is it love or lust?
By joicerey
@joicerey (46)
Philippines
July 8, 2012 10:10pm CST
I have a very beautiful bestfriend, shes already a nurse and just recently broke up with his 4 years boyfriend. when she already move on she met a handsome policeman.. he ask for her number and they dated for 3 months...within the 3 months of dating they were already kissing and saying I love you to each other and act like a couple in the public but the guy did not ask her to be his gf so my friend did not assume that they were already committed even though she wanted it so badly... One day a coworker of the guy ask her if what they really are if they were lovers or not.. she don't want to assume and she believed that its proper that the guy will answer it... so she just said ask him... when he ask him the guy did not answer instead he ask my friend if what does she saw the way she treated her.. but still she don't want to assume so she told him that she saw it as friends... then after that the guy change and disrespectful to her. my friend was really upset and told him that she love him but the guy just told him to forget about her feelings because its just an admiration and don't expect anything from him and after that the guy disappear... its almost 6 months but my bestfriend seems can't move on and always thinking and dreaming bout him.. worst its a dirty dreams.. shes confuse about her feelings if she really love that guy or its just a lust... and she also wonder if that guy did love her and feel the same way she feels now or not...
4 responses
@Marvz18 (106)
• Philippines
11 Jul 12
Hello, I think its time to move on. It is really unhealthy to get into a new relationship when you have just finish a long one. It is quite clear that the policeman does not feel the same way as she does... If it is love or lust... it is another thing... Just charge it to experience... take care....:D
@gracie923 (162)
• Philippines
9 Jul 12
In Starting a relationship, they should have an open communication because it is for me the most important element in a good relationship, even though they were let say still mutual with each other. They didn't have a good communication since they met that's why they end up in a worst situation. Maybe you can help your friend forget the guys first and help her rebuild respect for herself because as I have seen she needs someone to do that for her before she ends up having a miserable life, like hopping from one relationship to another. Giving herself from one guy to another in her search for true love. True love needs respect that begins in ourselves.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Jul 12
Though I do think that it is possible to fall in love shortly after another long-term relationship has ended, I really feel like this is something that doesn't happen all that often.
With that said, it could very well be that this girl has found the love of her life. However, it is just as possible that the relationship that she is in right now really is just a rebound relationship.
@julianmac (396)
• Malaysia
9 Jul 12
Love and be loved in return. I think that's how a relationship works. The policeman had been missing for almost 6 months now and it's quite obvious that he doesn't want to have any kind of involvement with your friend anymore.
So,the best thing your friend can do at the moment is get on with her life and let time heal her pain and heartache. Only her heart can tell her if she is experiencing true love or pure lust. Advise your friend to indulge in other activities perhaps sports if she is up to it as this will help her to analyze her precise feelings.
