Who should ask for a date?

We might be living in a modern world, as you say, but there are things that I think should be left just as it is for the welfare of the future. Yeah, sounds too deep but I am one of those women who wouldn't consider asking someone out on a date, both for serious or just a fun date. You see, there are many things a woman can do for a man when they're already married that until now it's the woman who does this - modern day or not. We (women) will always be expected to do the main chores in the household (even if men claim they do help out - but the word here is "help out"). We are also expected to raise the children and be 'motherly' which is something that only women can do (though I know a lot of men tried to, but there's a huge difference of the 'motherly' love. We are also expected to be strong and keep the family tight and together if problems come our way, and most importantly, we are expected to care for our men as a wife, best friend, mistress, super-woman-who-can-do-everything! and at the end of the day, we are expected not to complain and though we have our monthly-periods and crankiness to begin with, we're expected to still be lady-like and be pleasing to the eyes of our partners. With all those listed there above. What is a man to do but to court us? Kidding aside. I think it's important for the man to court the woman. You see, women (in my experience) mature faster than men. Oftentimes, you'd see a relationship that is run by a woman (in maturity cases) and men usually don't mature up until the later years. Therefore, if I court my man to be in a relationship with him. I am like courting a person who hasn't decided yet to be mature. Therefore, I am courting a responsibility. Instead of him showing me that he is mature enough to start a family or start a relationship, I would be doing those things for him and he'd be just sitting there thinking "what the heck, she can do a lot for me (as mentioned above) so why not say 'yes'?". On the other hand, if you allow a man to court you. To prove to you that he's worthy of the things you can do for him (as mentioned above), then he will see your worth prior to the relationship. Remember, a man is known to be a conqueror, he loves to fight for his right - for his property. He needs to be stimulated as to why he needs to fight for this girl, else he will not see her worth. Do correct me if I'm wrong. But it seems the world today is this way because women take too much pride in equality. Yet, we find ourselves demanding that we be treated like a lady/princess. If you want to be treated like one, it should start with the courtship. Just my cents! Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

For me, man should do the first move. Yes, there are some men who doesn't care about women asking men out. But as you said, more men have bad impression of women who ask a date to men. I have never asked a man to date with me. But I am willing to try it! lol But the problem is I don't have the guts. hehe

Even at this age of great change, I would still and always prefer the man to ask first. My journalist friend did a survey on this topic. The result showed that 98% of men respondents said that it's proper for the man to ask out first and not the woman. On the women's side, 90% said they feel the 'essence of being a woman' if the man will be the one to ask them out. This survey was conducted in my locality (we are of a conservative country-one factor to be considered). I'm a modern woman but the modern world didn't change the way I look at morality..

As you said, both the lady and the guy can be the one to take the first step. I won't have negative thought of a girl who ask me out for date. The only factor that may affect my perception is the personality of that girl. The way she dresses, talks with people and overall behavior. Everyone should act when you are genuinely interested in someone. Because you will never know the outcome if you don't try.

As a guy, I wouldn't mind being asked out at all. However, I still kind of believe that a guy should make the effort to ask a girl out. I believe that if you do want to be asked out, make huge obvious signs that you like him. He should get the sign. If he doesn't, you should ask him out if you really do like him that much.

As a modern woman, my response is man should ask woman always. Why? Because men like the chase and the prize resulting from that chase, and if you do the chasing then they will get bored real fast or they'll end up using you. Talking from experience. Modern times may change gender stereotypes, but they won't change men's view of masculinity; it's hard-wired.

i think if you like a guy its ok to ask him on a date^^ he can refuse sure but then its ok. at least you tried^^ there wont be any regrets. besides whats the bad thing if a girl asks a guy on a date? its a nonsense when people say that the girl is easy to show her interest to a guy. we are all free so no one should judge us^^ i wouldnt ask a guy on a date cause im very shy^^ but if i wasnt for sure i would ask. we should fight for what we want^^ and if the guy says no its his loss^^

askinhg a man out is seriously cool ,but we girls must take into consideration that we must ask the man who also like us but it is much cooler if the man we like ask us fora date,but if we really like the guy then go,

yeah maybe we are really in the modern world but i still preserve the tradition way of having a relatioship. I still want to experience how a boy sacrifice a lot (though it's not true) in order to get the pleasant word yes!