why are parents so overprotective?

Honestly as long as you are living in the home of someone else, you should honor their requests for a certain behavior, and that included adhering to a curfew. With it being your parents that's even more important. Yes you are of "legal" age to no longer live there, however you do STILL live there. Once you have moved out, then the time you come home is up to you. Until that happens, even if it is only a "matter of weeks" it is polite to follow the curfew. By coming in so late you may be disturbing other people who live in the home. People may be worrying about you, especially if you indicated that you would be home sooner. Try to put yourself in someone else's position before getting angry and bent out of shape because you have been reprimanded for not following a curfew.

When they let you do whatever you want, they are careless, and when they look after you they are overprotective, so what can else can they do that won't have a negative name?

Hello shan and welcome to myLot. As a parent I can tell you why your parents are so overprotective of you. It has to do with eighteen years of of care and looking after you.As far as a curfew is concerned maybe they figured they could trust you to set your own. And they were worried when you changed it because your moving out in a few weeks. Parents worry It their God Given Right and responsibility too. You grow up faster than we parents can adjust to. For us it was just yesterday that we were changing your diaper kissing your hurts and making sure you were safe. It is like shifting gears in a car. We parents are slow to shift those gears in our thinking of you as grown up. It's not that we don't trust you (Well maybe we don't) to be grown up it's a hard adjustment to make as fast as you grow up. The thing is once a parent always a parent. My oldest is almost fifty years old and I still worry and tell him what to do sometimes. So cur your parents some slack. You will be out on your onw soon enough.

I don't thinkthat parents mean to be overprotective. I think that some parents just have a difficulty in letting go. Parents want a better life for their children and sometimes may go about showing this in a way that makes them look overprotective as parents.

Parents are "overprotective" if they really care about their offspring. We live in times of trouble, in every place around the world. When you move out you will live on your own but now your parents are charged with the responsibility about you.

Well it depends on you and what person you were in the past. If you were person that go out with friends or somewhere rarely than they will be always really overprotective. If you were more social going out everyday somewhere, making some troubles than just you parents get with it and it becomes something normal.

Depends on what the house rules are, how you treat your family and yourself. If you are 18, constantly in trouble, lyng, ect or there is a house rule with a curfew, then it is a big deal. If you work, pay rent, don't cause problems ns your parents have never spoken to you about a curfew, then it's not a problem

Hmmm as a parent i now understand how my parents felt back then. Parents will always be that protective, over protective even.. that comes as being a parents. that is better than having parents who does not care at all.

Or one could argue, why are 18 year olds so ungrateful for everything their parents have done for them? And why are they so disrespectful as to not obey the rules of the house until they move into their own homes? When you move out, it's up to you, but until you do you should show some respect in the house you are living in. Someday, most likely, you will be the parent and you'll understand what they are trying to teach you. Until then, you're an adult, but still mostly a child.

I guess it all depends on the parents and how they feel. As you have mentioned to others that you don't have a curfew they still obviously want you to be home earlier. I wouldn't let my daughter come home at 2 in the morning. Even if she was moving out in a few weeks. I guess it also depends on the area of where a person lives.

No it's not a big deal unless it broke your parents home rules. When I was 19 and lived at home, I worked in a bar. The bar didn't close until 3am, and sometimes I wasn't home until 4 or 5 in the morning. My mum was fine with me coming home at that time because I was working [she finds it hard to sleep until I'm home] However, if I was going on a night out I had to be home by 1.30 am lol!

we live in the house of our parents they will decide to us what we are doing. yup our parents are very protective because they will to what would be the outcome,

Because they love you and are trying to protect you from the bad in the world. Just imagine when you'll be a parent yourself, you will have so much love inside you that you will want to protect your child just like your parents are. I know how you feel but at least they care and love you. Isn't that enough? There are lots of children in care that wish they had parents like yours. Maybe you could appreciate that you have parents that love you! Being grown up isn't all that great, enjoy being a kid as long as possible! Regards!

Parents are so overprotective because they care for you. They want to make sure that you are okay. they want to know that you are fine and that nothing is wrong with you. If they did not care for you, then they won't be looking for you around 2 in the morning. they will just enjoy their sleep. But since they care for their child, they wait until the kid comes home and knows that their child is safe. You will understand this when you are a parent yourself. happy mylotting!

shansavy you wou ld have to be a parent to know what the really big deal is. I can see why parents get overprotective beca se at that time in the morning a lot of not good people seem to come out of the woodwork and prey on innocent 18yr olds that do not realize there is any danger. it depends on who the person is with, where he or she went and if this young person has been drinking.I realize some 18yr olds are very level headed while others are not. But parents worry about their kids when they are out, its normal for them to do so.