live separately with husband
By Zhizho
@Zhizho (1350)
Indonesia
July 10, 2012 11:26am CST
Hi mylotters. I just share my uncomfortable condition right now. My husband placed by his office in a branch of company and it is in a small town that I dislike to live there for some reasons. Last month, I back into my home and live separately with him. I really did not like this condition because we never live separately before. Fortunately, I have two little kids. five years and 16 months old. So, I don't feel lonely. My husband back home to visit us once in two week but he often have work here for meeting in center office, so he come once or twice in a week. We have talk about it but I have try to follow him for six months and i was so bored there. We keep contact by phone. every morning, day and night before our kids sleep. I know that my kids dislike this condition and my husband miss my kids surely. So do I. LOL. I just try to be patient through this condition.
How about you, do you live far from your family or your husband? share here, how you trough that time? thanks for response.
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5 responses
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
17 Jul 12
I've stayed away from my husband. However, only 2 months. I am now, following my husband, and lived with my husband. For now, I live with my husband, I was living away from family. As a wife, I must follow my husband. Even if I feel uncomfortable, I will try to adjust.
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@Zhizho (1350)
• Indonesia
18 Jul 12
Hi Indah. It is good decision you made. Surely, you have some consideration when you decided to stayed away or follow him. Now, I am pregnance and I think that it is not comfort for me live there. Fortunately, My husband have to work here (where i live now) two or three days in a week or two week. so he back home and spent time with us. so, it is not feel really separately. I just bored there but I will back stay there although sometimes I visit my house here.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
11 Jul 12
at least you come back madam...I always see you online via facebook..maybe it is the best way for reducing your loneliness :)...
when the situation changed like that??i think you and your kids is still staying one city with your husband..
so where do you stay and where does your husband stay now??
iam unmarried..and i live with same town with my parents..
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@Zhizho (1350)
• Indonesia
18 Jul 12
My husband has work in Lampung since last year. we lived in Palembang before for 1,4 years because his work too. so, from Palembang we stay in Jakarta and my husband in Lampung. We stay about five months before I follow him. I have tried to live there since January but stiil visit our house in Jakarta for three days. Since June, I decided to live in Jakarta again. Maybe next month I will follow him because it must be uncomfortable to spend Ramadhan separately.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Jul 12
lost response copy i think you should take the kids and go back to that boring town and find something to occupy yourself to unbore yourself.breaking up a family is no way to run a family at all, its not fair to any of you. go back there and occupy yourself with
things that you enjoy.now most economies
are down and jobs should be held onto. make some sacrifices and keep your family together.i find this younger generation much too easily bored myself I would never have lived apart from my husband no matter what.
are down and jobs should be held onto. make some sacrifices and keep your family together.i find this younger generation much too easily bored myself I would never have lived apart from my husband no matter what.@Zhizho (1350)
• Indonesia
18 Jul 12
Hi Hatley. Thanks for response. Yes for some wife, they have principle that wherever her husband live, so does her. We agree and We have the principle too. I have some activity there and now they wait for me. I am in thinking to back there because together must be better. But i wait for something here now.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
10 Jul 12
I have same situation before with my husband.
I know it's quite difficult at first, but later you will get use to it.
Unless you will have the chance to follow and lived where he is working, that's the best option that you can do.
@Zhizho (1350)
• Indonesia
18 Jul 12
Thanks for sharing jaiho. You know how the feel, right. because you have experienced about it. yes, for the first, it is so hard. Take care for kids especially at night. moreover, when they get sick like I face now. Together must be better. So, we try to be together once in a week. I start thinking to follow him next month.
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@musicluv4life (1867)
• United States
10 Jul 12
That would have to be so hard, I am not married but, i am always with my boyfriend i would hate to not be able to see him and we dont live together but very close.
However, i dont live with my parents i havent for about 5 years i been living with my grandmother so i dont see my dad and his girlfriend and my sister and step brother as much as i would like to also, i see my mom and her boyfriend her my sister on her side even less.
Its not always easy on me but, i know what has to be done.
my sibbling are all much younger then me, i will be 19 next month i have a 7 year old step brother a 4 year old sister and a 3 year old sister. I miss them more then anything.
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@Zhizho (1350)
• Indonesia
18 Jul 12
Thanks for your time to share here. Yes, we would like to close with our lovely people. Although, there are some situation make us must be separately. That is show how we need them, their presence make spirit, that i feel. since i was married, i am living different city with my mom and meet her only once in a years. so does with my sisters. We miss each other and try to find time to make gathering at my parents house.
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