Love or Need?

Whatever the gender is, I think I need you because I love you is still the better thing to hear. It means that the person needs you because of love and not because of any other things especially material ones..

its a lot better to hear the word " I CHOOSE YOU BECAUSE I LOVED YOU" THAN "i loved you because i need you and i need you because i loved you. need to be love and love to be need is two different ideas when someone tries to talk about what they feel. there's a lot of sense when you said "i choose you". one may not agree with me regarding with this but their is a sense of really deep love when you say this to a girl. choosing the one you loved from the rest is beyond what a person normally feels. there is a sense of real commitment. its beyond needing something. its actually the word i say to my wife. i didn't say i loved you but i said to her that i choose her. better to say i choose you because i loved you. it entails already all of the ideas of love like needing etc.

If you really think about it, both sentences are equally important. The word "need" means something important and really different from the word "want", so if you say that you love a person because you need that person then there could be a reason for it. Let's just say that a person needs you in his/her life, because you make him/her happy, you fill up his/her empty space, etc., don't you think that's a good enough reason to need somebody? Many people would say that they would rather be loved than be needed, but to be loved is to be needed in a sense, am I wrong in this? Of course, I would choose to be needed because I am loved, but I guess it would be okay for me also to be loved because I'm needed. You should also emphasize the word "love" here because the definition of it actually makes these statements the same. When you truly love a person, the reasons are vast, complicated, and maybe bizarre, yet they say it is all so simple. So, to look at it simply, in this context, "I LOVE you because I need you" is just as important as "I need you because I LOVE you". It would have been different if the word "want" was used instead of "love".

For me, I want to hear this: I need you because I love you rather than the other way around. I simply don't want to be loved because he needs me. It is such an insult for me. What if he don't need me anymore, will he drop me just like that? Anyway, for your friend tell him he should weigh his feelings. It should not be like that. The love should intensify in time rather than it s melting. If he's no longer feeling the love like it was before then it is better to tell the girl. Or maybe there's something wrong with the relationship, it is just a month then it will turn sour that easily.

Oh, it is too bad to hear I love you because I need you for girls. Maybe he just wants to have you just one night, but not the true love. Do you think so? Every girl wants the true love and every girl has her lover who will appear sooner or later.

its a two different thing. needing someone and loving someone.. they are two different ideas brought together. need is you cannot lived without it while love is a very broad idea. the word " i love you" nowadays is like an ordinary expression especially when you do not know what you really feel. a guy who undergo this stage is not sure of what he really feels.

Good evening Daisy, Woman really need to feel the love of the person that they are giving their love to. Especially if they believe that the person loves them. If the person has given all the love then all of the sudden stops they will feel lonely and sad. Your friend should remember what it was that made him fall in love with her in the the first place. Once you have been in love with someone for a while all the high excitement is replaced with s calm type of love for the other person. You get comfortable with them and at times you will dislike them for little irritating things that they might do. But you still love them. If you dont give i a chance you will never experiance that deep love. There is really nothing like it. I have been married for 10 years and we have been together a total of 12 years. I could never imagine my life with out him.

when you love a person truly,there's no but's and if's, so it is not to right to say "i love you because i need you". there are no conditions in loving someone, because when you love, you just love. you need the person because you love them, you want them to stay in your life, because you love them. not because of what they can give you, not because of what they have. a love that endures till the end is the love that is not based on the the physical appearance, material things, or anything that the person can give you, it is when a person have already nothing in his pocket and the beauty of youth fades, but you still find him worth fighting for.

I don't know how to differentiate that two phrases. Maybe if you love someone at the moment, you really want that person to be well, and you don't necessarily have her in your arm, but you will be happy too if she is happy. When you need someone, it is more of selfish act. You need her because she can help you satisfy something of you at the moment. If you don't have her, you simply just can get it done. That is how I differentiate love and need at the moment.

Hello daisy_22, Every girl and even boy would want to hear the second phrase that "I need you because I love you". If your friend would have been truly in love with someone, I am sure he wouldn't have turned cold on her and that too just within a span of one month. I think you should talk to your friend and find out what makes him cold or hard towards that girl. May be you can help him resolve his confusion regarding his relationship.

I think everyone wants to be needed and and everyone wants to be loved..but why do they have to be in the same sentence?? I am probably a lot older and see them as two seperate catharses..

True love doesn't need any condition at all. You love because that's what you feel and that what makes your life move. Now if there's because in that love then I think that's not love at all. I also believe that somehow in loving you also need to use your mind and not only the heart alone because our heart sometimes is also deceiving. And because your mind helps you keep reminded of the principle that you have to follow.

no doubt "i need you 'cause i love ya " which is really touched . so your friend loved the girl 'cause he needed her.he was lonely ,that's it. and as the old saying goes , the best is what we can never get . law of markets. once gets, the price goes down. that's why he became cold ,i think. by the way ,man is fickle

As a girl, I would really hate to hear being loved because I'm needed. I mean what if that want or need has been satisfied, then I won't be loved anymore? Saying "I love you because I need you" shows a very poor and weak foundation for love (if that can be even called love). With this, love is being based on something that is extinguishable; something that is fleeting and so immature. On the other hand, saying "I need you because I love you" seemed more permanent and more subjective. The need to be with someone is prompted by that strong feeling of love, that as long as that love exists that person will always be there for you.