problems with in laws' side
By windy_28
@windy_28 (16)
Singapore
July 22, 2012 8:15am CST
im a full time housewife looking after my toddler,and had always been on bad terms with my hubby's family after the birth of my child till now..dunno if it's me or what..hope someone can help advise..
1) upon discharge from the hospital,i couldn't even carry my bb.my mother in law (mil) insisted on carrying my child and best of all,my hubby told her "no one would fight with u,go ahead"..no one bothered to ask if i wanted to carry my OWN child anot!but i kept quiet and tolerated this..
2) well his family visited often,and when i bfeed my bb,they were unhappy and complained why was i doing that so early before 9pm?why can't i do it when my child wants to sleep?stupid right?how can she feed when she's asleep?nuts man!
3) whenever all of us (including them) went out to wherever or whenever,they would keep carrying my bb and i never had the chance to hold her. :
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@Mashnn (4501)
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22 Jul 12
I would not like someone taking over my child and dedicating to me what I need to do. I bet as a mother you really understand what is important and what you can do best for your child. I would suggest you to sit down with your husband and let him know that you are not happy with the way his family is treating you. You have the right as the mother of the child to decide what is good for your daughter and not his family.
@windy_28 (16)
• Singapore
23 Jul 12
thanks mashnn,i had tried talking to my hubby bt he got very angry at me when he felt i was talking bad about his family..so u see?nothing works..plus he never works in tandem with me whenever i need his support.for instance,when i tried setting a routine bedtime for my child and asked him for help,he refused saying that it was unnecessary..he said "just rock her to sleep when she's ready".. :
@windy_28 (16)
• Singapore
24 Jul 12
dear mashnn,
thanks but i think whatever i suggest that will impact/affect his family will just make him/them more unhappy.actually since im taking care of my daughter full time currently so most of my time is spent with her in the daytime.plus my hubby hinted that my daughter already spends most of her time with me daily,so it makes me feel bad if i had to request for more time w her..haiz..so i gotta keep thinking of his family and always getting out of the way whenever they visit so that i dun "get in the way" of their playtime with my precious..dun tink it's me thinking too much,cos each time my mil visits she always chases me away from my bb and says she can "look after" her single-handedly for the rest of the day...:
