Are you pressured of not getting married yet?
By Daisy_22
@Daisy_22 (1229)
Philippines
July 16, 2012 5:42pm CST
Being married is coupled with great responsibilities.It is a decision that needs a thorough thinking.Nowadays, couples who decide to get married is younger compared before.And with that I have a friend who is really pressured to get married but the worst problem is that she is afraid of the responsibility of being a wife.
Do you think she is really pressured? Or she's just envy of her friend who is having a family no?
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6 responses
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
17 Jul 12
I think she's in love with the idea of being married, but not with the responsibilities that comes with it. We have an age-old saying here in my country that marriage isn't like a spoonful of rice that you just simply swallow, then spit out when it burns your tongue. Oh sure, the wedding preps and the ceremony are the best days of my life back then, but these are just happening once. Once all the excitement is over, everything falls into places and you are now responsible not only with yourself but also with your spouse and your marriage.
Its really hard not to give in to pressure, especially when they started to use science in the form of your biological clockwork ticking away. (When will you start a family? You're not getting any younger!) But its your life; its about you not them. Its a life changing decision that you have to make at the right time.
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@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
17 Jul 12
I hear yah! When I was still single (been married for only 2 years so it's still fresh haha!) I remember that whenever friends ask me how I'm doing, they do not ask the simple "how have you been?" instead they throw me a "hey, when are you getting married? you're already in your late twenties!" And I was like, hello to you too, yes I'm fine, thank you haha!
We know some of our friends meant well, but sometimes even those closest to us won't be able to understand that it's different for all of us. If someone else's daughter got married and started having kids at this age, that doesn't mean that we have to follow suit. (I say I don't follow trends, I set it! Haha! Drives my mom crazy)
I don't think there's nothing wrong with staying single for awhile, or for life. Marriage isn't for everyone. Neither is single-hood. Life isn't a race; it's a journey and we have the all the right to set our own pace.
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. Why I get pressured about not married 
? In my opinion, happiest life is before marriage 
@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
19 Jul 12
I disagree that people are getting married younger - there was a time when a girl wasn't married by 21 she was considered getting past her prime.
Until 400 years ago, the average age of marriage was 16, often younger.
History lesson over...
I was never pressured to get married and I don't think anyone should pressure anyone to get married.
Marriage is a big responsibility, well, getting off on your own is one anyway - but adding in there a family and it adds a whole other dimension to the equation...
I have not married, doesn't look like I'm going to be married and I'm fine with that - I don't like children, didn't want any and managed to avoid it. Celibacy works 100% of the time...
@mildbreeze08 (14)
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
I think I am not because we are living in with my domestic partner since 3 years and we have already a six month old baby. Well I should not be pressured of getting married if the fact we know we are not yet financially stable yet and also some preparation in our housing mortgage. I know we really love each other but marriage is on different level you should not commit mistake especially here in Philippine culture where annulment is freaky untollerable.
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@Daisy_22 (1229)
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
correct!That's why we need to think many times if you get married especially here in the philippines. Divorce is not introduced an annulment is a very long process. It is very far from U.s in which you can file divorce easily and have your freedom back.
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@chasecalice (190)
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
Both could be true.
But if she gets married because these two reasons, that will lead to nowhere.
A person has to get married because she has found the right person for him or her. As you said there are responsibilities along with it, that's why she should have the right intentions to get married.
Marriage is not an easy thing and it's not a big joke.
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