Too much worrying
By misty54
@misty54 (6)
United States
July 11, 2012 10:32pm CST
In the past,I have been cheated on, backstabbed, dealt with drama, you name it I have probably dealt with it in my past relationships. It has really made me to where it is super hard for me to trust another guy. I have an awesome boyfriend now and I don't want to push him away because I am too worried. What do I do?
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6 responses
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
Like you I have been cheated too and dealt with lots of drama in my past relationship but I became more strong and better person after those heartaches and trial in my life. As you mentioned you already had a awesome boyfriend and if your relationship is strong I think there is no reason to worry about. I understand how you feel, it really hard to trust person after having bad experienced in past relationship but know that there is someone who's loving you slowly try to trust him until you will overcome your fear. Goodluck
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
Pain make us stronger and bad experiences teaches us good lesson to learn.
It is not easy to trust once you are betrayed, but giving other people a chance to prove that everyone has differences.
There is nothing wrong trusting once again, but you must know your limitations and past is your guide to avoid being hurt again.
@rsa101 (38148)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
Well since you said you are with an awesome BF for now then I guess you should not worry that much and start trusting again. Although you said in the past that you have dealt with all kinds of disappointments and trust issues with your past relationships. I guess those are there to give you lessons that you need to bring to have a relationship that you really wanted. It is not to lost trust but to let you know for whom you should give your trust.
So for now I would advise you to enjoy the moments with your BF and bring the lessons you learned from your past loves to better guide you on how to love and trust the person you are with right now.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
12 Jul 12
It would be hard for you since you undergo dramas in life. It would be helpful if you think positively and enjoy what you have right now. If you keep thinking negative things then you're attracting the universe to send you what you were thinking, then it will happen and affect your relationships later on. Then the problem starts in you and cause him to leave you for being paranoid. But, don't forget to be cautious.
@Gautam1002 (730)
• India
12 Jul 12
It is nice to hear that you have a boyfriend, after all these, whom you feel to be the right one for you. Yes I agree that it would be really hard for you to trust any other guy, but I would suggest, since you are happy and contended with your current relationship, that you should regain a better temperament towards guys considering all guys are not same, and moreover it is the best time for you to do it as you have someone very special with whom you can share every bit and get support during hard times.