You don't need to change your life.... It changes itself....

@viji_v2 (727)
India
July 18, 2012 11:13am CST
Hello friends, This is my first ever discussion here with this account and many of our friends know it well. Okay now back to the post. Most times our life goes in a straight stream without any turbulence. In that stream many will enjoy and many would suffer. Every time we think we have to be out of this straight line and have to change it by some means. But the fact is it happens as such without our knowledge and our control. Once we stand and see the past we can learn it. Life goes in its own way. We cannot stop when our plan does not happen. I believe in those factors and facts like fate (Many won't, but it is not main thought here). Something we can change in our life and many things we cannot. If we try to change our life, it goes in the other way. Change is something never changing and how your life changed in this time period in my absence. Hope everyone enjoying your life. Take care.
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@suni51 (3429)
• India
18 Jul 12
Hi Kid doc- I think this is life for you, and the path it takes is according to our Karma. We can neither blame nor give credit to any one but us, ourselves who are responsible for whatever is happening with us. You know as per Gita- Lord Krishna said- "This is your deeds those bring the fruit for you, you only have to do whatever was assigned to you. You are going to get a just reward for whatever you would do. You keep on doing without thinking about the result because that is yours without asking for it. So Karma Kiye JA. Although, I am a person who differs with the theme a bit because, I certainly want a positive or negative result without any delay. You see if I have done my job, why I should wait for my payout. I hope you too are doing fine.
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@viji_v2 (727)
• India
19 Jul 12
Hi Suny pa, I believe in Karma factors. Most of time we have to find the result in our life and especially when it involves emotions. We cannot just run for payout after our work there. Just some experience in recent days.
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@viji_v2 (727)
• India
19 Jul 12
Wow great Suny pa .
@suni51 (3429)
• India
19 Jul 12
Hey kid- I got an idea, I am going to make a blog on this theme.
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@allknowing (136407)
• India
19 Jul 12
Taking life in one's stride and along with it making use of opportunities that present themselves, without having to bend backwards in search of them, is how I live my life. Just sitting back and waiting for things to happen is not what I would advocate.
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@allknowing (136407)
• India
19 Jul 12
Reactions work both ways good and bad. Reactions that lead to something good should be encouraged. Take for example there is a robbery. Would you not report it?
@viji_v2 (727)
• India
19 Jul 12
Hi allknowing, we can change if we take steps. But sometimes worse conditions can be stopped if we don't react. It happens especially when emotions are involved. Thanks for sharing your great views. Have a good day.
@viji_v2 (727)
• India
21 Jul 12
We have to react for such situations for sure. But it can't be done if there is problem within relationship.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
18 Jul 12
Hi viji Of course, we cannot change anything. Everything that happens is pre-written and hard coded somewhere or the other. During the period in your absence... hmmm that is an interesting question - life was just learning to be without old pals and then suddenly you appeared out of the blue Okay, enough of my not-so-sensible jokes, but yes, there wasnt much going on at my end either. I was the same way, somewhat all more alone - you know, wifey got a posting in other city and I have been more ill ever since she went
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
19 Jul 12
It is a port town and she says they dont have a good hospital there. And travelling to the next nearest hospital - we have only one train daily
@viji_v2 (727)
• India
19 Jul 12
Then for sure, I will help to the extent I can do to make you cure. So you both will be living together forever, brother.
@viji_v2 (727)
• India
19 Jul 12
Hi sid, very true and we both have same thoughts here. Hmmmm.... for your interesting question, yes it happens in our life. But sometimes we have to be out of something and one day peep to show our presence just what I did Why can't you move there?
@akp100 (13640)
• India
18 Jul 12
Hi VIJI So finally you having a discussion here.. Great. That's very true. Surely life change it route by its own. We can't force it. I guess, right now I am something like in this situation. Where I need to change my life but I guess I can't, and its not in my hand. But I know it will be change automatically in future. So I don't much worry about it ... he he.. But yes we can't sit silently all the time by waiting when life will change.. Few certain things demands and we have to do them.
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@viji_v2 (727)
• India
19 Jul 12
Hi anand, yes finally I did it. You got a good point here. We can't just simply sit and believe that everything changes to good. But in some situation doing nothing would bring changes and even goodness. It usually happens in family problems. Good attitude for you not to worry much about such situations. It is good way to avoid more stresses in life. Have a good day.
@akp100 (13640)
• India
19 Jul 12
That's true.. No need to take worthless stress.. So I am not thinking much about it.
@viji_v2 (727)
• India
19 Jul 12
Yeah it is the way to live.
@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
18 Jul 12
Hello Viji, I always think if we had a control over life we would not have enjoyed it better.Everyone would have been happy in this world but have you thought that people would not have experienced sorrow in that case and even a single sad thing would have made him/her more upset.So its always better that we don't have a control on it let it goes like a kite just loosen the thread and let it go higher but don't allow any one to cut it.
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@viji_v2 (727)
• India
19 Jul 12
Thats very right and very good example lol. Most times we hold it so tight in the fear it would fly somewhere. But the fact is we are trying to tear it by our hold. Thanks for sweet and simple reply. Have a good day.
@loonys (418)
23 Jul 12
I use to think that that after my friend vijiboopathy got married she wasn't allowed to use internet. Oh viji my life its ok however I did get to witness so many sad things that I can't erase it from my mind. Glad I found you but I lost vandana.
@viji_v2 (727)
• India
23 Jul 12
Hi mel . I am so suprised to see you back. I always worried about you when I come here and in twitter. No dear not like that, not allowed to use internet. I was just away from this world for a while to take care of those things in real world. And now too not free from all the duties, just peeping when got time. I think vandana aunty is absentee here for long time. I would check through some other friends about her.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
20 Jul 12
Personally, this is where I tend to disagree, as life will not change and get better unless you are willing to do something to motivate and help ourself to help it get better. If you just sit around doing what you normally do, and something happens that is Bad are you just going to sit there and hope it will get better? Like if you loose your job, one will not reappear unless you apply for it. So personally I think it is really up to us, and with the help of God to help direct our path on where we need to go, and be from here. No one ever said it would be easy but in the end it will be worth it for sure.
@viji_v2 (727)
• India
21 Jul 12
Agree to every points you said. But sitting still would help in some occasions. And sometimes even if we are in one way and later after weeks when we turn back and see, we would find that our life path would be in different way. Sometimes our plan wont go as such is my view.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
31 Jul 12
Hi viji! Nice to see you here. Do you mean to say that we all are guided by destiny and nature and whatever happens in our life is sometimes gets beyond us. It is true to some extent that we get to live our life not as we wish, but as is destined.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
19 Jul 12
hi viji, I do understand you. But i think if i decide to change my life, i can do so to some extent, only those which are under my control. In general, we don't have to change anything and as a natural process, day in and out life's moving at its own pace. many things are not in our control to change. Whatever changes, if happenning positively, then the change is a welcome thing or else, its time to move on. During your absence, i really can't comment how mylot changed, but in my life..there has been a lot of hot happennings - profesionally and personally too - and i am sure i have to handle them in all front. Hope you learned Hindi by now and you are enjoying the changes in your life! Have a nice day.
@viji_v2 (727)
• India
21 Jul 12
Yeah true. Many things are beyond our control and we can't stop happening or induce to happen. Thats great. You are bold enough to face such situations. Sooner everything will change and goes in your pace. Now I learned a little Hindi, and got more responsibilities. I believe life will change more too. Take care.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
20 Mar 13
Hi, You are right. We don't need to change our life, it changes itself. Sometimes we decide to do something but we can not. Suddenly something unexpectedly happens and we have to change our plan. I think happens with God's will. we have to do our duties honestly.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
23 Jul 12
Yes madam you are very very right.Life is like a game of tennis, the players serve well seldom loses.It is like a ladder the more you climb the more expansive are your views.The best lesson of the life,"Do not get frustrated by continuous un resulted efforts,sometimes the last key of the bunch opens the lock." Life is not a rehaearsl ,each day is a real show, no retakes, no rewinding, so give the best performance in all your roles. Best of luck.
• Bangladesh
19 Jul 12
Very nice post. Yeah life changes in its own ways. Because life adapts with time and space in its own way and we force any change. Yet you have to admit that our environment, location, religion, educational instituitions, our media can leave a positive influence on our life and can contribute to changing our life. Our progress and career will depend on how perfectly we react to our time and space.
@viji_v2 (727)
• India
19 Jul 12
Thats right, our life changes depend on the reaction we make for a situation. Sometimes life makes us to wait a long time to get the result. Thanks for sharing your views. Have a good day.
• India
19 Jul 12
Mrs. Viji, congrats for your first discussion after your marriage. i fully agree with your words and i too have faith with fate. We don't have the ability to control our fate. Some persons thought that we can win our fate with our presence of mind, but this kind of presence of mind also needs to fate to get idea at that situation. In my opinion, we don't have the ability to win over our fate, as well as don't have the ability to guess our fate, as per your title life changes itself and we are going along with it
@viji_v2 (727)
• India
21 Jul 12
Thanks Prakash . Most people wont accept it until they experience. Nice explanation. Have a good day.