Peer pressure..

Philippines
July 6, 2012 5:13am CST
I'm one of the single ladies out in this world who remained single for 25 years. I never had any serious relationship with guys and therefore called to be "NBSB" (No Boyfriend Since Birth). I was fine with that nick before but now that I'm 25, I think that nick have given me troubles in facing people from all walks of life specially those who are already settled and have boyfriends soon to be wed. Well, almost all people convince me to find someone and do some actions. I was fine and I am still fine right now. I'm enjoying my single life and doing things I love to do. There is only one problem, a feeling of being "odd" sometimes for being different among others who have lovelifes. I still fear to leave alone for the rest of my life but I haven't found the right one yet. That fear is bothering me specially when people get to talk about my empty love life. Is it reasonable to be fearful? Is it reasonable to find ways in order to meet someone? Please help me. I need an answer :(...
6 responses
@desiree91 (515)
• Malaysia
6 Jul 12
Hey don't live according to the way people expect you to! There is absolutely nothing wrong with you not having a partner and if you're fine with it, why let others bother you? Perhaps some might mock or jeer you but show them that they are wrong by standing on your own feet. This is not to say it's unreasonable to find a partner, but by living according to the standards people put up is unreasonable. My advice, don't be ashamed of being single. If people talk about your "empty" love life tell them on the face that you have your own agenda, you have your way of doing things.. well, nicely. :)
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@topffer (42156)
• France
6 Jul 12
Well said ! It is better to follow your own way, than to let others decide for you.
• Malaysia
6 Jul 12
And oh, I'm also a NBSB at the age of 21!
• Malaysia
6 Jul 12
@topffer: Exactly! There is an article I read a while ago about what some dying patients said about the regrets in their lives. One of those regrets were doing the things that people expect them to do, instead of doing what they truly wanted to do. This is not to say we can do all the wrong things that people look down to. Why want to have a boyfriend when you don't need one yet, just because people expect you to? Why rushing to earn a college degree just because people usually expect you to be university-educated as young as you can be? If you think you look good on blue, why wearing pink because people say it's attractive? Like, I hope you get what I mean!
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
24 Jul 12
Hey welcome to mylot! Don't be pressured. Life is unique. I do have friends who are NBSB and they are 35 for now. They are my batchmates in school. You should be worried if you are at their age. But then if you want to enter that kind of relationship for now and you think that no one is coming. Well, it's nice if you gonna join organizations in your community. Find ways to be surrounded by people like in church or any youth organization. It's gonna be fun! Good luck.
6 Jul 12
Being different has never been an easy task.Do you accept yourself the way you are?If you do, then forget what others say.Don't know how to respond when they ask you those annoying questions?Tell them to respect your choice.Just like you respect their choices.I never ask people why they are single,gay,Muslim,Atheist, Christian because it's not what I want to know about them.I want to know if they are happy.Happy world starts from happy people who feel comfortable in their own skin.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
6 Jul 12
I understand how you feel but if you still happy being single I think theres nothing wrong with it, after all your still young at your age. Most of my aunts had their first boyfriend at age of 30 and married at age of 33, they just wait for the right time , right man and pursue their carreer. Its easy to have a boyfriend or jump into a relationship but it hard to be hurt and dumped by other person if he is not the right one for you. I think you should wait for the right one who will love you more and never you. But for the meantime enjoy yourself because everything might change when youre in a relationship or when you already married.
@suni51 (3429)
• India
6 Jul 12
Hi- I don't see any problem if you like it that way and why to listen to people who have nothing to do with your status. This is your life and you have the right to live it the way you like. Follow your heart there is nothing wrong if they call you...whatever, that should make no difference.
@nyssa102 (748)
• United States
7 Jul 12
I was just like you are now, for the most of my life. I really did not wish to be involved or commit to anyone. I had no desire for a 'husband' house and kids. Just was not in the cards for me to be interested. Then, all of a sudden, I transformed, I'm still not into a 'husband', but I am ready for a friend/lover that could become my husband. I suggest that you stay the way you are and wait for your feelings to change naturally. I you push it, you may find yourself choosing anyone just so you are not alone, and then when you are married, you might just find the one you wish to be with. that would be a real nightmare. Now, is the time I am looking for someone to share my life with, now is my time. I never felt that way before, now I feel like I really want to help make a home with someone, but before, no way. I can't give advice, but I do suggest you wait until it is something you REALLY want. because I can tell you from experience, that when you feel the transformation, it's a real desire, not just an peer pressure thing. good luck!