would you change yourself?

Yeah. It's okay to change and people change constantly. No matter how many times as long as it is for the better.

Yes change myself is a difficult and frustrated but sometimes you have to do this,for me,my boss always criticize me even I did nothing wrong,may be the reason is he do not like the way I working.So I have to change meself to fit his style,it is not easy and unhappy,but I have to do it cause I need this job and need the money to raise myself.How sad it is.I really want to have a new job and have a nice boss.In my opinion,a nice boss is the most important thing for employee,yes the salary is important as well,but if you do not feel happy everyday,money do not make sense for you.

Hello Shylade, It depends on person to person.For people who are close to me i can change for them to make them happy but for those who are not i don't change and why should i let them change for me.I know we can't change people around us but that does not mean that we change our self for them.

yeah never change yourself for someone else because only you should make yourself happy people can get over of the way you are. i mean if you want to change yourself then thats fine but not for someone else cause thats just wrong its what you want not what they wont always be yourself never be in baressed.

About this question I mostly want to say is: listen to yourself do not be affected by anyone. As for those persons who like criticizing others you could choose to hear what they say. If they are right we change to corect ourself, if they destory our success intentionlly on purpose, we just smile at them. It is not worthy saying a word to them. we hold on ourself and persist till we make more great successes.

I used to be a pleaser, but now I'm more of like a "take me or leave me, man!" :) If there is one thing that's constant in this life, that is change. If you change yourself for the better, I see nothing wrong in that especially if this is brought on by yourself. But if you will change just to suit someone else's fancy, I say that's just so lame. People change, that person might have been happy for the sacrifice that you did, but it won't last, because after that he or she would want you to be someone else again. I second you in believing that no matter what you do, people will always have something to say. There's nothing wrong in making the people around you happy, but you have to make yourself happy first. If you're not happy, you wouldn't be able to make someone else happy. I also believe that I can bring happiness to some by just being myself. Those who have a problem with that can kiss themselves goodbye.

Well always remember that as much as possible we have to live peaceably with all men. However, this does not mean we have to let others rule our lives. For as long as you know you are not doing them any harm and you are not doing anything wrong then don't be bothered if they keep criticizing you. You need not change if only to please them. I think they are the ones who should change their critical attitude. So cheer up, forget about those negative talkers and go on with your life. Do what is good and be happy.

Though I do believe that we should be happy with the people that we are, I also think that there is probably not a person alive that doesn't have at least one thing about themselves that they would not like to change. For me, the thing that I would like to be able to change is that I would like to be able to open myself up again like I used to do when I was younger. You see, I went through a really bad relationship eleven years ago and since that time, I really haven't been able to be as open as I was before that relationship.

Even if we did change something about ourselves we could never please everyone. We should only worry sbout pleasing ourselvesd and being happy with the people we are. I do not think I would want to change myself even if i could. Then i wouldn;t be the same person anymore. Changing for someone else does injustice to you and to them.

I'm gonna change but not for those people.I want to be a better person so i will change,to improve my disadvantages and be a good one.Yes,we can not please everyone so that's why i feel like it's more important to know what you really want.

If you asked me a month ago if I would change myself to make others happy I would have said yes I would. In a short amount of time I have realized that no matter how much you try to please others they WILL find something they still do not like! There is no way to please everyone. Not even really worth trying. I am finally learning to be happy with who I am no matter who likes it and who doesn't. My family thinks I am nobody because we are poor, guess what I am somebody to God, my husband and my kids! That is good with me. =) I know as soon as we are doing better in life they are going to want to be up our tails but it will sadly be too late by then... I am who I am and I personally like who I am.

i agree with your idea on some aspacts. yes we can not satisfy all the people around us, and we have no need to do so. we have our own life to leave and life is so short. but sometimes, criticizm is good for us. it can help us to be a much nice person. and once there are people have something bad to tell, we can just have a big smile to them, and think about what they say, then decide to accept it or not. if you do so, maybe , you will be more happier and have more friends.

Hi shylade, I think that sometimes there are people who will just try to tell you you're wrong, only to bring you down. Other times people may say things to you that you may not like to hear in order to change some behaviour that offends them, there are more of these people than the former. But this will be resisted and mabye met with anger. It depends on each situation. I think there are a lot of offensive people out there that should take some advice so it is okay to be open to change, or at least hearing about it.