helping someone in legal matters

Personally, I would not want to work for a company that took so much interest in my personal life, especially when they went as far as telling me who I can and cannot marry (not to mention requiring me to get married in the first place). Still, I expect that your friend needs the job, especially in her current situation, so I guess that is not an option for her. I am very curious to know how the company knows that she did not marry the father of the child, though.

Most may find it rude, but I think she should just accept it and leave the office. She knew right before she had an illicit affair with that guy that it wasn't allowed in the office (or in any person for the matter). Then now she's pregnant, she wants to be given special treatment? Well, she just jumped from a fire to a bigger fire by marrying the guy's brother. What has the family got to say about that?? Anyhow, your husband is right. You should not have anything to do with it because she jumped into that problem herself. She should learn to find her own way out. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

Your friend married the guy's brother to stay on the right side of the office. They are being unreasonable because she wasn't able to marry the father of her baby. It was mean of him to have an affair with your friend and get her pregnant. He is married and he should feel ashamed of himself. The office has no right to meddle with your friend's lifestyle. Yes, this problem might get messy. I think your friend should take the office on alone. She should contact a lawyer. Good luck to her.

If it was only the marriage contract they needed then they should have just accepted it. I think that your friend should get a lawyer for this and settle it. I do agree with your husband though about not directly getting involve in all this as it could go messy, and besides there is really nothing you can do about it. You could probably suggest to your friend about getting a consultation from a lawyer about this and just be there to console her, and that's probably the best thing to do and as far as you can go. I really hope this problem gets settled in a positive way for everyone.

Hi jazel How does the office know that the current guy is not the father? I mean how are they so sure? That is the thing which must be clarified first before you take any decision to help your friend. You are a good person and I do appreciate you trying to help out your friend here. But then if your friend or the other guy went on saying everyone that they are messing up together... then the office has a valid reason and maybe some valid proof too. I agree that pregnancy leave is the right of a woman - no matter whether it was moral way or the immoral way - but this will get messy as your hubby says. So watch out and think twice. The other doubt I have is - if they consider this to be an immoral act, I wonder what they would say on In-Vitro fertilization (this is some medical process which some ladies who have gynecology problems and cannot become pregnant the normal way, go through and get pregnant) - it is time they should change their outlook towards this.

Hei friend I feel sorry for your friend ..We must help others when they are in trouble. But your friend too had to think twice before getting in to trouble. The company too has no right to reject her appeal, since it was up to her .

and yes,, y didnt she thought of these things earlier???? useless question at this point but important for othrs to learn..

definitely you should help bt how????? better give her sm valuable insights to improve her mental powers as far as office is concerned, i think they are not interested in keeping her and thats why finding excuses....

Yep things can get pretty crazy when trying to help. the way the system works today will drive you insane. I would say be there for her as a friend, and let her straighten out what she has gotten herself into. I know its hard thing to do but its the only way these adults figure out how to do it for themselves. But there is nothing wrong having a good listener over a good cup of tea or coffee. Sometimes we have valuble advice to give and sometimes the best is just to listen. bless you for what you have been trying to do. take a break and have a cup of tea for yourself!

as she did some thinh wrong she had to be carefull..but now time can not come.so better not to think about past..but as a friend and as a human you have to help her.because every can b go through problems..so when we our sleves get involve in any kind of problem than we do blame other persons why they are not helping me..think it to take your self in hers place.you will get a better answer