and i forgive him...

How long have you guys been married, if you don't mind me asking? I've been married for only a couple of years but I have the same problem as yours on the first year of our marriage. It came to a point that I thought it's getting old, the pattern of him saying hurtful words, me getting mad at him, him making it up to me and us being okay again. Until it dawn on me that we're still adjusting the clashing of our tempers and pride. Try to look it from his side: he says hurtful things, then he realizes his fault then he says sorry. Who knows maybe he's also getting tired of himself always hurting you and always being to one to have to make it all better because he messed up again. At least, this is what my husband told me when we sat down to have "the talk". Argument is healthy in any relationship; but not when it becomes a daily habit and people starts getting physical. But by the end of the day, he's still the one you go to bed with, the same man you'll wake up with. You guys love one another, that is clearly there.

There are just misunderstandings in any kind of relationship. The important thing there is that we know how to ask forgiveness and to forgive as well. But if this thing happen all the time, I think it's no longer a good idea to keep on forgiving. But, as you said, it doesn't happen all the time. I think it's ok but make sure that you talk about this and you have to try not to make the same fight again with the same argument.

its good because you are forgetting and letting it past very soon and moving on for sure

is this happen everytime?? he will easily angry to you and easy to forget it and tomorrow both of you will fight again and again?? don't you think this is so tiring?? alright you love him and he love you too, but he should treat you better and you're not easily forgive him to make him understand you and respect you as his wife?

Well, he might know his fault and inviting you go to cinema is the way to apologize you. You did right when did forgive him. Wife and husband should ignore each other mistake if you guys want to live in the same house for a long time. I wish you and your family all the best!!!

I went through the same thing the other day. I was angry with my husband because he did something really stupid with money, we got into it and later on I took a nap to sleep it off. When I woke up he was all over me, he wrote me a love note and left a message for me on the fridge of how much he loved me on our marker board. It was all so sweet, I had to forgive him. We talked about what he did and moved on. When you love someone so much it is easier to forgive them...

You are a better person than I. The minute Anyone insults me , it is over. It Has to be. No movie will make me forget Or forgive! What Would? I an heartfelt, verbal, face to face apology. That is the Only way to know that the person knows what was said was hurtful. without it I would assume it is Exactly how they feel and I leave!

It seems to me that there are many love experts here so I'll just go with the first responder here, it's definitely because you love him. You are a very loving person and because of that you have learned to love the good and bad side of him and that's really a good thing. I just hope though that you could talk this matter with him and ask him not to say so many things to you that really hurt when he is angry. If there's one thing that's really hard to take back, it's insults and angry words. It's what I have learned from the separation of my parents.

Remember you are a woman and love him so much; he takes advantage of this weakness thanks for sharing here

Hello Gerlieann, May be you love him and don't want your relationship to be broken.But that's not fair you must ask your husband not to say bad words to you next time else you won't forgive him.May be he know that you forgive him easily so he says it every time.

I think, i'm also like you, no matter how many times we have an argument i still end up forgiving him by as simple as when he smile at me. I think many of girls are like us also. We can easily forgive our love one but i think we cannot easily forget their mistake to us but we can still forgive them. All we want to hear from them is sorry.. Happy Mylotting..

Actually it is your love for your husband that makes you forgive him every time he hurts you.I can understand how it feels when one gets hurt.You have a tender heart and I would suggest you to maintain it.I wish you an exceptionally happy married life.Being generous and tender really pays.I hope,you husband would understand it one day sooner or later.

It is plain and simple. You love him and should be proud of it.

Sometimes, if we love someone so much it is easily for us to forgive and forget. Don't get confuse of that feeling. I think you really love your husband that much. That is your husband it is not other people to you. If you think your husband is very sincere when he says sorry, then forgive him and make sure not to do it again. Fighting, arguing and misunderstanding are both part of a relationship, marriage life. Good Luck and God Bless!