Are you going to help your kids with tuition costs?
@mytwo_daughters (2663)
United States
November 21, 2006 2:50pm CST
We all know tuition for college is outrageous, are you going to help your kids with college?
13 responses
@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
15 Dec 06
Yes, we have done that. They need an education, and some help to get started.
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@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
16 Dec 06
Yes, but they don't appreciate the sacrifices at all.
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@mytwo_daughters (2663)
• United States
15 Dec 06
thanks for your response. It's good your kids have you to help!
@mytwo_daughters (2663)
• United States
17 Dec 06
I think woman make the most sacrifices ever! Even more than men, and rarely do people realize or thank for the sacrifices being made.
@ossie16d (11821)
• Australia
2 Jan 07
We always encouraged our son as he was growing up and so when he won a scholarship to do his degree it was great as he would have had one huge debt at the end of it. As things turned out he did 3 of the 4 year degree courst and finally decided that it wasn't for him. He wanted to be a farmer so he left, but also had no debt either from the time he was studying.
I think that if parents can help then they should and that help might include treaching them how to save as well as encouraging them to get a part time job before they go on to further education. At least this way they can continue to work during their education years plus have a little financial independence. Parents can still contribute, even if it is by way of supporting their child still living at home.
As parents, I believe we have a responsibility to clothe, feed and educate our children. That does include helping with their fees should that be necessary, so when at one time our son indicated he might go back to University we said we would give him some financial assistance. However, he looked at his bank balance and then decided it was time to see the world. LOL
I do have to say though, that even though he is an adult, if he did decide to go back to University then our offer of financial assistance would still stand, even though he would need to get a part time job as well to help him through. :)
@mytwo_daughters (2663)
• United States
2 Jan 07
You sound like a great parent! My parents couldn't help out financially, but I lived at home until I finally got my degree...which was a long time. I do not feel a parent needs to let them stay at home in their mid 20's. However, good paying jobs, in order to move out, suck, and with minimum wage the way it is...I don't understand how anyone can live on their own. I did pay some rent however. Having a roof over my head while in college,,,I am grateful for that.
We as parents, feel as you do, and we do put money in our childrens accts. They don't know this, nor do we want them to. It is for college, or any emergent expense that might occur. We of course would prefer them to go to college...but whether that will happen or not is totally up to them.
@mytwo_daughters (2663)
• United States
2 Jan 07
I would like to add, if either one decided to go to a trade, or design, or computer school...that would be just as fine!
@faithfulheart (18)
• United States
16 Dec 06
I came from a family with four kids and my parents did not put any money away for us to go to college, so I put myself through college without one penny of support from my parents. It was very difficult. I had to work--a lot--but I really feel like I earned my degree.
My daughter is getting ready to go away to college next year and I am debating how much I am going to help her financially. I have two other children and I am also trying to save for retirement--something for which there is no financial aid. I don't want to see her struggle, but I don't want to go broke myself. It's a tough call.
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@mytwo_daughters (2663)
• United States
16 Dec 06
It is very hard, but I applaud you for trying to help. We as parents can't always be there for our kids, but I feel if we help or try to during times like these...going to college, wedding...those are the times that they will remember. Thanks for your response!
@mytwo_daughters (2663)
• United States
15 Jan 07
These days old buddy, if you don't have a diploma or some kind of degree, you can't earn a decent wage. Congrats on your associates, and I'm sure your kids appreciate your help with their college fees/ or tuition!
@vivasuzi (4127)
• United States
5 Jan 07
My parents paid my way and I plan to (well I hope to) do the same for my kids! It's just the best way to make sure your kids get through college. For us, college wasn't really a choice, it was just something everyone I knew was doing and almost as natural as going to high school. I want my kids to feel the same way, as if it's something they just gotta do.
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@mytwo_daughters (2663)
• United States
15 Jan 07
I don't think my parents ever thought their kids would ever go to college. I surprised them when I told them I wanted to. I think when my brother dropped out of junior college, they hoped no one else would be interested, so they didn't need to worry. I had a place with a roof over my head. I paid rent, had everything, or most everything done for me.
@kylesmiles (1910)
• United States
16 Dec 06
Well, we hope to teach him that he does have to work for a living. We want him to be independent as well. I have started saving for his life/college fund. But as he grows, he's going to earn an allowance, etc. Depending on our financial situation when the time comes, hopefully we can help him!
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@mytwo_daughters (2663)
• United States
16 Dec 06
Those are excellent ideals to instill! We are doing the same! Thanks for your response!
@GardenGerty (160677)
• United States
16 Dec 06
I encouraged my kids to do the things that would help them get grants, scholarships and loans, because I knew that I would not have a whole lot to help them with. In fact, my son's freshman year in college, his dad was dying. Due to social security disability, when my daughter went to school she had a little saved. My son only went to school one year, his heart was not really in it.My daughter went 5 years, counting that she began while she was in highschool. She attended a private Christian college, and received lots of assorted financial aid. Her final bill was less than many people owe for one year, but she worked really hard to earn those scholarships and grants. That was the best I could do for them. Be attentive to their extracurriculur activities in HS, get them started applying for all financial aid that might be available.
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@mytwo_daughters (2663)
• United States
16 Dec 06
Excellent answer! I too came from a family with only a little money, and of course my parents never thought I'd go to college. I got a pell grant right away, and didn't do well for a long time. When I started to do well I got very small nursing scholarships which helped out with books. We are hoping to help our girls save a little for college. Thanks for your response.
@mtgrlz_zerocool (708)
• Romania
2 Dec 06
i don't have kids yet, but when i do i will help them because education is very important
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@mytwo_daughters (2663)
• United States
3 Dec 06
Excellent, I think you'll be a great parent. Thanks for your response.
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
15 Jan 07
Of course I am. In this day and age in order to get a great job (career) you need a college education. My daughter is only 10 and in 5th grade. I cannot imagine what they will need in 10 years to have a great career. 4 year- masters, doctorate..
I will support my daughter in any way I can. Take out student loans and pay them while she is in school- help fill out financial aid papers- you name it- we'll do it.
College is so important!
@Harendrakumarkiran (101)
• India
3 Jan 07
I do not have kid do I am not able to say anything right now.
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@cyb3rjunk13 (470)
• United States
15 Jan 07
I will since i think it is my responsibility to make them stable.I would want them to respect me when iam old.If i will support them then they will have a respect in their heart for me that i was there when they needed me.