People...Wow, unbelievable...
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
Valdosta, Georgia
July 21, 2012 2:25pm CST
I cannot believe she just came here! I was treated very rudely by a certain person so instead of adding fuel to the fire and getting into an argument with her I just completely ignored her messages and her phone calls. I thought she would get the hint that I wanted nothing to do with her. Apparently not! This is not family by the way.
She came to my house!! Seriously?!? Why would you go to someone's house when they have ignored you for a week??? I would never have done that! I think that is so rude. She knew I was annoyed by the attitude in my voice that day, no question there...![](/Content/images/emotes/angry.gif)
Would you go to someone's house uninvited like that? I guess I am going to have to be rude to her for her to get the hint which is what I was TRYING to avoid in the first place. Ugh, I hate getting into confrontations...But I am not dealing with her coming here either whenever she feels like it! What am I supposed to do now? Help!
![](/Content/images/emotes/angry.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/confused.gif)
7 people like this
23 responses
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
21 Jul 12
The only thing you could do is just lay it all out to her and be done with it once and for all. I don't like confrontations either, but sometimes we just have to get into them to either clear the air or and something that needs ending.
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Jul 12
I know. I knew that was what would have to be done but man, I hate dealing with her. She is so dramatic and she loves confrontation unlike me. She wants to fight over everything! She is going to make such a big deal out of it...
But your right, she will NOT stop until I do this. =( I wish I could hire someone to handle my fights for me. Lol.
2 people like this
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
12 Aug 12
Unfortunately no one else could do the argument for you. Have your husband there for moral support. Look, once its out in the open and its off your chest, you will feel better. But hold your ground and do not let anyone knock you down. With this situation you need to just say your peace and not worry what she will say. Close her out on that. Use selective hearing. You need to relieve this stress.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Jul 12
Lovingmy babies do what you should have done.Tell her, so and so since you have treated me like dirt, we are no longer friends so do not pester me or I will ask for a restraining order against you.
You really have to stand up to someone like that that will not take no for an answer.I would never go to someones house specially if
I had been rude.If she keeps annoying you just make out a restraining order against her at the police station.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/hugs.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/hugs.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/hugs.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/hugs.gif)
2 people like this
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
21 Jul 12
Insolent people are like that, Loving, making a rock from one small stone. Don't allow her to control your acts against just, just because she is a drama queen.
She is probably trying to manipulate you also like that. Because you know her character and you would never want the scandal she is able to make, continuing being insolent as hell and trying to take advantage. Probably try to tell it softer like ... You are crossing the line, this is no longer friendship or something softer which she will not be able to use and make her drama theater from.
1 person likes this
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Jul 12
I know Hatley, I so know your right. I wish you could come here and do it for me! Lol. She is just that type of person that you really do not want to get into a confrontation with because she is so dramatic and loud, super obnoxious. Ugh, I was so trying to avoid that route. ![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbdown.gif)
Can't my life ever be the easier way out? Lol. If after I tell her she does not stop because I know she won't then I will have to take one out on her...
![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbdown.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/sad.gif)
1 person likes this
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
25 Jul 12
If someone actually showed up at my home, I wouldn't answer the door. And if they continued to hang out on my front step, or worse, starting pounding on the door, I'd call the police and let them know that someone is at my home and making me uncomfortable. I just say that I'm a single woman and that I'm not sure who's outside, but they're loud and I'm scared. Tell them that you're home alone with young children and then the police can come and deal with removing her from your home. But make sure you teach your kids that they are never to go to the door or window.
I also hate drama...I actually moved 65 miles AWAY from the drama kings and queens in my life because I was sick of it. But if someone is really bothering me, I let them know...and then I walk away. I just don't have the time or energy for that kind of crap any more.
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Aug 12
Yeah that is what I should have done. I have a problem with being mean or doing things like that though. I am WAY too nice and if someone evil comes along they seem to sense it quick about me! I hate that.
My children are finally starting to learn that they stay away from the windows and doors when someone is knocking. We have way too many crazy people in this neighborhood and I am paranoid about it.
I hate drama so much! I try to stay away from it as much as possible. I deal with a lot of people from my babysitting services so I never know who I will meet or what they will be like unfortunately.
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
12 Aug 12
The person I most wanted to forget actually called me on Friday and left me a message. That's my ex-boyfriend-we were together seven years and he just stopped calling me (although I had planned to break up with him the next time I saw him). He acted like it was before-no explanations, no apologies. My whole head is in turmoil because of it, and basically since then a number of other bad things have been happening.
That's good that your lessons are sinking in with the kids; it's a shame that we have to teach them to behave like that though. I hope things improve and that this nutcase leaves you and your family alone!
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
If this person is starting to really bother you to a point, then i think I'll threaten her to a restraining order if I was in your case. I wouldn't want to have to be worried about somebody appearing in my doorstep all the time unexpectedly, especially if all that someone ever brings is trouble or problem.
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
I know it's hard to stoop down to some people's level and be the way you aren't normally, but sometimes it just has to be done. I learned it through the years and in a very hard way. I am known to be Mr. Nice Guy and I have always been taken advantage of, so I get a lot of this, but when I started being rude and started reacting differently, people started waking up and realized that they just can't go on doing what they're doing and had to slow down or back out entirely.
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Jul 12
Yes I was just trying to avoid that situation. I hate confrontations so much! She brings out the worst in me! Yes she is trouble and causes so many problems.
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Jul 12
That is exactly it. I don't want to act anything like her and when she pushes my buttons (which she is good at) I go off as if I am as immature as she is!! She is one of only a very few people that can get me angry like that! But I know if I stand up for myself sometimes some people will learn they cannot take advantage of me anymore...
@suzzy3 (8341)
•
21 Jul 12
Do not answer the door,stay inside.She sounds like a real wind up.Or maybe she really does not know what she has done.Keep letting her down ,forget you had to meet her,have a headache ect she will soon get fed up and find someone else to drive round the bend.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Jul 12
Yeah, with my kids here that is going to be hard. Whenever someone knocks on the door they say mommy someone's here so she will know we are home! =(
I wish she would get the hint and just disappear!!
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
21 Jul 12
We don't make appointments with our friends before guest visitation here. It is just not one of our habits and not every time the guests we have are invited.
But I understand your situation very good, because nearly the same thing happens to me and my landlord sometimes. It's not only that he comes once a month to take the rent, but he always ring the bell when he is having some work around the building or here at the building. It's so so annoying and specially for those who we try to avoid and they are coming like it's all good and you are best friends ever who appreciate every minute together.
I don't know how good I will be in giving advices, having in mind that sometimes I am at the same situation, but why don't you keep her on the door telling her that you have things to do at home and you are having zero time at that day to chit chat with her. Or just when you hear the bell show your face on the door again and tell her you are leaving for a super important thing you have to do alone (to avoid offers from her to come with you for a company).
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
21 Jul 12
Just now I saw what you answered to Gifts little bit earlier and I would say now she doesn't worth your attention at all. Telling you you are a bad mom, wanting to sleep with your husband, then I would just ask a woman like that - what do you want from me then?
I had no idea about all of these things staying behind your attitude about her. But I know that I wouldn't survive keeping myself calm if I was wearing your shoes.
2 people like this
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Jul 12
Here unless your family you call and let the person know your coming, even my family call before they come. But that is wanted guests too, not someone who you want nothing to do with at all. She knew I was mad, I had an attitude which I don't usually have.
It is very annoying having someone come over that you do not want there when you don't even know their coming. I am going to have one heck of a time getting rid of her!!
I am going to try your suggestions, hopefully she will leave. With her though, who knows! Thanks! =)
1 person likes this
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Jul 12
Yeah she has some nerve! She seems to think these things are okay apparently?!? No, she just thinks she is entitled to do and say whatever she wants! I cannot stand her seriously.
That is why I cannot stand her... All of the things she has said and done to me, so over it.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
22 Jul 12
In your kindest voice , tell her to f@ck off! In other words tell her to leave you alone and Never , Ever come to your house! Sometimes you Have to be direct. I hope it works out . Let me know.
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
22 Jul 12
Me too. But if I were , there would be So many missing people!
All you can do is be direct and truthful. I wish you could hire me too, lol.
![](/Content/images/emotes/devil.gif)
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Jul 12
I wish I could hire you to do it for me! Lol. I have such a hard time doing things like that. I have the hardest time saying things like this. I wish she just would disappear. That would make my life SO much easier! I wish I could be a witch sometimes...
1 person likes this
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@clrumfelt (5490)
• United States
22 Jul 12
Could she possibly have come to apologize? If she didn't and if this woman is stalking or harassing you and coming uninvited onto your property, you should threaten to call the police and then do it if she won't back off.
@celticeagle (164045)
• Boise, Idaho
21 Jul 12
She obviously doesn't get it. Maybe she is so demented that she thinks you will put up with anything. Maybe she isn't one to avoid a situation. Did you tell her you wanted nothing more to do with her. Or, did you leave it up in the air so she doesn't know for sure even yet? If you feel this way tell her!
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@celticeagle (164045)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Jul 12
You will find that being upfront and honest with people will help people respect you much better. They will know that what you say is what you mean. Sure I will tell her. What me to email her? Not a problem!
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Jul 12
She is pretty darn demented so who knows! Lol. I told her a while ago but then she came marching her stupid butt back into my life!
I know I should just come out and say it again but she is the most difficult person I have EVER met.
I need to hire someone to tell her so she leaves me alone and I won't have to deal with it anymore! Any volunteers?
Lol! Your tougher than I am celtic, you could take her for me! Lol.
![](/Content/images/emotes/whistle.gif)
1 person likes this
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@velentina (891)
• Mauritius
23 Jul 12
I have been to this kind of situation recently. A friend of mine kept threatening me on the phone and each time he comes to my house to argue with me. I did ignore that person but he is continuing to pester me. So now on I keep all the doors of my house closed with key. If he knocks at my door I do not respond. Several times he came and knocked my door but I stayed hidden. He is tired now and has stopped coming at my place. And of course I have changed my mobile number.
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
25 Jul 12
Velentina-that's not a friend at all! Friends don't argue with one another, or threaten you. It sounds like he was a stalker-and they're dangerous. I'm so sorry to hear that you went through such a scary time but I'm glad to hear it's over now.
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Jul 12
I'm sorry you went through that too! It is the worst feeling ever. I am going to have to keep ignoring her and the door if she comes here. Eventually she will get tired of it and if that doesn't work I will have to tell her plain and simple to get lost!
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Jul 12
I hope she does get the hint! I am sick of her and her drama. I have been ignoring her, I wish she would just disappear and leave me alone! I am soooo tired of her and her issues.
@deazil (4730)
• United States
22 Jul 12
This is a bad situation for you. But one thing that will help you is NOT to get sucked into a discussion with her. People like this usually put you on the defensive and suck you into defending yourself or giving them excuses for whatever. But it doesn't matter what you are saying because they've gotten what they want -- you RESPONDING to them. Refuse to say anything except that she is unwelcome in your life. And, as suggested by others, a restraining order is a good thing. If it makes you feel any better -- most people don't like confrontation. It's a difficult thing for a lot of people. Hope this helps.
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Jul 12
It is a bad situation. I hate it! That is EXACTLY how she is, she wants to argue with me. She LOVES the drama and the problems. It is what she lives for! As crazy as that seems that is the way she is.
Thank you, it has helped. =)
@BabyCheetah (1911)
• Australia
22 Jul 12
Wow what you need to do is just be blunt and tell her even though it is hard to do with a person like that. If she continues to show up on your doorstep tell her you will call the police to remove her from your property and if it still continues then you could probably get a restraining order since you will have past history with getting the police involved!
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Jul 12
I know, I just HATE that option. She loves fighting and drama so this will be her dream come true! I swear she loves causing problems.
Everywhere she goes, trouble finds her.
Yeah I will have to take drastic actions on her.
@BabyCheetah (1911)
• Australia
23 Jul 12
Well I hope everything works out for the best, and by the best I mean you getting rid of that pest ![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
@nightrevolt (2)
• Brazil
23 Jul 12
That was really rude indeed,but you should try to forgive people,even knowing the did bad things to you youll feel better if you just forget what happened,forgive him and move on with you life.Thats a really really deep opinion.
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Jul 12
Well I have forgiven her but that does not mean I have to associate with her...
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Jul 12
Yeah, I think most people would have gotten the clue but I think she did it on purpose. I think she knew I was ignoring her and she came here to tick me off! That is the kind of person she is...
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
22 Jul 12
Perhaps this is an example of "getting too close" to someone,who was not family.
I'm not in favor of close friendship, and the problems of such relationships are often discussed here. Friends are great when kept at a distance, but intimate friends are trouble waiting to happen. In this case the rude woman apparently felt she was on intimate terms, which is what often happens when two unrelated persons become 'too close!'
@shorty08322 (1270)
• United States
22 Jul 12
will it look lie you got someone after ur man and for her to come to ur home that is nt good i would call the cops and tell them that this woman is at my door and i dnt knw her and she want my hubby and then i would go to him and ask him do he knw anything about her becouse she wouldn't be coming in last she is crazy and u say she was a friend for one you let her in and gave here stuff that is a nono you dnt do that you can be friend but dnt share everthing now she is after ur man and she putting you down will i would like what i have startded and close that part dnt never let some play u becouse if you start now it will never end and if you gave her money or what ever you dnt have to be rule let her knw where you stand at
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
25 Jul 12
I never gave her anything. She always asks for me to babysit for free for her and I always said No! She got mad about that and stopped talking to me for a while which I was grateful for! Then, she got over that and talked to me again where she insisted on treating me like garbage. I decided enough was enough. She will not leave me alone though...
@much2say (54804)
• Los Angeles, California
22 Jul 12
I have no idea what the entire situation is. But I will say some people just don't get the hint . . . ignoring this person may not be enough. I hate confrontations too, but sometimes you have to tell a person to their face exactly what you want or don't want or otherwise they don't get the message. And if it's too hard to tell them verbally, leave a message or text them . . . or send an old fashion note to them to BUH-BYE!
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Jul 12
This girl has gotten mad at me for not babysitting for her for FREE, she told me she wants to sleep with my husband, told me I am a bad mother, lied to me I cannot even count how many times!, loves drama, ONLY calls when she needs or wants something, etc...That is the way she is.
Unfortunately, she is not getting the hint. I was hoping she would because I don't want the drama of her in my life and I don't want the fighting or arguing which is why I want her to disappear!! She loves the fighting, loves the drama. She will just love me telling her that and she will drag the situation on and on. Just the thought of it turns my stomach.
I am probably going to have to just tell her so she gets the point. I really think she knew I was ignoring her and she came over just to tick me off! That is the way she is. I have never met anyone more screwed up than this girl, seriously...
@surfer222 (1714)
• Indonesia
22 Jul 12
Probably she need something from you. People who come to you out of nowhere usually want something from you. I experienced the same thing. I used to be friend with this guy in college, but after graduation he join some weird cult that scare me, so i no longer contact him. Suddenly he visit my house. First few visit he said that he just want to hang out with old friend, but i got a strange vibe from him. After several visit then he start to talk about his new community and want me to join him. Because i feel something isn't right, i just reject the offer nicely. But he didn't give up that easily, he keep on coming to my house every now and then. I never open my house for him again, when he rang the bell i just leave it until he left.
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Jul 12
That is the only time she EVER bothers with me is when she needs or wants something so that is exactly my point. That is the only time she wastes my time with her presence. I wish she would just disappear!
Yeah, I have kids though so whenever someone is here they say mommy someone is at the door! And they yell it so anyone can hear from outside so I cannot even get away with ignoring it or anything... =(
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
22 Jul 12
Hi friend, may be she is interested in your friendship, i wonder how a person have the ability to go the house of an unwilling host? she is very much different in this sort. It is really hard to deal with this kind of persons
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Jul 12
No she was never a friend at all. She always used me. She only calls or comes around when she needs something. That is not a friend! She is a VERY hard person to deal with...
![](/Content/images/loading.gif)