children left in the care of uncaring nannies
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
Philippines
July 7, 2012 11:15am CST
I am living in a condominium and most of the tenants here have kids of various ages. I don't really agree that children should be left with the nannies,i could see nannies beating the kids and sometimes i could see children being whipped and locked up inside a room. I could also see nannies talking outside with the other nannies. Some nannies always holding cell phones and sending messages.
I remember when my daughter was still small and i have to go earn a living. Sometimes i come home with my baby having diarrhea because the nanny did not clean and sterilize the feeding bottle. My daughter also had a nanny who keeps on sleeping while my daughter is crying asking for milk. I kept on changing nannies because i can not find a good nanny.
I pity the children, i also pity their parents because they did not know how was their children with their nannies at home. Of course there are good nannies but hard to find.
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@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
10 Jul 12
I thought that you are describing my inlaws maid. My inlaws has a young maid that help them to household chores and take care of my sister in law's son. We would always see the maid holding her cellphone. She would usually stop doing things and would focus on sending text messages. I got really irritated when I saw her ironing my sister in law's uniform for over 30 minutes because she would always stop for a while to do some texting. I complained about it but my sister in law got angry with me because she thought that I am telling her to limit their use of electricity.
The critical part is that this maid usually takes care of my husband's nephew. I have seen her dragging the child to go back inside their home and slapping the kid many times to stop. They in fact found out that this maid put the kid inside the cabinet but the maid said that the kid intentionally locked himself inside the cabinet. This maid also likes to shout and eventually, the kid has adapted the same manner. I told my husband about it but he said that his mother told him that they can't really talk to the maid because the maid might take that against them and might hurt the kid when they are not at home. They have already told the maid to just go home but the maid does not want to return to her province.
I have also noticed the way the maid washes the kid's clothes. After giving the child a bath, she would just soak the clothes in the water and would hang them after. I also found out that she is using this dirty brush we use to clean the sink to clean the kids feeding bottle.
Having seen those makes me wonder why they still let that maid stay. I know that my mother in law took her from their province and that they know the young girl's parents and maybe they are shy to send the girl back. But the kid maybe in danger if they continued to let her took care of him. There was this afternoon that my husband was shocked because he found the kid wandering outside her parents home with no one beside him. The maid said that she did not noticed that the child went out of the door.
With my experiences with this maid, I am not sure if I would let my own child live in our present house which is just walks away from this maid. I do not think that I can entrust my child with nannies whom I do not know personally. I would rather let my mom take care of my child if I am not around.
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
10 Jul 12
That is very common here paperdoll, how unlucky your nephew is for having that kind of nanny. When i witness kids being hurt by nannies, i felt so guilty because it seems that my daughter has also experienced the same with her nannies before. Good thing my daughter was not traumatized because i really see to it that on weekends i am the one taking care of her. Besides, i change nannies the moment i see signs that my daughter is not taken cared of very well like when she has frequent nightmares, or she has hematomas or pinch marks.
Your in-law should prioritize their grandson than their maid. Some bad experiences during childhood will affect his growth and development.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
10 Jul 12
That is so true triplejazzm51. Bad experiences during their childhood has huge effect in every child's growth and development and as early as now, I have already seen negative effects on him. I have told them many times that maybe they should need to change their nanny but until now, they still have them. Thank you for the tips on how I should know if I have to change my child's nanny. Yes it is important that we do check them everyday to see if they are being abused physically and emotionally.
@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
7 Jul 12
Now a days it is really hard to find a good nanny that will truely care for the children. I think it is better to live your children with your relatives or hire a relative as a nanny. I have no idea how it's like yet though but I also observed this traits from nannies around. They don't look for the children they have to take care of and they are very busy talking and texting to there mobile phones.
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
8 Jul 12
That is true meumeu, just a while ago there are two nannies at the hallway talking and laughing leaving behind the babies sleeping in their units alone. They are just plain irresponsible maybe. I wish mothers won't have to work anymore just take care of their children. Maybe online job will be good for them, so they will be working from home.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
7 Jul 12
I think that it is botrh sad and tragic when children are left with nannies that do not seem to care about their welfare at all. Children need nureturing through their growing up years. they need to left in the care of those who will support their needs. If you findyourself with an uncaring nanny, it is more than time ti find other childcare and these types of nannies do not deserve to have children to care for in the first place.