Getting Married to Have Kids

As matter of fact, my ultimate intention also to have kid for the line of my family. I really want to have a complete family, without kids, I felt like only me and my wife, and I do want to have another person to share this happiness. So, I love kids, and I don't see anything wrong about kids. It is personal preference, some people do like kids, some people doesn't.

I actually never thought that people marry just to have kids. I assume that most people marry for love and while some do want kids, others just do not. Some of the ones that want kids are unable to have them but but love each other so they stay together and either adopt or accept that they can't have children.Everyone is different and so are their situations.

Hello Yan, Its not that all people marry to have kids. marriage is a bond which binds a couple to live together happily.I know many couples who did not had kids also they did not adopt any but still are happy with their married life.And there are couples too who had their own kids but they don't have happy marriage life.

I actually know someone whose specific goal was to get married, have kids and be a stay-at-home mom. Some folks do have that aspiration, but it is not for me. I am married, been that way for a long time, but we don't have any kids and we don't want to. I know personally I am too selfish for that. Children need love and attention; the love I would have no problem with, but the attention is another story, and because of that it would not be wise for us to have children. We tend to keep to ourselves, we don't socialize much and we don't go to parties. We see family on a regular basis, and we have a few friends that we visit (you could count them on one hand). What we do like to do, is anything on a whim; If we decide we want to drive to Niagara Falls for example, we just get in the car and go. We don't want to be concerned with having sitters for children or dragging them along if they don't want to go. When we go on vacation, we want a total change of normal routine, we don't want to simply relocate our home life to another zip code for 7 days. Then there is the problem with activities, kids have all kinds of things they want to join or be a part of, and parents should be there to encourage their children. I don't like schedules like that; schedules go against everything I believe in. I am on Mylot right now because I want to be, not because I have to be, and that is the way I like it. Children, whether natural birth or adoption is indeed a goal for a lot of people, and I commend them for their commitment. My wife and I found each other, and we share many commonalities; in fact we are both sitting here right now, both of us using laptops, but doing different things because that is what we choose. The commitment of being a parent is not something that would be proper for us.

Having children should not be the reason for getting married but it should be that the couple love each other. Because if you will get married for a certain condition, then what will happen in the absence of that condition?

Well, I think marriage used to give a couple the license to have kids and be prolific. However, nowadays, marriage is seen to be just a paper signed by 2 parties. Couples just make babies, intentionally or unintentionally.

I am married for 7 years now and have no kids. We may or may not have kids we aren't sure. We are just taking things day by day. If we have kids great, if we don't have kids we are just as happy! We are only 32 so we have time to decide yet

My mom's friend got married got married and she and her husband tried to have a baby but it didn't happen. She and her husband got tested and it turned out he had a problem. She didn't have a problem. She stayed with her husband and they adopted a baby girl from a teenager. Less than two years later they adopted a baby boy from a business lady. She felt so happy finally being able to become a parent through adoption. I know a lady that got married at age twenty years old and she tried to get pregnant for eight years. She had felt very much stress trying to get pregnant but it seeming never to happen. In the end she gave up trying which meant she became more relaxed. Amazingly she got pregnant and she wasn't even trying due to the giving up. She had identical twin boys. I think some people do get married to be able to get pregnant and have children. I think that a lady trying to get pregnant but it doesn't happen could be very stressful. Some couples split up due to the marriage being stressful and unpleasant.

Well if the main reason why two people get married is because they want to have kids then chances are they'd really separate ways if this did not happen. As for me the reason two people should get married is first and foremost because they want to be united as one because they love each other and are committed to spend their time together for the rest of their life with or without children. Having children is only secondary. It must be the result of their marriage and not the reason why they got married. Children for sure adds color to marriage but if and when they were not blessed with kids that does not mean their marriage will turn colorless. Love is beautiful just as it is. The couple just have to keep loving no matter what.

Really, it depends on what you want. You could be one of the people (like me) that would prefer to be married before having children. You could also just want kids and not care what people think about you being a single parent. Others don't want kids at all, and when they end up having them, give them up for adoption (a better choice than abortion, in my opinion, because (in some cases) a loving family that couldn't have children gets the baby they've waited for). In this day and age, it really doesn't matter if you're married or not. It's all up to you.

For me, you don't marry to just have kids. The main reason is because of the love and the fact that you want to spend the rest of our life with your partner. If you can't have kids, it's a shallow reason for marital separation. If you love your husband or wife, you'll gonna stay with his or her side no matter what. Adoption is always an option because children really brings more happiness to a family but of course it should be agreed upon by both partners.

To be with the one you love , forever in your life is the primary goal of being married. Along side with it , is the fruit of that love you shared with your chosen one. But if you were unlucky not to be able to have a child, it is the option of the couple to adopt a child. That way, you will both enjoy parenthood, which comes along with being with the one you love forever in life.

Hey there bro, Well in my opinion i will get married to have a life with my gal if we are not blessed with children i will just we will just try to adopt at least we will bring up a kid that is maybe not ours but will give her or him a bright future. How about you?

I don't think the purpose of marrying is just to have kids. I never even thought of that as a reason for getting married. What I believe is that, people marry because of Love and that they want to be together for the rest of their lives. And having children is their privilege or should I say their choice or option, if they want to have one or not, depending on whatever decision they are happy.

You don't have to be married to have children. some people are not shown that way. they may see that the only they can have children is to get maried. Marraige is a bond between two people that love and respect and honor each other. Children is a blessing from that union and the bonds of love and family should be respected and not taken for granted.

i think if a couple breaks up just because they can't have a kid then they don't really love each other. can't accept theirs as true love

Some people get married for kids, as that is what society has taught us. "You only have children with the person you've married." I, personally, have no desire at all to have kids, but am happily engaged right now. My fiancée and I are wanting to get married because we love each other and want to spend our lives together. If we have kids, we have kids, but it's not why we're getting married.