Part of you is better than nothing.

I agree with. I couldn't be in a relationship like that and be happy. If I was coming second to like my kids okay that I get and understand but to another women I couldn't do that. I would want him whole not part of him.

we are not in a possession to judge one's foot. but for me, it is nice to be single rather than becoming a second priority in person's life in terms of eros relationship. not kinds a jealous type but having a thing as that would cause you pain and torture. who would like to live in misery? i hope if im that hopeless, i will firmly stand not to cling to a person who has a responsibility already.

I look at it this way. If the bucket has a hole in it, it's no longer useful. I know that sounds a little harsh, but let's break it down a bit. BIG BUCKET - relationship with no challenges. Lots of money, no physical problems, no mental problems, no family baggages, no challenges. Smaller bucket - financially challenged, maybe has some challenges (for my husband it's PTSD, he's also going blind, but then so am I!!!. I'm not saying the big bucket is better than the small bucket. I'm actually happier in a basement apartment with my wonderful hubby, than I would be in a palace with a king. The point here is that both big and small buckets will "hold water" (the water, being the relationship!!!). A bucket with a hole in it to me is no bucket at all. That is to say, a partner that is not fully devoted to me and our relationship is no partner at all. Again it's not the size of the bucket that matters, it's whether or not the bucket is intact.

Yeah, that is a bad idea... I can't be the second or a replacement... I can't ever do that; guess thats why I am single so far... I trust no one in the world would like this idea, if they're sane enough..

Well you are talking about an open relationship. No, that is a no go for me. And it is a no go for T. I would never settle for something like that. T already understands that I have kids and they pretty much come first. But she is cool with that. And besides, my son is like her best friend. So it is not a major stretch.

There is no way I could settle for sharing my guy's love with another girl. If I wasn't everything he wanted then I would have to cut it off right there. And if I did try to keep the relationship going I would end up so furious that it would end anyway. My mind would be running wild constantly asking myself that if he did something for me, is it because he already did it for her and she really liked it or vice versa? It would be way more stressful than a traditional monogamous relationship and lord knows those can be tough enough!

No....I have been in that situation and it is way to hurtful. All or nothing....I guess that's how I view it!

Non monogamous might not mean you were second. Depends on the relationship I suppose. Not my personal cup of tea either, but each couple is different. It would be sad to feel that you had to settle for that if it was not what you wanted.

No..I am not one to be second. I do understand that there are certain passions and dreams that are all our own that I have no problem supporting, but when I give my all and make them first, I want to be first too.

It is very difficult to place myself in another woman`s shoes. I can only say that for me, the only love relationship I accept in both ways is monogamous. For myself, I don`t even accept a non important cheating: all is important and all means giving moe importance to a self satisfaction than to a need of not hurting your loved one.

You are indeed lucky to have a partner. i have just read some stats which show the number of males and females without a partner in the USA. They all live alone. Most of them have crossed their thirties, the age by which they should have got married. Loneliness is a curse. Most of us excluding a few differently wired, need a partner in life to share our thoughts, anxieties, emotions and what not. I think the person under reference has taken a wise decision.

As the saying goes, never give priority to someone that treats you as an option!!!! If you're sending the universe signals that you are afraid of being alone, you will attract only men who know you're afraid of being alone and will take advantage of your fear and use it to suit their own needs. Freedom from the fear of loneliness will set you free and help you truly find love!!!

I hope women choose to be the number 1 priority. The more stable a woman feels the better in my honest opinion, because then the husband shows honor in his trait if he adores her. Relationship counseling should besomething all people consider before marriage. A wife should always be the CROWN of the houshold, something the man wears with dignity,honor,respect and devotion. Sure people make mistakes and cheat. Then I say, solve it through counseling or move on. Every relationship can have road blocks, but true love is a road worth traveling and jumping all hurdles, because the partners become 1 together and everything they do is together and all is theirs together. Forgiveness is also something to learn, but allowing for another partner is off the wall. Maybe there is something needing counselors touch, or two cents worth.