Almost the first baby...
By janedell
@jndlponti (2402)
Philippines
July 22, 2012 10:27am CST
I had this co worker in our office who just got married last March. She announce that she was already two months pregnant last February. But just a month after her wedding she was admitted to the Hospital for an operation of removing the dead fetus inside her. She was devastated. Depressed for much elaboration. She and her husband had a lot of plans for that baby already.
People say "it's okay you can have another baby again"...well that might be true. But what hurt her a lot was that she do not know what is the cause of her baby's death.
It was like this, when they went to the OB for her regular check up, the doctor just announce "fatal death" without any other explanations. They were dismissed with a lot of questions in the head.
The issue here in that, she was asking. "well she blame her doctor for the death of her baby"?
4 responses
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
Well, some succeeds and some failed. but how come they couldn't wait to get married first? maybe their hectic schedule of them has caused the baby to die. my mom had two miscarriages before I was born. there's always a problem in pregnancy when it comes to some women. but the thing is that no woman should be too busy when their having a child, 
@kezabelle (2974)
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22 Jul 12
It is not the doctors fault, sadly babies die its heartbreaking but i understand her need to find someone to blame, otherwise we sit and blame ourselve. It is human nature to want a reason and blame for something so awful.
Its devastating you dont just lose your child you lose the future you had planned :(
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
That is exactly what I can see now to her. She loose a lot of weight after that. Maybe because of depression and she always checks with pregnancy test weather or not she is already pregnant again. I think she really was too ready to be a mom for that baby and was devastated for loosing her first child..She sometimes say maybe she was not very careful with the first one. She wanted to make it up if she get another chance to be pregnant.
@Mashnn (4501)
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22 Jul 12
Had she been checked before to make sure that she did not have any medical problem. I have a friend who lost their baby this way because of hypertension. It is always good to do a thorough medical checkup before deciding to have a child.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
i think she did not. She only had medical check up I think on her first month of pregnancy. It was actually conceive before marriage. They were not actually expecting for it.
@musicluv4life (1867)
• United States
22 Jul 12
that would be so hard for anyone to go through.
My dads girlfriend had a miss carriage and that was pretty hard on her too.
I hope for her she will be able to have another child.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
I hope that too. So she could overcome the pain whatever she is carrying in her heart right now.
