Will your boyfriend give up doing some things you dislike?
By danxin
@danxin (58)
China
July 21, 2012 6:32am CST
I quarreled with my boyfriend again for playing video games.He had ever been addicted to games for a long time before we started, but promised to give up it when we started. Later I found him playing games sometimes, and quarreled with him several times. Every time when he found my anger and worries, he admitted his fault and promised to quit it. But today he played it again. I disliked video games very much for witnessing too many victims. How should I deal with it? Will your boyfriend give up doing things you dislike?
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10 responses
@joneilromana (226)
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
It actually depends, If the reason would ruin me as a person then maybe yes, but if it is just a little thing. I won't bother. I have been in your case already, and up to now my boyfriend still plays video games. Well, I love him. It's just a matter of acceptation. I think, that thing is just a small thing to give-up. In a relationship, you would experience a lot more disaster and bigger quarrels that that, when you enter a relationship, you should be prepared with such things. If not, you'll ending up breaking each others hearts.
@joneilromana (226)
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
SharonXI,
If you do not love him, then break up with him. There is no sense in continuing a relationship if it is one sided. Love should be mutual in order to have a relationship. You'll just waste your time, you'll regret things and you'll hurt him more. You would be very unfair to him.
@SharonXl (24)
• China
21 Jul 12
Does his playing games really matters you?If so,I think you need to talk with him seriously and tell him your feelings.Maybe you can reach an agreement with him in it like when he is allowed to play.I hope you can solve the problem smoothly,do anyting but do not regret!
@jenyenh (205)
• Maldives
21 Jul 12
this is a normal scenario. Boyfriend will tell you he will give it up for you, he will for a while until he goes back to it and pretend that it was not an issue before. hahaha. for me I only give 3 chances...if there something i dont like he does i will tell him and if he promises me he will not do it again, i will just keep a note when it reaches 3 times, I will not fight anymore - he definitely isnt worth a fight, i will just move on and find someone else who deserves me! :)
@jenyenh (205)
• Maldives
22 Jul 12
No, its not about being brave and unique, when you enter into a relationship there is always things that are acceptable that you both need to talk about. In the case where he promises not to do it again, then its a commitment issue for me. If he breaks his promise he doesnt deserve my attention. Coz for me I wouldnt promise something and do something else. If in case he cant do what he tells me then we better talk about compromise. maybe do a schedule for games and for being together.. but promise and not keep is not acceptable. Regardless if he takes care of me, coz If im in a relationship I would also take care of my man, then that part is even. :)
@nixxx05 (309)
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28 Jul 12
Hi SharonxI, if you think that you don't love your boyfriend anymore, think it again then if it's final you should talk to him seriously then break up with him. The more you hold on to something that you don't sure anymore, the longer it's more hurtful for both of you. Good Luck!
@yiart65 (146)
• Singapore
21 Jul 12
Hmm, for guys, playing video games is just like girls chat. It's just part of their life. I've been through what you did, my ex was obsessed with games and every time we tried to talk, he just said he was tired and he will go back to his games. But, no, we didn't break up cause of games, it was just other reasons. Maybe you can tell him to play lesser? At least, don't remove playing video games from his whole life. I mean, he is together with you and he treats you right, but he needs some time of his own too. To him, his own time will just be playing video games. And if you keep picking a quarrel over him playing video games, he will just hide it from you. Isn't that worse? So, why not try to calm down and let him play but try to let him understand that you are just trying to care for him.
@danxin (58)
• China
22 Jul 12
Er,I was just mad and lost control when I found he broke up his promise again and again. Yesterday when we talked on telephone, I was too angry to throw awaw my telephone since he took no care for his promise. I can't calm down with it. I just want to flee away.
@savagecabbage (1216)
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
I used to have the same problem as you. There was also a time when i was so mad at my boyfriend because he kept playing online games at night when we were talking in the phone. We had so many fights regarding this matter. But later on, i realized that i was being too controlling. My boyfriend never stopped me from doing things that I want like shopping and mylotting. Playing games is his hobby and i should respect that. I should accept him for who he is. If the both of you are mature, the both of you will understand And respect each other. So in my opinion, you should not worry and get mad at your boyfriend. You should support him on what he likes. At least he is addicted on video ges only. At least he is not addicted to something bad. I hope the both of you wont quarrel as much anymore. Happy mylotting!
@GemmaR (8517)
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21 Jul 12
My boyfriend was a little bit obsessed with gaming as well, and it was starting to become a problem in our relationship because he started thinking about nothing else other than when he was going to be able to play his next game. I soon realised that something was going to have to change if we were to stay together, so we decided that we should start making time for each other and setting time aside for us to do our own thing as well, and if that meant that if we wanted to play games or read a book then we would be able to do exactly that.
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
18 Aug 12
My husband also love playing basketball every afternoon but i don't want my husband to play that game for almost everyday because there are times after playing basketball he always get injured, so i did not allow him to play basketball but there are still times that he can't stop him self from playing that game so i just allow him sometimes as long as it is not too much playing.
@hearttrip (20)
• China
24 Jul 12
i think you should hit him violently first.and then tell him your manifestations when you knew he was playing games.if he admit his mistake sincerely, i think you could give him a chance.i think if something you realy hate and you boyfriend love you so much, he will try his best to quit it. calm down and talk with him peacefully. good luck!
@hearttrip (20)
• China
24 Jul 12
i think you should hit him violently first.and then tell him your manifestations when you knew he was playing games.if he admit his mistake sincerely, i think you could give him a chance.i think if something you realy hate and you boyfriend love you so much, he will try his best to quit it. calm down and talk with him peacefully. good luck!
