virginity, love, and age.

@monkmano (585)
Canada
July 10, 2012 1:50am CST
I am 20 years old and have never had s*x, or a boyfriend, or a kiss. I don't really read people or understand where theyre coming from. To be blunt I do have aspergers (to give you a picture) I feel like i missed a lot of oppurtunities of connection because of this. but how do i move forward and change this, it isnt so easy to just connect with people and i think the knowledge of where i am incapable is somewhat torturous. This is less about the s*x and more about finding someone who CAN love me for all i am and how to actually find them. but when/if i do will the virginity factor just add another thing to get over with me? i dont know if any of these questions can really be answered, but i find comfort in sharing things through mylot.
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4 responses
Angelo Abuda
@aabuda (1722)
• Philippines
10 Jul 12
I think virginity is not an issue. If you are a lady, then don't bother yourself. There is nothing wrong with staying virgin until you get married or until you finally meet your chosen guy, should I say....but for men nowadays, it is already an issue for them if they will be staying virgins at that age....I even have a friend who contacted a gay just for him to experienced things which he is missing for a couple of years in his life! So it depends on you actually...
monkmano
@monkmano (585)
• Canada
14 Jul 12
thank you, i should look on the positive side of being more ladylike, rather than being prudish or different for being a virgin perhaps in others eyes. i think it is more acceptable for women to be virgins than men, that seems to cross cultures.
aerous
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
11 Jul 12
Well, that is good enough that you kept your virginity intact and nothing will touch you and being divine. I think you did the right thing and that the best for guy that will be your man someday.
cutygirl
@cutygirl (576)
• India
10 Jul 12
all thinks the same and at the end all do it one day, you are right from your view but sometimes physical needs are more than mental.
choybel
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
10 Jul 12
In countries like ours, a woman who is a virgin is more likely to be sought than others. It's actually funny when I see movies where being a virgin becomes a turn-off because personally, I think it's a turn-on for me, and I believe I speak for many guys in my country as well. With regards to finding love and intimacy with a person, I believe that it all just happens on the right time given that you do not force things.