"I will take care of you like my daughter, mommy..."
By devijay78
@devijay78 (1573)
India
July 18, 2012 12:51pm CST
My friends here know that I am going through a bad phase in my family life and my daughter picks things up instantly. Last night when I was putting her to bed, she hugged me and said that she did not want to have babies when she grew up. I was surprised and asked her why and she answered me this - "you are my baby. Don't worry, I will take care of you. And I love you." I was touched by such a warm gesture from a child (just 5 years old) seeing her mom going through a bad time. When parents argue, even though we do not utter a single word in front of the children, they somehow sense that something is wrong, don't they? I wonder how they do that. And she is very attached to me than her father. I pray to god to give me the strength to take come out of this intact and to take care of my kids.
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@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
26 Jul 12
What a lovely kids you have sis. They are some kids who can sense the troubles that their parents are having through. While they are others who refused to understand their parents situations. But hey are kids. We can't totally blame them. You must feel so grateful to have such understanding daughter even if she just 5 years old.(^^)
@devijay78 (1573)
• India
4 Aug 12
I think what she meant was that she would take care of me no matter what. That was so sweet of her because I have never had anyone tell that to me ever(in a sincere way) except my parents. I sometimes don't know how to answer her.
@devijay78 (1573)
• India
27 Jul 12
Yes, I am very proud of her. But sometimes, I am very sad that she has to go through a lot because of us parents. I just wish I could make it better for her.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
19 Jul 12
Devi, nice to see you after a long time. How are you? how is your family members and kids? good to hear about your daughter's words, surely you are very lucky to have a great kid like her. Convey my regards to her. Take care of your health
@devijay78 (1573)
• India
19 Jul 12
Hi VP. How are you and your kids? How is Darshika? I am going through some rough patches in my life and am at my mom's place for the time being(see my earlier discussions). Yes, I am very fortunate to have such great kids. Just hope my husband realises that.
@devijay78 (1573)
• India
19 Jul 12
Just got your pm VP. Sorry to hear that. But as you are back, I think you can make up for the lost time. With support from friends and family, I am sure everything would be okay. But I know it will take time and effort on my part, so I am learning to be patient. In the meanwhile, am trying to earn some extra money as well. Discussing here gets me some money, but that would not be enough for now. So, hope I do get a part time which suits me. And thanks for your wishes.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
19 Jul 12
Devi, we both lost our mylot account and created a new account, i think i missed your previous topics, surely i will take a look at it. Sad to hear that you faced some issues in your life, don't worry, all will be changed soon and my heartiest wishes for it.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
21 Jul 12
As others have posted, Kids just know when things are not going right. Even if they never see you arguing, etc. I can remember hearing stories about when my Mom married my Step Dad when I was 7, I was denying it and trying to Stop it from happening. Since this man was quite abusive, I am sure even at 7 there were things I might have sensed and tried to protect her. For your daughter to be telling you this she wants to make sure you know she Loves you and wants to see you always Happy.
@devijay78 (1573)
• India
21 Jul 12
Aw, that touched my heart. What you say, is true. She is very protective of me and even though we argue with each other, she would never ever hurt me and she knows I would not hurt her either. I guess there are different kinds of love and hope she loves me like this even when she grows up.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
19 Jul 12
They say the kids have a pure mind, which allows them to see things, which we grown-ups can't. Your child appears to have great sense of things... You're lucky to have such a child. And don't worry about other things. You see, you've to be strong for the sake of the kid. So don't stress yourself, just think how to get out of it. Good Luck!
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
19 Jul 12
Right.. The kids will be affected... In worst cases, the kids end up believing that there's no solution to the problems and they become psychologically weak... If you're strong, they'll learn to be strong and face anything without getting worried...
I really liked the way she hugged you... I seriously pictured a small girl hugging her mother, wrapping those tiny arms around mother's neck... Its one of the memorable moments of your life Missy...
As to those troubles, I'm sure they'll vanish soon... Take care...
@devijay78 (1573)
• India
19 Jul 12
Thanks mr_pearl. I was thinking the same. She is very sensitive to my needs and sometimes I fail to be the same way towards hers. I am thinking more and more about my kids nowadays and what you say is right. If I stress myself too much, my kids get affected by it.
@celticeagle (166915)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Jul 12
Kids just know. They are amazing aren't they? Another sense or something. When there is fighting with the parents the children normally take it upon themselves as if it were their fault. To me that is very sad. I think that what your daughter has said to you is very sweet indeed.
@devijay78 (1573)
• India
19 Jul 12
Yes, it is. Sometimes, she was the only hope for me when things were not going good and she was the only reason I kept hanging on to sanity. Even now, I don't know what I would do without her. God bless her little soul.
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@celticeagle (166915)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Jul 12
Nurture her and keep her sweet. You will have some good times ahead. Enjoy! They grow so fast.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
19 Jul 12
By the age of 2-7 yrs old are the crucial age for kids.
They retain too much memory by those age.
They know what is going on- they are emotionally sensitive at that stage.
Your daughter knows what you feel although she cannot fully understand what is happening.
I hope she will overcome whatever fears she has inside by the time she grow up.
@devijay78 (1573)
• India
19 Jul 12
I really would like to shield my daughter as well as my son from whatever is happening here now. But I am helpless and people who are making us suffer do not bother at all about us. I just hope she does not grow up fearing everything.
@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
18 Jul 12
It is like they have a 6th sense or something. I can be having the worst day and one or both of my kids come to me. Hugs and kisses and I love you's. And for that brief second you feel better. I hope things get better each day for you.
@devijay78 (1573)
• India
19 Jul 12
I think they are so tuned in to our emotions that they know exactly when something is wrong. We do not even have to show it in our faces! I guess I will have to be more careful in future.
