GET MARRIED or NOT?

Umh...long distance relationship, did you guys meet in person? Well, if yes, then go to marry him since you care him as your husband already... If no, not yet, you should meet him in person first and spend time together in person for a while before marrying.

I believe the decision to get married is something that shouldn't have ultimatums---"Do this and I will marry you, or I will marry you if you do this"--just don't sound right. If he will ask, he should ask without conditions. You should also give a definite answer not dependent on an action you expect him to do. If there are conditions and hesitations on both sides, then perhaps taking the step to marriage is premature.

First of all,WELCOME TO MYLOT.This is your debut post and really a good one.I would like to suggest you to judge the guy first before taking any decision.What makes you think of him as your husband before marriage?You must be knowing about him,but never forget that marriage is too serious a matter to be decided in a hurry.Judge the boy from every possible angle and then take a decision either in favor of or against marrying him.

Hi Pearlee! Actually there's nothing wrong with long distance relationship as long as you know and you value each other well. In your situation, I think you have to meet first and spend more time together. Anyways, have you been together in the past for quite sometime? I think it's important that you know each other. Getting married, on the other hand, is not an easy thing. It's something that you can't just leave behind if you don't want it anymore.

Marriage is a big thing, you cannot just have one and when time comes that you don't want it anymore then just leave. You have to think not just twice but a million times. In your case, having a long distance relationship worsen your situation. Unless, you had enough time to get to know each together when he is still in the country with you. I think the first thing that you should do when he comes, spend some time together. Do not talk about the marriage first but just enjoy every moment your together. Then it shall follow, if marriage is what you and him really want then, he will surely have the proposal the soonest and hear your sweetest YES.

I was in a long distance relationship for a while with my bf (husband now), and despite the distance, we tried to keep our relationship as "normal" as possible. We do go out on virtual dates, like set a day and time for a 3 hour webcam with the both of us all ready and dressed as if we're really out, just to cite an example. We also never start entertaining the idea of marriage until we get to be together physically and actually see for ourselves that we know what we are getting into. It's pretty important that you see him for real, I know it wouldn't tell a lot about him, but it would definitely tell you something. You really will not be able to fully know a person unless you get to be with him under the same roof; but just imagine its riskier if you have pledged marriage to someone you have yet to see in the flesh. Love works in mysterious way only our good Lord can fathom, I'm not saying that you're love isn't strong or for real, I'm merely saying that for me, the way I see it, it is important to take your relationship to a new level first before going to matrimony. See each other first, feel how his kisses feels for you, learn how to mold your body against his for a hug. Solidify and strengthen your relationship first by spending time together. Then from there, take it wherever you two may decide. I'm sure you'll figure it out, good luck!

I am married. In my opinion, arranged marriage is absolutely right way. But sometimes love marriage is the right way. My marriage is arranged marriage.