can't help but miss him..
By jizfir
@jizfir (93)
July 16, 2012 12:25pm CST
There's this person whom I knew back when we were still in kindergarten. Then unexpectedly, he became my boyfriend when we were in high school. It was just a short term relationship. We became friends again when we were in the middle of our college years, and had a mutual understanding. We have no commitments to each other, but we communicate almost everyday since we were far. We knew we still love each other but we just kept it in our selves. Now we are still far from each other and are busy with our own jobs, we seldom communicate. Some things became not so good and we decided to just end whatever we had. At first we still continue to text each other, but now I haven't receive any messages from him. I just can't help but think of him. Keep looking at my phone, wishing to receive a message from him. I hate it when I'm like this. This is not me. Maybe there is just something about him that makes me like this. I just miss him.
7 responses
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
Why not try to communicate with him? And maybe tell everything to him. I experienced this before but not exactly, its like a feeling of regret and loneliness thinking of "what ifs" - what if i did that or what if i said this and something like that. Try it for the last time and be honest to your feelings, if it does not work out then lets just leave it like that, somethings are not meant to be forever but its worth the try. At least you tried your best, instead of not trying and stuck with all of the regrets 
@jizfir (93)
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16 Jul 12
I do agree to both of you that this is the best way to do.
And I have already tried this, and sadly it didn't work. So I just leave it like that. I believe it was worth the try though. It's just that I miss him, I don't want to, but I can't fool myself. I'm hoping this will only be for now.
Maybe he has already moved on. And maybe it's time for me to move on too.
Anyways, I greatly appreciate your advise. It helped me, really. Thanks!
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
Like what you have said its really time for you to move on. Let time do it for you. It is a step by step process and we really need to take it slowly. But the best thing is when you are on top, you will like wake up in the morning realizing that you haven`t think about him at all this pass days or something like that. I wish that day would come fast. Your welcome jizfir and you too chocolate, thanks for the agree
@lovcie (116)
• Philippines
19 Jul 12
If efforts from your end were taken to communicate with him of your feelings, the next step is acceptance. I know it is very hard to let go but as a saying goes, "If you love someone, set him free, if it comes back, it is meant to be yours but if it doesn't, if never really was."
The right person will definitely come at the right time. :)
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
16 Jul 12
see its better if you try to reestablish a connection with him rather than to look at the phone for longer time and wait for it.what if he also thinks the same way,that why would not we get a message from her.so put aside the jealous factors and life is short get him before someone does and try to communicate with him quite freely explaining about your situation and how you felt missing him and then later he will realise about it and you can bond well together without any qualms and no commitments
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
17 Jul 12
Hi friend, i think you are in deep love with him, so only you are expecting his call and messages. Don't worry surely you will get it soon and my wishes for it.
@wangning1105 (13)
• China
17 Jul 12
What I want to say is,you are fortunate.At least you know exactly you love eachother and what you need is just courage.If you keep on thinking the bad result and don't give yourself a chance,you may regret it later.Meet him and talk with him,be frank to him!Most often,it seems girls are not advised to be the first to express love,but since you miss him so much,since your happiness are there,why not seize it?
To be honest,in the last whole year,there's also a person "I miss so much".There was a special feeling for him when we first met.He is one grade senior than me,so although in the same department,our time of meeting was very short.Gradually,I found I often thought of him unconsciouslly and I knew maybe I fall in love with him,but I could never get a message indicating wheather he liked me.For some other reason,I didn't have the courage to tell him my feelings.And now,I no longer have the chance.
So I hope you don't hesitate(like me)and move on to get your happiness.Good luck!
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
i think the more that you deny him of your attention and affection, the more that he will haunt you. this is the magic of love, it keeps you on your feet and makes you hopeful. but make it happen. you can inquire about him by sending him a message or something to start the communication line working again. who knows? there is only one way of knowing - that is to do it.
