I want to become a Mother!
By asheets88
@asheets88 (124)
United States
July 18, 2012 5:31pm CST
But theres a few problems :/
1. i'm single
2. I'm 24 *will be tomorrow* still living at home so i can watch my brothers for my momma, they are 5 and 6.
3. Overweight *Trying to fix that problem, im down 22 pounds.
4. i don't get out much.
I have always wanted to become a mother some day, im just to maternal not to be. I have pratically raised my brothers since birth, thou i do not provide for them financially so i have everything it takes. I just dont see myself having kids someday :/ all because im staying home to help my momma.
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10 responses
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
20 Jul 12
Do you ask yourself: Why do you want to become a mother?
You are still young, just take your time and enjoy our single life, you can arrange your time to join outside activities with friends, stay at home only is not good...Since you want to be a mother one day then you have a plan for it, right? going out to date, go to work to earn money, etc...
I hope your wish will become true soon ...
@asheets88 (124)
• United States
20 Jul 12
I've wanted to have a child when i seen my little brother be born, he's 5 now. I was in the delivery room and watched him being born and seeing that i dont know it just made mine and his bond so much closer then what it is with me and my 6 year old little brother. And i just want to feel that extra bond that mothers feel. Like i said in the other post above, it's like all of my classmates are either getting married, engaged, or becoming parents.
I just feel like my life isn't going anywhere fast. When i graduated high school and heard the song "graduation song" by vitamin C and it says "where we goin to be when we turn 25. I honestly pictured myself married and done started my own little family, But the parents got separated and i been watching my brothers since October 2007.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
20 Aug 12
You are just 24 years old and you can have lots of time ahead of you for having babies. You have time therefore to lose your weight. It is not like you are 38 years old and have limited time to get to the most healthy weight. You have done very well to lose some weight already so that means you will be successful to lose all the weight you wish to. It is lovely that you have got 2 young brothers to practice childcare on. It is wonderful you are helping your mom so very much. Good luck getting pregnant when the time is right.
@asheets88 (124)
• United States
23 Aug 12
Thankyou:) And yes, my grandparents tells me all the time that my crown in Heaven is goin to be the most beautiful one there because of what im doing for my momma. It really is a great oppurtunity, But then i just think 'what if' my purpose is to take care of them for the rest of my life.
its always a what if what if.. But right now im watching the brothers and if it happens it happens. I put trustly and fully in Gods hands
@rajaiv0810 (1012)
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
You are just 24 and still very young. Some becomes a mother at their late 20's. I guess before you think of being a mom concentrate on yourself first. Like you should look good, lose weight. So you can find a good boyfriend that you can someday marry. Take 1 step at a time. Enjoy being single and have fun first because if you become a parent you won't have the same freedom as you are single.
@asheets88 (124)
• United States
20 Jul 12
That is true that i'm still young but i just feel like i'm running out of time.
I see alot of the girls i went to school with getting married and all of this and i'm lagging behind in starting my own life.
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
27 Sep 12
You are just 24, right age to have a husband; but why you get worried so much, good you are with your mom, taking care of brothers, that's not a problem at all; 
you will get married when the time comes, as per our faith things do happen in right time; fixed by god
you will get married when the time comes, as per our faith things do happen in right time; fixed by god
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
20 Jul 12
First of all, I want to say, you don't look too bad, so don't think that it'll get in your way to meet the father of your kids.
You're doing a great job taking care of your family and you'll surely be blessed. It seems that your mother and siblings are your priority at the moment. I suggest you focus on that for now, because it would be more difficult if you joggle having your own kids with that. I mean, unless there's another way for your mom to have someone else look after the kids. Don't worry, you're still very young and you don't have to rush. You can consider your brother your own kids, to have an outlet for your maternal yearning. That will be goo dpractice for you to be a very good and experienced mother in the future.
Good luck, asheet.
@asheets88 (124)
• United States
21 Jul 12
well thankyou:)
And your correct! My brothers and my momma is my number 1 priority. I just dont see me leaving home without knowing that my brothers will not have any one to watch them while my momma works, so i watch them for her.
And yes sometimes they do feel like mine :)
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
19 Jul 12
Hey, I am 34 officially, and I am still single. Not that I never date before, just not find the right girl yet. My mom and my dad just hook me up with this girl, but she just over control everything, which makes me sick. And she is bossy, and deny things that she said before. I don't like this type of girl. I want to be a father too, but I am still working on it. I hope that both of us can find the one we really want.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
19 Jul 12
Hi! I think you still have lots of time to prepare for motherhood. You need to be physically, financially and mentally prepared. It's really different if you have your own children. The feeling is really overwhelming so it may bring out the best and even the worst from you. Anyway, overweight people can bear a baby too because I know a friend who just give birth to a healthy baby girl. But for health reasons and to avoid complications you should at least try to lode weight if you are really overweight. When you are pregnant, your priority is your baby's health and yours too. The health of your baby will solely depends on you. Don't worry if God's permit you will have your own child in the right time. Best of luck.
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
19 Jul 12
You're just 24 my dear, its way too early to say that you'll never be a mom. If its meant to be, it will be. And do not rush, enjoy the "mothering lessons" that you can get by being your siblings' second mom; it takes more than just being physically ready to be a mom. You also have to be mentally and financially prepared for it.
I'm in my late twenties, married, living in my own house (well co-owner of my husband) and have no weight problems. I have all the "ingredients" to be a mom, if I were to follow your trail of thought, but despite our efforts, we don't have kids yet.
All in due time. We will be mothers too. :)
