Did I do the right thing by stopping my daughter's skating classes?

I think you just did the right thing for your daughter. Her studies, financial matter etc. If she can manage between her studies and extra activities very well I think you have no problem to send her and continue her skate lesson right? But it seems that she lose control and it becoming too much for her. If she can't stand it and can't cope with it then it's better for you to stop sending her to skating class. She should understand the situation better and its all up to her..What your daughter say about it??

Parent task is to find her talent, then directing her interest. There should be a priority. We can not possibly satisfy all desires. Your decision is right. Unless, there is a cheap skating school, near your home, and do not interfere with your child's school.

I believe in supporting a child's interests as far as is possible. If she enjoyed it and had a talent for it, she should be able to continue it if at all possible. Here in the U.S., there would be the option to home school the child. Thus, pursuing her sport and her education would not have to conflict with each other.

I wish you did not make her stop. I know it's a great sacrifice for both of you (you and your daughter) Not to mention the financial aspect. But you should not deprive her from her interest. If given the chance to compete for that competition you should have encourage her and give her support. I know it will give a little hard time and complicate with her studies. but you can make some set-up with the instructor and her classes as well. As long as you daughter wants to compete and love what she is doing- go for it.

Growing up, my siblings and myself were always allowed to participate in sports as long as we had an interest in them. However, the biggest rule that we had to live by was that our studies came first. With that said, I know that competitive sports are quite expensive and that might not be something that you would be able to afford and you can opt to not go to a competitive level. As long as your daughter was able to maintain her grades in school, I would allow her to continue the sports. However, as soon as her school work started to suffer, it would be time to quit the sport at least for a while.

I know how it goes with the whole skating thing. I was an adult skater, and I skated the early morning sessions for many years. I skated with a bunch of young kids and knew their parents . . . oh yes, it takes a lot of dedication and MONEY to continue on at the rink! This year I stopped my daughter's dance classes after school for almost the same reasons. The classes were about an hour after school ended, so we'd have to rush home and have a snack - and possibly get homework in before running to dance class. And after it was done, if homework still needed to be done, it would be a bear to get her to do it because she was already pooped out. So I just stopped it altogther (and she would sometimes tell me she did not want to go at times - so that was a sign from her right there). She is still young - in 2nd grade - and I'd rather her focus on her studies now so she has a good foundation for it later on. As for skating, it seems that ones who have a good, worked out schedule are the ones who do it early in the morning before school. Almost all the serious, competitive skaters I knew skated in the early morning sessions . . . then the rest of the day could be dedicated to everything else. Some did cross training with dance or off ice classes or more skating in the afternoons - but that was extra. And they slept early. It had to be a strict routine - I remember the parents' stories so well! Luckily for myself, I was an adult and had to discipline myself - as it only concerned me, my time and my own finances. Yes, skating is expensive. We can cut corners with the money issue in some areas - but not so much with ice time, coach fees, competition fees, the outfits that the kids want (that can actually be done cheaply even with the fancy competition outfits), nor skates themselves (there is no way anyone can continue figure skating without the proper quality boots). However, I've seen others continue without going through the serious, competitive route, simply because they were passionate about skating, but could not truly afford it. I knew many kids who skated in the afternoons . . . and they could skate in relaxed form - no pressure - they just loved being on the ice. If your daughter still wants to skate, she still can without all the lessons and such . . . she can maintain what she has learned - and perhaps have a few lessons here and there to be sure she is doing things correctly (find a coach who is willing to teach such a schedule - they are out there). If she has a passion to skate, she can still be out there without breaking the bank. I know a few people who have asked for "skating money" as birthday/special occasion gifts to help out with their skating habit. As a parent, we want our kids to have everything, but we have take things into consideration (money, their time, OUR time and energy - we have to get home and cook and such too). I think you did the right thing to pull her out at the moment - especially if it's interrupting her school work - or that she's just plain exhausted. If she wants to go back, I would think she would express it to you - then maybe you could look into skating occasionally on a casual basis (much cheaper - less pressure for everyone). It's all about balance! Good luck!

What did your child say about her skating lessons? Is she very passionate about it? I do feel you did the right thing especially since her classes are suffering. If you feel guilty, remind yourself of your priorities- which is to provide your child a good and solid future. Skating lessons can be quite expensive. And yes, she may great at it but the question lies if she's capable of handling all that and her schooling. You could always try switching her schedules to weekend.

I think you did the right thing considering the time frame and all. Rest is more important sometimes and so are finances.