is that? but she's giving a psychological effect to her children that i cannot get involve with...which makes me feel sometimes I wish I was the mother of her children..
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
6 Jul 12
Well what he needs to do is go back to the courts and tell them what is going on. If he doesn't like how things are going he can always question the cousdty agreement and have switched around to what is best for the children. Courts will always look at this again and again if one or both of parents are having issues with one or them living situation or so on.
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@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
yes, that's exactly what he intends to do he is just coordinating with his mom about this..we just need someone to look after the kids during the day while were both working.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Jul 12
There is day cares but you two would have to look at them and see if they are in your price range, then there is a lot of in home day cares. I know if you live in the US a lot of states are doing public assistance for child care where you can call up the health department and see if you qualify for help paying for childcare. If you live outside of the US I really don't know if they would have programs like that or not but childcare will be need since you both work in the day time.
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@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
that is the problem we do not have home cares in Philippines and its hard to get someone to nanny the kids..
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@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
I pitied the children too. They are the most affected here. God only knows what a jealous woman could. It could be true that she's losing her sanity because of it and worst getting crazy. It is much better to talk to her parents or to legal authority before it's too late. Three innocent lives are on her hands now and its very alarming.
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@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
So true! I hope she gets back into her sanity before she commits something that she will regret her whole life.
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@Zhizho (1350)
• Indonesia
6 Jul 12
Sad to know that there kids are in wrong hand. I really concern about children especially the baby. want to help but surely i can't. but i support you to keep contanct with your boy friends children. Maybe you help their father to act or to be firm to his ex wife.maybe you can spend a few time together with children and make them happy.
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@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
i get to have some time with the second to the eldest but not the the other two because their living with the mother.I was with them yesterday at home and we spent the whole day together.I just wish it'll stay that way always
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@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
6 Jul 12
Hello Angel,
That's sad one should not use the kids for his/her benefits
.I am afraid that this lady does not love the kids she is not raising the kids as her kids. I think your BF must tell her that she should not do it with the kids.May be she wants your BF back in her life.
.I am afraid that this lady does not love the kids she is not raising the kids as her kids. I think your BF must tell her that she should not do it with the kids.May be she wants your BF back in her life.2 people like this
@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
yes she does, she had hard time of accepting that bf is happy to have me by his side but it doesn't give her reason to get her children feel their unloved.these poor kids doesn't deserve any of this as they know nothing about what's happening around them.too bad the mother has a short understanding about this she got caught of the bitterness and forgot about her kids feelings.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Jul 12
That is so sad. I think the courts gave the children to the wrong parent. Your boyfriend should have them if that is the way she acts! Those poor kids. =(
I hope something is done because your right it will have an effect on the children. How sad. The kids have done nothing to deserve being treated that way. I would go to court again if I was your boyfriend and fight for full custody...I know there is a lot involved with it but it would be worth it to give the kids a better life.
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@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
I am really praying tha he gets full custody with the kids and we'll just have each other's back to support these kids while they grow so that we can be together in peace without worrying that she'll appear on the scene just to get his attention. these kids did nothing to deserve this act from their mother.
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@Amyqiuxiao (43)
• China
7 Jul 12
Hello angel, I can understand your feeling totlly and think you surly have a good heart. You can tell your boyfriend that you are willing to be the monther of his two boys but please do not say it in the pubilc, and it's better for you to talk nothing about the children with your bf's ex. Becauese now she has no other solution but the children to abort your bf's attention, it's her last straw to catch although she maybe know it will not make your bf have any good grace to her. So if you challenge her in this issue, I worry she will disturb your normal life in a absurd way and make you hurt. So you can give the support and encourge to your bf but please make youself keep the distance with this issue.
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@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
I keep distant with the issue but I'm open to converse with my bf with the issue I know I cant be more sensitive I cant get involve
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Jul 12
hi angel of charm this is one more reason why I dislike the idea of living together without being married. Ig they had married and she was a fit mom she would just automatically get c ustody of
her children. I see a frightened woman who does love her kids
b ut is s cared silly she will lose them. I do not know of course who is right or wrong but seems odd to me a man has relations with a girl to the point of three kids then just up and leaves her for
a new one. now whats to prevent him from doing this to you if you have his kids?so she is confused, and frightened maybe mentally
off but I can see for both sides here. I am old
fashioned and think having kids out of wedlock is really rather sinful.
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@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
6 Jul 12
I am very sand for the kids especially the youngest one. What kind of thinking does the girl has. She is trying to get back your boyfriend by using the kids. Maybe your boyfriend may file complaints against the girl because they have already agreement regarding the kids.
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@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
I know and I think she's afraid that my bf will get full custody of the kids because she wont have any reason to get intouch and communicate with bf if that happens..
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@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
Maybe you are right, but here in our country, kids below 7 years old, mothers will get the custody of their kids but fathers have also the right to visit them and has the responsibility to support the kids.
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@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
same rules that we have have its just that most of the time rules wont follow..I think there are grounds to follow for the custody, if the mother is incapable of caring her children and can be proven that she's mentally incapacitated then I think the court will give the custody to the father if the father is capable.
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