Remaining passionate for your partner in a long distance relationship: NOT EASY!
By Gautam1002
@Gautam1002 (730)
India
July 11, 2012 11:26pm CST
How do you sustain the same zeal, passion for your partner in a relationship once you come across the bitter truth of staying far away from her? How do you get away with negative feelings you are bound to give birth to?
I lost a very special person, my first girlfriend, in the same manner. Passion started to decline down once she was away for too long. At no point I would accept that I did not love her. Pointing out "no physical contacts" as the sole reason would be unfair. It is something very hard to express.
I am again in same situation. But certainly I do not want it to go the same way. What should I do? I request all those who had successfully continued with their distance relationship to advice me. THANK YOU
6 responses
@halsyme (13)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
I think there should be a great foundation for it to sustain the love and with the technology present today you can easily spend time together on video chat, you can still communicate to her and tell her everything about your day and so. Communication is an integral part of a relationship so at least with video chat you can have it even you are away from each other. But if physical contact is what you need and might get tired from not getting it then maybe long distance relationship isnt really for you. If you love her you will work it out for sure because all that matters is how you feel with each other if the love is strong enough to get you through this or it lacks that it can break your long distance relationship. Just think and reflect on what you feel. :)
@yansky23 (404)
• Philippines
13 Jul 12
Yes, unlike back then, it's really hard to keep a long distance relationship. But with technology today, it's never an excuse that you have fallen out there of love. We already have various ways to communicate. We can do text messaging,Facebook, twitter, email, long distance calls and the best way of communication is through video chatting.
@Gautam1002 (730)
• India
13 Jul 12
Thank you all of you. Actually Guys!!! I understand what you people want to convey and I truly agree with you all. But since I had such an experience before, I am kind of scared from within of loosing this one for the same cause. Many of you are paying emphasis on technology which is of course a very good servant. But with due respect to you all, just try to get my situation, I have been with her for 7 months now. She was "near" me for two of them, then she went away. Now it is like we will be living somewhat 700 km away for 5 long years. We are in our college years,and so, studies expenditures, video facilities may not go our way. I am quite serious and concerned for my career and future. Please do not take it this way that I would not dedicate myself to her, but you know, a slight disbalance, and it is all over. I have seen this all before. This is exactly what happened. I request you all not to take my words in other sense. I duly respect your replies, and will surely give my best. THANK YOU
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
16 Jul 12
My boyfriend has been gone for 2 months in the army, I haven't seen him and I've barely gotten to talk to him. For us, the distance has made us realize we love each other so much more than we thought we did before. Our feelings have gotten stronger even though we're far apart.
We've been together over 2 years so maybe that helps when in a long distance relationship too.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
12 Jul 12
I have had two long distance relationships in the past. The first relationship didn't last, but my second long distance relationship went much better and eventually we were able to move into together. In my second relationship my boyfriend and I weren't able to meet in person because of the distance between our towns, so we had to stay in touch in other ways. We had long phone conversations and we exchanged long letters and parcels. One of the best ways to keep the passion alive were the surprice parcels that we exchanged. It was a wonderful surprice to receive an unexpected parcel from my boyfriend, and sometimes he added some photos or poems that he had written.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
12 Jul 12
Love isn't always being together it takes sacrifices for you too feel if your love is real and pure. What happened to you before was you lose hope, trust and fear of getting cheated and get hurt. So, you stop loving the person. As your statement it shows that you regret those moment you let go of her and now you are afraid to commit the same mistake. You indeed really love the person.Now, your in time same situation i guess it's your chance to correct your mistake and action you did before. Being apart is not a hindrance in expressing your feelings. There are so many ways you can do and make the person so special. I am telling all these because i am in a 8 year long distance relationship, trust and love makes our relationship survive. If i can do it, you can do it. Good luck on your chosen journey!
@yansky23 (404)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
Yes, that's definitely true. That's why I have hesitations if I can handle a long distance relationship if ever I'll work abroad. There are many incidence of broken family because of long distance relationships. But if you really love her, you'll do anything to keep in touch with her, and being in a long distance relationship isn't an excuse. If you entertain the thought that you don't love her anymore is your own fault. With the technology present today, it's never an excuse that you have fallen out of love, because real love will find a way. Perhaps, you just don't love her that much. Because true love will never allow falling out of love to happen. There are various ways to keep in touch, there are facebook, twitter and texting. And the best way to keep in touch is by video chatting.
@Timeout (419)
•
12 Jul 12
Long distance relationships can survive if you guys have plans! I talk from experience. If you don't have plans, you will most likely not make it... I don't want to disappoint you, but one of you will have to move where the other is...
My ex and me were happy together until his mom adviced him to move 500 miles away from me, at first I didn't care because we loved each other so much, but then he started BANNING me from going out. What?? He knows all my friends! He knows I have a lot of male friends but they are gay all of them and he's friend with them too! It was such a pain in the neck every time I went to the cinema, then he tries to make me feel guilty saying "I know he suffers every time I go out and I still do it, I am a bad girlfriend!", he used to tell me I will end up raped and killed in the middle of a forest... That showed me his real himself, so I broke up with him, his mother was so happy.
Now I am in another relationship, sorta distance one, but not long, we live just a couple of hours away, and I plan to move with him very very soon so we are doing fine. We see us every other week and in the mean time we speak on the phone.
