Should women change their true behavior to attract men?

Hello chasecalice, I believe that no individual should change himself/herself to attract the other person. It is so because that change would not come out of willingness and therefore would not be a part of our personality rather it would be a make-up. And if we wear make-up for a long time it can affect our skin adversely. Likewise the pretense of being someone who we are not will also suffocate us. On the contrary suppose I am with a person who is very compassionate towards destitute and needy and being in his company I also develop compassion towards such people and change my behavior and attitude towards them. Then that change will become a part of my personality and redefine me as an individual.

Hmm.. i am trying to see the logic in this chase, i for one do not change so as i could attract some guy i like. Why change? i could not see the point of it, for one if i want that guy to like me, then he should like me for who i am and not for the new me or the facade i am showing. But in a relationship, like in my marriage, i am changing, not for my husband to love me (lol he love me already that he married me) i am changing for myself, for me to become a better person. I am changing, improving more like my spirituality, my attitude towards life and my family.

well, we can't change a person's character...except that person wants to change. My ex- loved me because of who i am and then with the time, he wanted this wanted that...and i felt that he just wants to change me become another person and i could not accept it, i should be who i am, i am not bad so why do i have to change all to become another person just follow his type..No way...

I agree, we shouldn't change ourselves just to attract someone. Pretending or wearing a mask is not really a good idea. It's not love. It's a lie. Be yourself! You're beautiful just the way you are!

That's something stupid. yOU DON'T NEED TO PRETEND SOMEONE JUST TO BE ATTRACTIVE.dOing that simply means lying to your self.Prenting to be exact.You don;t need to change the whole you for someone, I'd rather say change yourself for yourself and not for anybody else.It is because the worst result if you failed to let that men attracts you is a mere diappointment which may lead to a depression or a greater self pity.

One can add softness in the nature for the good. Everyone loves soft persons.

Hmmmm...I don't think so. If that guy does love you, then he will love you the way you are. He will love you for who you are in the true sense of the world. If you would change yourself for someone or just to attract someone, then when what will happen if he will found out that he had fallen to a false you? It is a fact that no matter how you try to change yourself but someday, somehow you will really turn back to the real you. And I think that would cause a real problem in a relationship because your partner would really come looking for the person, I mean the You that he had fallen in love with. Anyway, once you are in love with someone then, evrything will follow including changes for the betterment of your relationship.

I think no becuase it is still good to be true. Sometimes, pretending just to attract men will make things worse when they discover your true attitude. better at the start to know you already so that they will love you for what you really are.

As u said it , if the true behaviour is like the devil , envy and jealous , love to destroy people , then the person should change his her behaviour to be more atractive to other people. If human being by general do what they like and said what they think , i think the world will be a much worst place to live in. People will continue to act upon their hatred and do much damage to other people.

hi chase, I will not change myself into someone just to be loved my someone Cause if someone truly likes or loves you whoever or whatever you are they will simply accept it. I am single and it doesn't bother me if I am quite snobbish to some men I know there will be someone who can tame me one day happy mylotting

women shouldn't change their behavoir to attract men. Men for sure know how to recognize if it is the natural one or just trying to fake their behavior. It's better to show the real personality so if ever, a man will like the girl as she is including her bad attitude.

It depends on what we call change. I think most of us, girls, invest more time in looking pretty and be super nice and attentive to a boy/men if we would like to attract them or seduce them. Someone would call it a change, I would call it a n underlying part of our personality. Also, if someone would really lose bad habits for a guy, that's worth of praise (like not being that jealous or tidy the room better). But if they act in anorther way solely to seduce a guy, and then change back, that's just unfair to the guy and has no sense whatsoever. Also, giving up our personalities, like not listening to our fave music just because that certain man likes another genre better, it's just not worth doing, because then a girl can end up being miserable and feeling bad later.

the only constant in this world is CHANGE. you don't need to change if its not really what you wanted. "you don't need to change if its against your will". changing behavior just to be like entails great sacrifice but in exchange to that is self fulfilling cause you will later realize that its not really impossible to change your bad attitude. it is not bad to change or pretend that you are good cause in the 1st place we are not born in this world evil by nature. if your behavior is not good then change it for the better, nonetheless its against your will.

I think women should be someone she loves to be. To be happy, smart, honest, optimistic, intelligient, she should try to own all these characters she appreciates. At that time, she will also attract men who value these personalities. So my opinion is that to be the one you love, and to accept the one who loves you.

Changing yourself to try and attract men will not help in any way. This will only last for a few months and within a few months, the true self will start revealing itself and the man will no longer be there with you again. Stick to the real self and you will not have problem finding the right person for you.