I love my cousin....

This is indeed a sad and tragic for the lovers. One of my cousin has same experience like this. My cousin met this girl during a division sports fest in our hometown. They love each other and the girl is my cousin's first love. They're both young by that time, both 16 I think when it happens. Then, it's our town fiesta and my cousin invited his girlfriend to our house (well, my cousin and I are both adopted by our grandparents so we're very close to each since we grow together and he is 6yrs younger than me) His girlfriend came with her grandmother and uncle. My cousin introduced them to us and we have a very good chat. At lunch time our grandfather arrived from political function and everyone was shocked when he approach the grandmother as if they know each other for a long time. My cousin broke in tears when our grandfather says that he and the grandmother (my cousin's girlfriend's grandmother)were first cousin. That was really a traumatic experience for my cousin and his girlfriend (oh well, she is also our cousin) I also had same experience, but it is my far kin (guess 4th cousin) who falls in love with me and I never knew about it. He only disclose the matter with my mom after he found out that I am his niece by 4th generation (something like that) Well, love moves in so many mysterious ways

hi lyn, This is really sad but there are cases this is accepted Actually in my Father's clan there are many cases they let the 1st degree cousins to marry each other to secure their assets. Only those who are rich one happy mylotting

that is very sad, when you love someone and find out they are family. I knew a couple like that too. In our country they can marry but they cannot have children.

While there is a chance (which is supposed to be fairly small) of problems if first cousins reproduce, beyond first cousins there isn't any real reason for cousins not to marry. Even with first cousins, the risks are slight. In fact, several U.S. states permit marriage between first cousins, and numerous countries throughout the world allow it. Personally, I think that it is good if the family tree forks a bit. However, there is no legitimate reason to prohibit it. Also, as another commenter mentioned, cousin marriage is sometimes practiced in order to maintain a family's financial strength, which makes perfect sense. Marriage has often been used as a business tool. Now, if you want to get really icky, remember that sibling marriages were widely accepted during a certain period in ancient Egypt. Makes cousin marriage look a whole lot better, doesn't it?

Humans have learned that inbreeding can cause serious birth defects. To bad the animal breeders don't always follow these rules. The results are that many of our pet animal breeds have been seriously weakened.

Under the law cousin not allow to marry each other due to the scientific research that cousin couples will birth an abnormal child. This is proven that is why the law itself did not allow or consent any party to get married... It is sad for them but that is the law of the land that must be follow.

I feel sorry for them. I had a similar experience when I was a teenager. My first boyfriend turned out to be a relative. We decided to end our relationship because we both do want to hurt our family. But we remained as friends. We are both married with kids. We get to see each other on family reunions.

I remember having a crush on one of my cousins but we are not really blood related, still I didn't want to entertain that feeling much because I knew it wasn't right. I think that society and family will be your major foe when you do have such kind of relationship. It is indeed sad that this happens and as for the couple in the story they really have to weigh everything and make their decisions. It will be very difficult and I can only imagine how it must feel for the both of them.

Wow..that would be terrible. To have been dating someone for that long and find out you are related? Wow. I feel bad for them because there is nothing that can really be done.

hi lyn! I actually have a friend who got married with his own relative and had a child and they daughter is really pretty! They are cousins and now they are living happily after all the negative feed backs they got from their relatives.

i feel sad for them. what will they care about their love for each other or what the people and their family will say to them? it is their decision. but then in our times like this when almost everyone is judgmental they have to know where they would want to go and what they want to do.

Aw, so sad for them...but they have to accept the real situation: they are cousins, they can change their love become bother/sister feeling. i hope they can do like that..it is hard for them but they can do it...

I had an uncle who married his 2nd cousin... my aunt had a miscarriage for their supposedly first child. so sad they never had a child...

Hi friend, sad to hear about this. But in some culture, there is nothing wrong in marrying cousin, i.e aunt's son can marry the uncle's daughter. But i don't know about their culture. I feel pity for the broken heart

I can't imagine being in that situation, finding out after romantically falling in love with the person that they are related to you. I would probably feel really embarrassed ( even though it wouldn't be either of our faults for not knowing). I definately would not be able to continue the relationship and I would need therapy.

i almost got into that kind of situation when i was young. i don't know, but most of those girls i wished to be my girl were not that so close, but relatives, as they told me. oh, by the way, my ex-wife was also a relative as my father told me, which made him got mad at me when we enter the relationship.

All these time matter. All the moment spent together matter. And I will advise to go forward because what would happen if the relative would come between them after they got married? Will they leave each other just because they are cousin? I do not think so. This is so unfair.

I know someone who's in the same situation as what you've shared. And it was really hard. Emotionally traumatic, especially if both are really serious about their relationship. You know, having to know that your relationship is forbidden, families will actually protest about your relationship, and almost most of your friends will disagree too. Although I could not picture myself being in love with any of my cousins (goosebumps), this situations happens sometimes. And as I stated above, i know someone who did walk the same path. But, since those persons loved each other so much, they did not listen to their friends and family, they did fight for their love and they are now actually living together with kids. Unfortunately, one of those kids turn out to be special which is expected since they are blood related. But when you ask them, they are happy and would also said that having a special kid is lucky, and they are actually lucky financially! I guess, just being stigmatized by other people having a bad relationship like theirs only make it "SEEMS BAD" when it really isn't. Plus when you really think about it, as far as I know, Adam and eve are the first people in the world. I really have no idea how did their population grew... Plus I don't want to think about it either. ___

That is very sad.. I feel sad reading this post. :-(