could there be such thing?

@0310mg (73)
Philippines
July 10, 2012 4:23am CST
my high school biology teacher told me that you could only find true friend when you reached college. As a high school student, I really hope for this to happen. But now, I am graduating from college and found none at all. I guess it really isn't true after all.
8 responses
@nyssa102 (748)
• United States
10 Jul 12
True friends are everywhere. You just have to go through a lot of mess in order to find any, that's all. You just have to keep meeting people and meeting more people until you find those that are loyal and like you for who you are. There really is no set formula. If you end up having maybe 5 excellent friends in one lifetime then I think you've done well for yourself. I once knew this lady, who had tons of Xmas cards in her house. She bragged about all the friends she had because of the cards. But when push came to shove, and something happened, none of them could be found. They weren'r really friends, just people who signed a few cards. So I think that is how one has to look at it. True friends will go through a lot of effort for you, as you would for them. It's the fair weather ones that are only around when things are good, that you do not want. The only way to see if you have an excellent friend is Time, time is the basic yard stick. I think you will meet them soon :) Just take your time and do a lot of listening to people. Those who listen are often have more friends, because you are showing how much you actually care for someone. :)
@0310mg (73)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
you've mentioned listening, that's what I'm doing all this time. Sometimes it made me think of who'll gonna listen when it's my turn to share. Nonetheless, listening really enriches the heart.....funny, but I also had tons of well-kept letters at home. I read them over again and ponder those promises of lasting companionship. All of the responses were so true, I'm gonna hid those. Thanks a lot.
• China
10 Jul 12
hi 0310mg, i'm sorry that i don't agree with your biology teacher and i also don't agree with you. i think you can find a true friend any where if you show your heart to someone and also he/she respond the same. it need time and honest to found a long term relationship. i believe there's a true friend waiting for you. i wish to become your new truely friend.
@0310mg (73)
• Philippines
10 Jul 12
hello there Gretchen, I do hope you're well. I'm really glad that you would perhaps want to be my friend. Maybe my teacher and I were wrong but I really hoped I could find one 5 years ago until one day I just quit hoping. Your response really made me smile. Thank you, and I would really love to hear from you.
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
10 Jul 12
I dont know if this is true for all people. I met my best friend when we were in middle school. I actually didnt meet anyone in college really. But that might be because I went to a community college and never went to any of the activities that were a part of the college scene. I met my husband after that, way after that. Along with a very small number of people that I see as my best facebook friends.
• Malaysia
11 Jul 12
There's no specific time for you to meet a true friend but at some point in your life you're sure to meet at least one. Some people find their true friend in primary school, some much later in life. But I wouldn't give up or be sad that I haven't found such a person yet.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
10 Jul 12
He probably said this because he wanted to say that college life is so much more serious than high school life, and in college you get to have real life problems more often than in high school, so it's highly probable that there are less people who will stick with you through all this, and possibly none at all, not to mention that they also have their problems to attend to. In a sense, it is just saying that as life gets harder, you begin to know who your real friends are.
@desiree91 (515)
• Malaysia
12 Jul 12
You biology teacher might be joking, mate. True friends may exist anywhere anytime. I think you know that.
• India
10 Jul 12
well, I too don't agree with your teacher,, you can have true friends at any time,, maybe a childhood friend even.. it just isn't about your age,, its like how honest you are to each other no.
• Malaysia
10 Jul 12
There is such thing if you're willing to go the extra mile into achieving it. I'm talking in a broader sense, not just finding real true friends. Did you try to mix in and mingle or did you say "sorry, i'm busy studying at home and i can't follow you guys".