Is it love?
By nita04
@nita04 (268)
Philippines
July 10, 2012 12:14am CST
Is it love, by sticking to our husbands even though we are very much opposite in attitudes and principles? Is it love when you just keep it to yourself the hurt he had done to you, emotionally and physically, trying to justify it,"for the sake of the children"? If this is so then wives out there are super humans.
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10 responses
@churchill1980 (764)
• Philippines
13 Jul 12
i think before you could give love to someone, you must have lots of it for yourself too. you cannot give something you don't have. if you'll just stay in a relationship just because of the kids and for the sake of having a family, then it's not love anymore. you have to value yourself first, before you could value anything around you. for me, if things comes to worst, to the extent of losing my self respect and love (which will be the worst thing to happen) i would never have a second thought of asking for my freedom. although, it will be easier said than done, but as long as i am still on my right mind, i would really let go of myself from the things that would hurt me at the end.
@nita04 (268)
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
churchill1980, Yes I hope I could be like you but like you said it is easier said than done. I still have to consider a lot of things before thinking in that aspect. I am the kind of person who think of others first before myself. How I wish, how I wish. Thank you. All your words will be kept in my mind and hoping some day I would wake up and realize all is well. What I'm battling now is to transform him into what we wanted him to be. I hope.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
11 Jul 12
Hi nita04, I understand how you feel but I think this is not love, this is more on hurting yourself physically and emotionally. Never to stay in a relationship or marriage if there's no love at all and it just because of your children. My parents stayed together for how many years without love they kept on fighting and there's no peace on our house. As a child most of the time I wished that they separated a long time ago that seeing them fighting and hurting each other. It is not healthy for your children if they can see you getting hurt physically and emotionally, for sure inside their heart they really affected but there have no choose but to bear the pain.
@wizteen (502)
• India
10 Jul 12
Love is when you find harmony among all those differences dear. But if the differences hurt you it is most certainly not something to stick to, This is one of the reasons why i don't like arrange marriages where you are stuck with someone who you don't know about.
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
10 Jul 12
If you really love a person, who will accept the person regardless of what the person is. We have to accept them from who they are. The good and bad, the best and worst.
@Kashidanga1971 (1354)
• Bangladesh
10 Jul 12
Our society is a male dominant one where males are habituated to dominate over females both physicall and mentally.
Thus males are hindering females' spontaneous emergence and development. As a result our overall developement is discouraged and retarded. Females should protest these ill domination and males should aware of and be scientific enough to realise that such ill domination should be eradicated for the sake of building a peaceful and prosperous country.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
10 Jul 12
I don't know if it's love, but I know it's what you call 'being a wife'. But if he's hurting you physically and you're justifying your actions - that's not your job as a wife, but that's martyrdom.
There is respect in love and if you don't have respect for yourself, it's no longer being a 'wife' nor is it love.
Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@kkaria309 (297)
• United States
10 Jul 12
Keeping physical hurt inside ourselves is not love, it is hiding domestic abuse. And even emotional hurt. But that depends. Every couple has their fights and arguments, but its up to us to know when the limit is crossed and what is the actual purpose behind fighting. I might fight with my bf because I care about him too much and he is not taking care of himself. That kind of fight would be okay. Fighting because I saw him with flirting with someone else, that is a bad fighting.
@saad1122 (100)
• Pakistan
10 Jul 12
no this is not love..its love but only for the sake of childrens.you both dont have any thing which u guys can call is love...love is based on true felings..when you are in love you do compromises,you do stay,and you do ignore eac others mistakes..but the real love based on that you dont ever hurt him or her..
