"How Deep is Your Love?"

Hi praaji Of course there is care, affection, worry etc. But those do get often misinterpreted. Until someone accepted my love, my caring or even affection would mean nothing to him/her and chances are that they will never be interpreted in the right notes... The gauge in the heart seems interesting though

gauge in ones heart? pretty interesting..hmmm.. but then is it really our heart dictating how we feel? but all these emotions come from our mind right?

The ones coming from mind or brain are selfish I guess, those always try to calculate the loss and profit, kinda make a balance sheet.

Hi VP And what is that Unique Gift? A Dinosaur or a Girraffe from the Dicovery or Animal Planet

Hi anna, yeah that is a nice suggestion, give him a gift of his choice.

jo, yes. Kids always expect surprise gift and get a lot of excitement while receiving it. sid, if your nephew likes a dinosaur or girraffe, there is nothing wrong in providing them as a gift for him

hi didi This is why I say, for kids, everything seems fair

Hi sreekala, how are you? yeah my son also same category. Children can't understand so soon though we make them to understand. Have a nice day.

The funny ones on the Internet... I have been a player on some such sites and they really come up with weird things many a times... like on one, they came up with the fact that I was pregnant despite me providing them with my gender as Male

Hi Sid/Viju, Thanks for understanding me. The internet love meter is really funny and sometime it is worth too..., in my office (alongwith my colegues) we were trying it when we got it for the first time (some years before) and we were measuring by adding with our wife's/hb's name and mostly with lover's name (as unmarried). I added with my wif's name and the percentage of love broght down to 18% and after I tried with the girl who works with me (good looking and nice young unmarried) girl and the meter showed with 98% - Wowwww! Gone! Now the issue come up that who has the love? I got love to her or she got love to me. They come to a conclusion that as long as I got only 18% love to my wife, this 98% is the real love that I had to my co-working girl. Anyway, it was a hot-topic for others to discuss and we both had a SPECIAL attahment aftewards. Anyway, it given me some kind of extra pleasure, not even telling directly to her, she though I like her (it was a fact) and even she had the same to me (later on she disclosed). But nothing beyond a limit and we all are good friends even now also. But the true love and the liking of the people each other is alwyas there. It is not necessary that as I got married to a girl I should ONLY love her for the rest of the life and we CANNOT even like or love anyone else whome we feel a speical attraction. Oh! Where I am going, just opened a corner of the mind and it started overlapping everything. I think I got a China made tap on my heart and I need to replace with a Japan made tap to keep it intact!!! Sid, please excuse me, we have to suffer a lot in our life to keep everyone happy!!! This is a true fact and I think everyone will agree to it.

hi, Yes, trying out those funny love calculators on net is a real fun and total free time activity. thre is also a love meter too, Sid - you can check them to know the deepness dear...

most kids do but mine does not akp, they now measure my love according to how many times i get mad at them! That is why i am sooo careful as i am having mood swings and when i get mad they would often say mama does not love us!

#jazel: they now measure my love according to how many times i get mad at them I am aware about this - my mom. But now after so many years, I realize that this was the way of hers to show that she cares - took a while but when I did understand this the relationships have strengthened more

Yes... That one also one of the instrument for them.. More louder we go on them, that instrument saw less love in it..

Hi viji Missed yah! I agree - the gifts many a times can be a measure of love. I am on one such gift from you since the past few days and I know I would be healthier. Doesnt that suffice for how much you love me as a friend? maybe a brother? or even maybe as a patient?

Wow I am so happy I want you to get well soon from all your ailments and have to run like everyone. Hmmmmm...... If you are a patient I need huge fees, so I would buy some new gadget in market lol. But I take you as my friend and then my brother from now.

hi jazel Love personally to me cannot be measured. And it is good that we dont have a concrete system to measure how deep it is. I agree with you that love is much more beyond all these joules, kws and volts etc. #praaji: Moreover gauging it is not fair, that would make it a business. Love is beyond measurements.

True, but you know about it instantly, without fail, you simply can't miss it. No way. Moreover gauging it is not fair, that would make it a business. Love is beyond measurements.

I think that you should be able to make some rules right this very minute

Hi JenInTN I am not sure, but when I get to power and make some rules - I am surely going to have something for working grannies - a full 6 months leave from work with pay - only criteria - cuddle and care for the Grandchild for at least the first 6 months. I can feel when you say I have no idea how to relate my love to the new Miss Keely Jenn - maybe this way you can find some good time I love your suggestion and would tell him this - or rather explain him this fact - ummm much before his b'day, so that if he doesnt understand, I still have time to get him some gift

ohh i got carried away! it is better to talk to mature people rather than a 9 year. the latter measures love the materialistic way. so you have to have a lot of explaining to do.

Hi akka The kids are so innocent. they find happiness in small things and are easy to satisfy. This is one reason, many indians (and maybe other countries too) believe that kids are gods. I love it when I have some choco for my nephew, and I tell him, I have nothing for him. And he would make faces that you would love to look at... wicked I know but then, I love that innocence on his face, it is so expressive

hi SimplyD good to see you - hope you are now all fit and back to work which is the reason you show up less here yes dear, kids are that way. They have their own scales of measuring and they use those scales anywhere they can

Yeah, i am back at the office sids and i am really sooo busy, but i love it. At night, i don't have the time to do some mylotting. BUt now that i have adjusted again, i peek once in a while. Back to your topic. Kids are really like that in measuring our love. But sometimes, i am also a kid at heart, because i would ask a gift at times from my husband and would tell him, he doesn't love me when he doesn't give me one.

hi mtr GFs and women always suspicious No, I did not know/meet my wife until I was 31. Our love affair is 6 years old.

Hi viju Yep, there is hardly anyone who would opt for an ECG at happier times! I asked my nephew about what he wants as a gift but he is still unsure. I did tell him that gifts dont help in measuring anyones love. But he is of a different opinion at this age of his - he thinks and also said - if you love me more, you would listen and care to think to gift me what I needed. Still, I am confused and have given it up for now. Things will become clearer to him as he grows and understands things better. Personally, I never believe in expectations with love of any kind. And trust me, this zero expectation has helped me many many times when I have been in messy situations. Those who did not understand my zero expectation theory, said I am heartless or even I am weak enough but then, until now, I have had the last laugh in all such situations.

Hi sids Yeah, i understand the zero expectation but after all we are human beings with emotions and sensitive feelings right? Though i do believe expectations may hurt, even knowingly we create complications out of simple situations. Don't worry about people, if we act smartly they comment he/she is oversmart, if we are too open, they'll have some other say.... just leave those stupid comments as we can't actually live with them for long and we would want to do things our own way. by the way, when is his birthday? My best wishes for him.

hi squallming Before any girl decides if you are the one to live with for the rest of her live, they would first look at your financial status. Well, mine did not bother about this so I cannot comment on this But yes, we are more materialistic today and need some scales to measure almost everything - even some things which cannot and should not be measured

Hi sis I read your discussion quite late and in fact a few minutes ago. get well soon - not for the sake of writing but because I do care for you and this care for you is Love. Now how do I measure that! There is no way I can. No one can! Love is not just one entity - it is a combination of so many other factors - and that makes it priceless... I need you to get all okay and return back to MyLot and me(via my emails). Prayers for your healing and quick recovery dear one

hi ladysilver Interestingly, I loved this response because of the mention of tears. This is so very true. So what if the other person for whom you shed the tears never gets aware of this side, but then, you wouldnt shed a drop if you didnt love. If only the sweets on which the tear droplets fell were served to the one who was the cause and s/he realized it, these sweets would be the most sweety thing s/he ever had. Ah, I miss my grandpa who passed away in 1996 and almost every time I have him on my mind, my eyes are filled with tears because there was so many things I wanted to do for him. Loved your response.