Worst part of friendship : misunderstandings
By Gautam1002
@Gautam1002 (730)
India
July 21, 2012 3:08pm CST
I love this relation.It is self made, equally nourished by all, and the passion to take it forward is immense but then something goes wrong..
I am taking admission in a very good college of my country. A friend of mine is joining a college too, but not that well reputed as is mine. I am at no point boasting this fact. But then he doesn't like everytime the topic of college comes. Even I do not like, but this thing often gets started by a third source and things start to spoil thereafter. I can't help. He is very good in some other fields which I do not have any idea about but studies is the field more people here respect...and though I am given the credit for my achievements, I do not feel like enjoying it...how would you deal with this situation. There is no jealousy or any evil thoughts in an of us...but still things are deteriorating..
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3 responses
@celticeagle (168369)
• Boise, Idaho
21 Jul 12
When this comes up again I would hurriedly change the subject. The smart ones will understand and the others will have to suffer. A friend is a friend even when such things happen. And they try to put themselves in the same realm as their friend and make it ias easy as they can.
@Gautam1002 (730)
• India
22 Jul 12
Yes ofcourse, I do really same. I try and get rid of this topic. But sometimes things get worse. Everytime doing the same thing makes my friend feel that I am extra kind towards him. Although he is a calm person by nature, any person may get disturbed by receiving sympathy from his friend despite of knowing that I am just trying to avoid for our betterment. He will remain my friend howsoever bad the condition is. He also tries his level best to deal with this topic smartly, but then a few strokes are enough to spoil a thing..
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@celticeagle (168369)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Jul 12
You should just stand by your ideas. Don't let anyone change who you are or how you think. Friends will just have to understand.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
22 Jul 12
Friendship will never last if there is any misunderstanding. Faith on each other is very very important. Relationship of the friendship is like the hands and eyes. If there are tears in the eyes hand automatically reach to wipe it of and if the hand had any pain then obviously eyes are full with tears.Nice relationships are like breathing an air , you will never see them but always feel their presence and that is the beauty of friendship.
@Gautam1002 (730)
• India
22 Jul 12
Thank you. I too believe that friendship has eternal power in itself. In my case I am left helpless. I hope things come to track soon. Our even unspoken words are hurting each other. I do not have courage to open this topic in front of him. I feel I will hurt him even more. It is a difficult patch I am going through and I know it is the matter of a week or so. Hopefully we can manage it by then.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
21 Jul 12
Gautam:
Friends are to be accepted as they are. Each of us have different abilities. We can be of use for some of his needs. similarly he will be able to help us. the world is big the role we have is limited and let us play that role properly and leave the balance to others to do and enjoy. good day.
@Gautam1002 (730)
• India
22 Jul 12
Thank you sir for your response. I appreciate your words. The only thing is sometimes in life you get stuck in a position where you don't find any solution to your issues. This time its friendship. I know what I am worried for is just a matter of a week or so, everything sorts out thereafter, but I wanted to know from you people and learn myself what one should come up with when he is in such a situation.