Keeping secrets, is it good in a relationship?

if you think your secret will disturb the peace of your relationship then dont tell..but if you think that your partner will come to know your secret from other sources.they you must tell.... its a bad feeling when others tell you about your own partner..

yes I do but for only reasons is because pass is pass and gone and before meeting the one your with and maybe was not so improved in the the marriage now. so somethings are better off not said if it is not brought up. and does not cause a problem..

Hi, I agree that a few secrets can be kept for maintaining peace in a relationship. But they should not be harmful ones. If one is hiding something really serious it is bound to come out one day and turn a happy relationship into a disaster. Trust is a very important factor in relationships. For me, I do not keep any secrets from my partner. My boyfriend is my best friend and I tell him everything that comes to my mind. For instance, if I find a guy attractive I will tell him that too and he takes it sportingly. I am a possessive person and if I get to know my partner has kept many secrets, I would have a lot of problems coping with that. I would not be able to accept that. Probably I would go into a bout of depression knowing my nature.

secrets are usually what causes marriages to break up. it would be hard to trust anyone if they keep too many secrets how much more if that person is your partner. the one whom you trust too tell you everything

I think only essencial things like specially one's sexuality, that is just a betrayal to hide, like there are stories of guys that went through their lives lying and then the wife finds out at 50 he was gay. I love gays but to lie about that is really unfair and unforgivable. Having a mistress/a lover, no one deserves that from the other one: want to have fun? One should be single for that, if not as much tempted they are they must remain loyal, I wish cheating was a crime already, it can bring even sickness back home. Now little secrets, embarassing things we really don't want to tell or maybe even hear from the other, if it's painful each part has all the right to remain in silence, it won't harm anyone

In a relationship sometimes keeping secrets is essential and sometimes destructive, essential in the sense that your keeping this away from your partner because it will potentially harm your relationship and your avoiding that, destructive because some of our secrets when found out by our partners may change their opinions about us and some will hates us for it

Dear friend, I feel the well going of relationship is most important. If a secret spoils and make problems let that secret be secret. But if the couples are confident enough to share secrets and still move with a healthy relationship I feel that would much better. It may depend upon how those couples understand each other well and trust each other. More than that if they want their family life to be happy forever, I feel secrets do not have much roles....

dear anna, I don't know how secrets can keep a relationship last longer (Whatever) In my relationship, I never keep any secret. My husband knows me, my family and my background and everything....but still my relationship did not last long....

I think keeping the secrets is really a important part of any relation. It all depends on your mutual understanding and it is not hard to keep the secrets if you understand and respect each other.

I think it will depend of the secrets. For example , I got marry and i didnt tell everything about my single life to my husband , what for? thats past. Also if he has somethings that he doesnt want to tell me , its ok , unless they affect our present life. But , we have the right to have a private life I guess. I hope i will never know that he keeps secrets from me and I want him never know my secrets either.. have a great day vijayanths.

Keeping secrets is not good in a relationship, In between husband and wife it will really ruin at the end, whatever we have to share.

Really it is ones wish to keep the secrets as hidden or open. In most of the good relation there is no such hidden things. I am just open to my friends. This will help you to not to put in troubles and if you are in troubles some one will help you.

Generally there should be no secret hidden between spouses,but much depends on the nature of your partner.If he or she is prone to smell a rat everywhere,you should think twice before divulging your secrets to him or her, otherwise you may end up spoiling your relationship.I have kept no secret hidden from my wife,because I know she believes and loves me.First,understand your partner's nature and then decide whether to disclose your secrets before him or her.

This depends on several things; who the parties are, has the young woman have a reputation as a cougar and pounce on old men for their money If so, can you sell your soul for money? We have all seen the results of old men marrying young women. They are looking for a trophy on the arm, to show people they still have it. Test the woman and see what she does if you tell her outright that the man has no money. If she is not a gold digger and the girl is not after his money, it is their business if they want to enter such a relationship as marriage. Larry King married in his sixties and had kids.. but then he is Larry King.

Hi viji, nice to see you, I disagree that Every man and woman do keeps secrets from their spouses/partners. If you do this, you are hiding things from your partner and that's wrong. If you can't tell your partner everything then you are being dishonest. I'm not talking about birthday surprises or other such secrets, I'm talking about things you hide from your partner.

In most marital situations, each partner might experience situations wherein either one or both have to conceal certain elements in order to maintain the peace and tranquility essential for comfortable living. It is not treachery or disbelief of any sort which necessitates such circumstances.

I think it is better not to keep secrets from your spouse. Sooner or later you may forget or slip and let the cat out of the bag. Then it will definitely spell trouble. The trust that you have built up may be destroyed by this. If your spouse is forgiving then it's alright. But why take the chance. True lasting relationship should be based on complete trust in each other.

Of course secret is the essential and real part in a relationship.you must share well between both and make sure that you dont spread the word among other members and remain loyal to each other for life.if i come to know that my partner has kept many secrets from me ,i will scold her and ask her to be real frank with me all time