Not replying to responses to a discussion.
By ajk111
@ajk111 (2495)
July 13, 2012 7:24pm CST
I used to get annoyed when i replied to discussions and the originator did not respond to responses.
Just plain rude i thought.
I started a discussion last week about a nationalistic issue and i have not responded to any responses made after a certain time period.
The discussion was about Andy Murray winning Wimbledon and being a small nation and how that effects your feelings. Frankly it hit me harder than i thought. I was gutted for Murray and i can not reply to any of the responses as i do not know what to say.
Have you ever suffered from "nonresosimylotia" before? What makes you not respond to a discussion you have started?
It used to be a major bugbear of mine when people did not respond to their own discussions but now i am not so sure!
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11 responses
@topffer (42156)
• France
14 Jul 12
Hi ajk,
I do my best to respond and comment back to all responders when they are not off-topic -- I also think that it is a matter of politeness --, except that I can forget to comment new responses or comments in old discussions, because I don't notice them. But I am more or less pleased to comment : it is always interesting when responders have various opinions and the responses are original ; it is a bit boring when there is a lot of responders with the same opinion and quite the same response. If I was able to guess what responses I will get, I would avoid to start a discussion generating the same kind of responses.
@allknowing (137961)
• India
14 Jul 12
I noticed it and in fact almost decided not to entertain your topics any more but after reading this all what I can say is 'deepest sympathies' I have never had problems responding to responses and responding to comments thereafter which could run into a marathon session. I wish you good luck and I hope your mental block will soon be history!
@allknowing (137961)
• India
15 Jul 12
Vow! The mental block I see is already removed. Did you really need that whiskey to get this far?
@joliefille (3690)
• Philippines
14 Jul 12
I also try to make sure also that I respond to responses to my previous discussions before trying to create another discussion. At least if I can help myself from making multiple discussions that I would not be able to catch up anymore if some myLotters respond.
Sometimes I just reply with thank you as I do appreciate input from other myLotters with experience regarding the question i had put forward in the discussion.
@much2say (56185)
• Los Angeles, California
14 Jul 12
Hey, you haven't responded to some of my comments!
I try my very best to comment back to everyone in my discussions - no matter what. It might take me days or weeks sometimes - just because - but I will reply back to everyone. Of course not everyone feels this way - so sometimes it does feel like I'm just talking to a wall. No one is obligated to comment back, so what can we do.
Too bad we can't throw tennis balls at people who never respond!
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
14 Jul 12
Hi ajk
I have been bugged by this one again. Initially when I started, I didnt respond to all. Then somewhere I felt bad, and then started ensuring that almost all (about 90%) got replies on their comments. And today, I am back at square One.
Sometimes, I lose interest in the discussion and responding to those who spend time on mine. Then at other times, I come up with some new discussion and stay engrossed on it. And lastly, my illness and other factors(like poor internet connectivity or other assignments) they keep me occupied and when I get time, I feel the discussion is already been old or stale...
Unhealthy I know, but I cant escape my laziness at times
@shaqziad (655)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 12
I also think it is quite rude to not replying. But if i come to a situation where i don't know what to say, i will just show my appreciation by saying thank you for commenting, and such. Tough and heavy topics usually make me feel like this, because we need to be careful not to hurt anyone or say bad stuff. i try my best replying to my own discussion so far, but that is because i'm new here, and my discussion can be counted by fingers. i don't know if i can keep it up in the future.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Jul 12
hi ajk I have yet to have that problem as nothing irks me more than putting in a great response to someones discussion and not ever
getting a comment back at all. the looney discussion maker does not realize we who respond do not put money in his pocket as we did the work and we get the pay. so the looney user needs to comment to
make any earnings on his discussion,.you type you earnm, but I type you do not earn as I earn.i am sure we should respond and you cou ld h ave told how you felt inside about Andy Murray as we justt want some discussion makers to show they read our responses and do comnent back on them.i have never had any trouble commenting back on my responses on any of my discussions. maybe Iam a woman and we always can talk lol loll.my feelings for those who never comment on my responses so I will not ret urn to them next time.
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
16 Jul 12
Hmmm ... I think that you should be taken out back and flogged for your transgressions, and maybe that will teach you ... or better yet we should withhold your whiskey until you comment back to every single one of the responders on your discussion. Yup, I think that would be proper incentive for you to recover from your "nonresosimylotia".
@jkct02 (2874)
• Kota Kinabalu, Malaysia
15 Jul 12
I think it is a courtesy to reply to the responses to the discussions you started. There is no need to write a lot if we don't really have anything more to add to the response. Just something simple to acknowledge your respondent's participation and show your appreciation for the response.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
14 Jul 12
We all get that way from time to time, and I'm not any different. I'm sure I have started some discussions where I haven't finished keeping up with them all. I just cant keep up, yet I still make more discussions. It is a vicious cycle. I try my best though. Under my circumstances it's all I can do.